C10 - Sunday News, August 30, 1981

Become

QUESTION: I must give you ome sentence or so about myself before I ask my question. I am in my mid- thirties:and since I was about 19 I have been on a search for the fulfiliment of my life. For several years | have felt richly rewarded because |!

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have been aware that I have become more and more aware of the meaning of life and have become _ very happily better acquainted with my real self. I have had the experience of “knowing” that I was a part of love and truth and joy and meaning.

i was not conceited about

it all, but extremely grateful |

and forward looking. Then the bottom fell out. Now I'm ready to ask my question. How do I get going again? For reasons I can’t fathom | suddenly became dull and listless and negative and

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depressed. So much that had cheered me about myself and about life just seemed to disappear. [ve been in a “dry and weary land” for nearly two months now.

What do I do? How do |! snap out of it? Have you got any formula for the recovery of a person who has known the abundant life and now is a hopeless blah?

STEWART: Sorry, I have no formula’ for And

he change you want to see ha

dynamic for you as you say, you will remember that no one had a formula for you then either. It was all within you. And it still is. You don't need to search for something from outside yourself. Shelley said,

Rather consists in opening outa way

Whence the imprisoned splendor may escape,

Than in effecting entry for a light

pen

Receive yourself lovingly right now, while you feel like a hopeless blah. Then you'll be able to ask yourself what changes you want within yourself. One of these days, you'll “know” it is your time to “be the change you want to see happen.”

At that time you will be ready to emerge again. But as you do, be grateful for the dry and weary land that was home for you at a time of nurturing. All the resources of your dynamic days are

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BS

He's no chicken

Become

QUESTION: Some of my

friends are shoplifting sort of that are shoplifting don’t a few kids who are not of BC's just for the fun of it. They want my other friends to creative enough to think of a ec: 8 ® a WIZ ZELUNS aren't swiping expensive know they're shoplifting and way to have fun other than Childrens

things but just going for the kicks of getting away with swiping something. Well now the hard part is that

they are trying to suck me _ Iam too. But what can a guy Sometimes it takes an awful 250 West Soth nyenue to visit her & Julie

into shoplifting. I don’t like do? Especially I don't like lot of gumption to be in aySX 1X2 ‘a at her salon in

the idea at all. the girls calling me chicken, charge of your own life, and Edgemont Village Ss First of all I'm scared of especially the ones who are sometimes a guy gives in to at 4 —_ (formerly The Clip ‘sss "

getting caught but also I just not shoplifting and don't others because he is yellow ®y , 4 VY Joint Too) GILLIAN

think it's wrong and 1 know why they are calling tothe core.

shouldn't do it. So I just don't turn up bat then I get the chicken treatment all the time. They call me chicken all the time and they tell my other friends ['m_ chicken and they don’t know why I'm

chicken because my friends

that that’s what I'm chicken about. So [ve got everyone

thinking ['m chicken. I guess

me chicken.

STEWART: I'll bet some of the guys and girls who are in on the shoplifting have been suckered into it because they did not want the chicken treatment. Which takes

more guts? To go along with

ripping off someone else, or to stand up to a bunch of your friends who are yelling “Chicken!’’ at you?

It is termbly hard to stand up against your friends’ efforts to run your life, but the guy who does it is no chicken believe you me. My hat’s off to you. Hang in there!

Bothered by astrology

QUESTION: It bothers me

open mind and perhaps. perhaps it was Satum. And that people keep asking me someday, become a tad who knows, that could be what my signis. Why dothey = more intelligent) on the _ pretty darn important. Note:

do thar? It's a nuisance | think, and it seems to be

subject. Someone once told

lam notreally making fun of

me my moon was ascendant = astrology. | am making fun increasing. Every second tor was it descendant?) or 9 of my contended ignorance person | meet says, “What's

your sign?” I dont even

know what my sign is. I've always been led to believe that astrology is a sort of fun thing that shouldn't be taken

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