AlO - Friday, June 1, 1984 - North Shore News

CROSS-FIRE

ZS = By ELLSWORTH DICKSON

oday we present two different perspectives on

love, marriage and the singles life. Father Ron Barnes is a married man who has developed a highly-acclaimed marriage preparation course. Rudy Lechlieter is a very suc- cessful artist and a bachelor.

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I many divorces today because people are not looking for a long- term marriage, but some kind of immediate self- centered satisfaction. When they discover that marriage 1S more giving than receiving, they get discouraged and give up. Marriage is a unique relationship in which one person takes responsibility for the other’s growth.

When you reach the point where you care more for your partner’s growth than your own, and recognize that your part- ner is caring for you likewise, then the mar- riage ceases to be self- centred.

But 1 do recognize that in some cases divorce is necessary and should take place without the terrible legal and emotional bat- tles that sometimes occur.

opposing views on the issues of the day

It’s true that marriage is not for everyone, and | don’t mean just monks and priests. Although the vast majority of people will continue to marry, there is nothing wrong with being single.

One of the main benefits in marriage is having a spouse to relate to in a deep, intimate way. The whole point in being alive is relationships, not getting things.

For the future, | think our society is being fragmented. There are those who recognize the importance of a successful relationship, but then there will be those not willing to put in enough effort and prefer to flit from flower to flower.

When a couple is com- mitted to each other, there is a special freedom to be yourself because you love and accept each other.

think there are so ] many divorces because people marry for the wrong reasons. Speaking as a bachelor, | guess it tends to scare me off. It could happen to me. I have seen couples marry young, then grow in different directions. Or perhaps they just focused on the romancing and did not consider all that has to go into a marriage.

You can’t change the personality of your part- ner. You have to love them the way they are or there will always be that stumbling block. It wouid be lhke hoping for a bargain after you have paid.

I don’t think every per- son is meant to be mar- tried. Although things seem to be set up for couples, there is no hard

OVER FIVE YEARS

N. Van district will remove unsafe playground asphalt

ASPHALT SURFACES under

swing sets are

destined to become a thing of the past in North Vancouver District playgrounds — in five years,

that is.

Acting on a request from Council that the potential hazards of comcrete or

asphalt surfaces under swing sets be studied, District staff produced a_ report which

and fast rule. Once 1 reached the age of 30, | felt free of the social pressure to be marnied and have children.

It is important to be successful and indepen- dent as an_ individual before you can be suc-

cessful in marriage.

The benefits of being single are that you can run your own life and live as you please, whatever you

By JOANNE MacDONALD

compared the harder mate- rials with the more resilient sand or bark mulch.

The report said that bark mulch or sand have not been

can afford. Marriage has many obligations.

The tough part of being single is becoming lonely at times and not being able to share my _ ac- complishments and ex- periences with a partner.

For the future, I think more single people are looking for some kind of stability in their life witha more old-fashioned view of love.

used under such playground equipment as swings or slides because it is easily scuffed out by the equip- ment users. With the natural soil then being exposed, in- juries as serious as those sustained on asphalt have

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Father ‘Ron Barnes

St. Clements Anglican Church

Rudy Lechlieter Artist and Bachelor

occurred.

In addition, the sand is often soiled by local animals and, along with the bark mulch, can often conceal objects likely to cause serious injuries to children falling upon the material.

However, studies con- ducted by other agencies over the past few years have verified that playground in- juries have proven to be more serious when = non. resilient surfaces are used.

School Districts have been informed by ICBC that ‘‘the ground surface under equipment with a ‘fall height’ exceeding 1.2 metres shall offer some resilience, 250mm of sand or 150mm of bark mulch are acceptable .”’

There are currently 14 out

of 33° playgrounds tn the District which still have asphalt surfaces. The re-

maining 19 have either bark mulch, sand or a combina tion of both. A combination of gravel, mixed with sand and bark mulch has also been used in some playgrounds.

Distnct staff estimates it would cost up to $9,000 to replace the asphalt with a mixture of sand, bark mulch and pea gravel.

As a result, they recom. mended to Council that the current policy of installing resilient surfaces under new and replacement equipment be continued at the time of installation 5

By a 4-3 margin, Council passed a subsequent motion which called for the replacement of asphalt tn the remaining 14° playgrounds within the next five years

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