40 - Sunday, December 1, 1991 - North Shore News

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WEDNESDAY

Dec. 4-Colin’s Smile Bone Marrow Society, 7 p.m., Eric Hamber School, 5025 Willow St., Van. Info: 224-0708.

oee Dec. 4~Ongoing to Dec. 10. Tickets available for a 4 hr. caroling cruise on the SS Beaver, Dec. #1, 6:30 p.m. Proceeds to B.C. Friends. of Schizophrenics. !nfo: 270-7841.

eee Dec. 4-Ongoing to Dec. 19. Early bird tickets sales, $7, for **Aladdin”, a traditional Xmas pantomime with slapstick fun for the entire family, presented by the Deep Cove Stage Gang at Presentation House. Run dates: Dee. 19-23 & Dec. 27-30. Info & sickets: 986-1351.

eee Dec. 4—Ongoing. Networking group, chastered in 1968, invites new members to the noon meetings at the Avaion Hotel. Info: Sue Akester, 988-1863.

eve Dee. 4--Ongoing. Retinitis Pigmentosa support & information sessions. Info: Laurine Nickel, 987-8366.

eee Dec. 4-Ongoing alternate Wed. Red Cross Creations Group Mecting. ‘All welcome to create crafts, with supplied material, for charity. bazaars. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. at recCentre Delbrook,

Knitters needed. Info: Betty, 987-3819.

eee Dec, 4-Ongoing to Dec. Relationships & Personal Identity Support Group. 3-5 p.m., L.Valley Centre, 200-1200 Lyon Valley Rd., N.V. Info: 987-4673.

eee Dec. 4-Ongoing to Dec. ti. W.V. Caregiver Support Group, meeting for people caring for ill or aging relatives, 1:30-3:30 p.m., 275-2ist St., W.V. In- fo: 922-1575,

eoe Dec. 4-Ongoing. Choir practice, adult conmmunity choir, tenor & bass members welcome, 7:30 p.m., Min. Seymour United Church, 1200 Parkgate St., N.V. Info: 926-3975,

eee Dec. 4-Ongoing. Learn to square dance, 7:50 p.m. W.V. YMCA, i735 Inglewood Ave., W.V. No YMCA membership requized, many levels available. info: caller/instructor, Doreen Sillery, 987-5397.

eee Dee. 4--Ongoing. Under 35 Singles’ Discussion Group. Developing in- timacy with one’s self & others. Info: 988-5717.

oes Dec. 4-Ongoing. Kidfinders needs volunteers to help at special events. Info: 251-4332.

@ee Dec. 4--Ongoing. Lynn Canyon Ecology Centre. Open daily, 10 a.m.-5 p.m. 3663 Park Rd., L. Canyon Park. Displays, free films, events. Info: 987-5922.

Adoption counselling and workshop groups offered

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very hard at resolving their anger, and that’s when they often begin a search.

The reasons for searching vary.

“Sometimes it’s curiosity about their heritage,’’ says Gibb-Carsley. “Or perhaps they are in search of

~ medical information — very often

when an adopted person is think- ing of having a child, he or she is thinking of their genetic background, and that can spur on a search.”’

Other times, adoptees want more. information about themselves.

Says Gibb-Carsley, ‘“They often use the metaphor of a puzzle, say- ing there are integral pieces miss- ing, and they want to feel whole and connected.”’

Whatever the reasons, it is clear the parties should understand what their motivation is before searching for someone who, in many ways, is a complete strang- er.

Jardine says, ‘‘My biggest

mistake was that 1 wanted to be a savior and save my family —. to . take away all those hard years, ! didn’t really appreciate that my

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family was dysfunctional when I was apprehended, and would probably still be dysfunctional when I met them.*’

After locating their biological family, most birth parents and adoptees report that their initial impulse is to jump on an airplane and go. But caution is advised.

Gibb-Carsley says, “The feed- back ! very often get is, I wish I had gone mcre slowly.”’

Some prefer to exchange letters and perhaps photographs, and then talk by telephone before ar- ranging a face-to-face reunion.

Whatever the outcome, most people report they are glad when finally reunited with their family of origin.

“Even a painful experience is positive,’’ says Jardine. “It’s bet- ter than not knowing.””

In addition to offering search and reunion counselling, Gibb- Carsley is organizing a six-week group for adopted teenagers called Teens Talk About Adoption that started Nov. 26, Other groups and courses for adoptive parents are also offered.

For more information, contact the Post-Adoption Counselling Program at 926-7851. (Part one of a two-part series on adoption).

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WHAT’S GOING ON

THURSDAY

Dec. 5--La Leche League Meeting. In- formation, support & networking for women interested in breastfeeding. 10 am., N.S. Unitarian Church, 370 Mathers Ave., N.V. Two groups available on the N.S. Info: 985-3751, eee Mec. $--Ongoing. TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly), friendly support group meeting, 8:45-9:30 a.m., St. Andrews Hall, 1044 St. Georges Ave.. N.Y. Info: 980-6907.

Dec. 5--Ongoing to Dec. 12. Volunteer training, teeas & adults with special needs will learn volunteer skills, 7-9 p.m., N.V. YMCA. Info: 986-0388.

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Communication is:the key to finding your best look. Taik to your stylist or esthetician about your needs. Then listen to their ideas. And discover how their professional skills can help find your most beautiful ‘you’. Licensed members of the Hairdressers’ Association of B.C. participate in shows, seminars and competitions. They're always in tune with what's new and what's current. The result? You'll love the

BRAKE & MUFFLER

Dec. S--Ongoing. Adult pleasure skating, reCentre Magnussen, live organ music, 8:15-10:15 p.m. lafo: 934-9341 or 987-9694,

eee Dec. 5--Ongoing. N.S. Amateur Radio Club. Meeting first & third Thurs. of each month. 7:30 p.m., Pacific Marine Training Institute, 265 W. Esplanade, Rm. 103. Non-hams welcome. Info: B. Thompson, 985-2570 or M. Alsop, 929-3990.

For more Coming Events see first page of Classifieds. For arts and entertainment listings sce the Around Town column in Wed- nesday’s North Shore Now sec- tion,

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‘SOMETHING TO SING ABOUT’ The Dogwood Chorus of Sweet Adelines has the distinct privilege to announce the new Director- ship of Ms. Patty Cotton. Her 32

years bely her musical

and expertise. Born into a fami- ly of Barbershop’ performers, she has a sharp ear and high expec- tations.

In the past, she has taken choruses to international com- petitions twice as the winning representatives of the westem Canadian region.

capability and determination as a leader. Her style can best be described as a harmonious blend of energy and enthusiasm.

We of this 4 part harmony chorus wish to extend an open invitation to the young and young-at-heart. in our North Shore community to join us. Please phone

Linda 929-7061 or ' Jan 986-7864

Come see us at Lonsdale Quay Thursday, Dec. 12, 7-8 pm