QUESTION: Several months age, you received a letter emplaining ‘about surly, impolite checkers In super: hnarhets, You repiled to the letter in your column, Last night at a party an argument developed over that column, I clatm that you bached the person who wrote in the question and added some of your own flack tn critielim of the check-out glrls, Some of the others at the party wuld you defended the ately and ave the questioner hell, Am ryht or wrong’?

STEWART: Weonty. He: caine that partleular letter brought the most reaction of any this volun fas ree evived, | ant repeating the question and iny answer!

Freelance Counsellor, Hayden Gtewart does private counsel: ling ae well as a great deal of group work, Ho ean be contacisd at 204-6942 for

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STEWART, e/e the North Shore News, 4202-1130 Lene: dale, North Van,

Sexual frigidity can usually be overcome if properly diagnosed

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My probiten, wo 1 have hoon mofy that § am frigid, Two dovtors have told me that without any explan- ation of what 14 means and

omidyin o abous , They burn me up, Vor some vont disease thoy'll hospitalize me or give mo inedivation oy advise, but for thiv troutio, they just pro-

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UESTION: Dm ev slek and tired of the checkers tn supermarkets, ‘They are sO muller and rude. When I nian tn line waltlng sy turn to bo chachod out I see them belng nasty and cold and b the the F get to the cash ronlniar Din sirondy fastens, in going to speak to the managers of (he (wo stores | use most of the tlie and let them hnow how § feel about the serview and the attlude of the checkers. What olse ean I do?

STEWART: What else? Well, let's start with YOU. it Is people ke you who have gradually worn down the

checkers until thoy Guat ike you) are expecting a belllg: erant attitude from the tent customer it tine, How would YOU fike to be 6 checker and

QUMBTION: This mey sour stupid, but 1 keep hearin ‘tgoft drugs’ and “har druge” and i don’t know the difference, | have net tried any drugs, but if i did, what would be the difference TO

E iff emeke pot or use heroin?

STEWART: Hero's ono bly Aifference: If you had been smosing pot and for some reason important to you had devided to quit, it Is quite likely that you would be able to make it, On the other hand, if you were hooked on herein (and, by the way, you et hooked very quickly) and, or sume extromely impor. tant reason decided yuu warted to quit, It is very iikely that you would fot make it, ft is as slnple as that, Hardly anyone ever walks away from heroin, Shore are hundreds more ox -pot-sinokurs in Vancouver than thors are ox-heroln

STEWART: Ieee no reason why this paper should not tint your question, but hore is wu rathor practival rouson why it could not print my roply, There iw fuse slnply nol enough space available to this column for ino to truly answer you In any worlhwhite manner, § will have to contont mysolf with a brief commont and # sueH ostlon, The word ‘‘frigid’” tw not much more than a slang expression for a large variety of voxel inadequacies, en- poulally in women, You vould Uv, for onumple, Unselect: ively and eagerly promis uous on the one hand, or totally repolled by any sonuul autivity onthe other, and still be fabolled “frigid.” In beiweon these apparent ox. trumen ave many other sorts of sunual activity or Inactivity that could be bulked together under the heading of “frig: tay. Nt is wo whore thud seh at tiNclontific sung oxpronsion Is uned an widely

have one person ater anoth: er coming to you all day long in the frame of mind you are deseriblng? Have you ever approached the cheeker with a bit of understanding about how she feels about the Aithtudes of customer after Vustomer? Have you ever approached the loheokor with o onmile and) oa warn understanding addliuede? Forget about complaining to the managers and, Instead, change the situation your: self, BE the change you want brought about, Spread a litte youd will, Let the checker now that you understand what a hard job she tas, deallig interminatly with grouchy selfish people Ike OU. Come on Men, Serovge, loosen up, spread a Iitle love, It works!

users oven though heroln has been around for a long long time and pot only for a relatively short tle,

Another lmportant diff. erence has to do with one's life style, There are very few heroin addicts who can afford to support thelr habits for many weoks without having to resort (ao stealing of prostitution and then going hat route day after duy, year after your and feaving sot one square inch of thine oF space for joy und love and a sense of worth, Being add. feted to heroin Is not fun, 1 have known personally ale most a hundred addicts in a rotty intimate way and I've

EVER known a happy one, Onee addiction forces out joy, it rarely over finds tts way back,

Heroin Is hell, f you want a hell of 4 iifoshoot heroin,

as it Is, oven by medical mon, It mounn practloally nothing,

Now, two suggestions, 1. There is a very strong itihood that your unhappy situation can be changed for the better, (1 say this because 5 know from my own oxporionce with women who have discussed this matter with mo, that most of the time thore oun bo aw the by rosvlution of the problem, ' Arrange tu seo wo marriage vounsellor, paychologist or (another) mudivul dovtor and anh for specific holp, nut a halt-truked diugnonis, § won dor {f one of the ductors you wont to sau could have boon the on why sald to o woman wih tater became o cllont of min, “Never mind my dour, won in not overything you know,’ Some doctors are able and willing to offer unetul holy on this subject, tut you, up wruntly piehed w couple of duds, Don't give up. Now joy iy awalthing you,

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that the NHB would consider tuking stronger action If the loval counell formally deelar ed them to be “oblectlonable and therefore constitute a nulwanee,”

Oveupants of the hottse: bouts pay no municipal

tures, Ald, John Lakes wondered where thelr water supply came from, and Ald, Gordon Rose wanted to know how they disposed of thelr newage,

The letter to courrell from the ‘Tiltons asked "Who wants a bunek of shacks In thelr area? if this ts allowed...others will surely follow,

Moored at the

Our buffet has over 54 varieties of trash delisiuus seatoed dishes, the majority of whioh are caught iy loual waters, To nate a few, oysters on the Half sietl, touthwatering prawns, Alaska King Orab, dollsiaus rainbow trout, de- lighttul surrled shrithpe and vurried prawns, We also serve the landlubber delisigus tender stoake and a ohicken spedially, Huvervations suggested,

foot of Lonadale

In that case we have no recourse but to apply for a reduetion in our taxes on the

rounds that the aren is depressed and polluted,”

The committee decided a atatf member should attend a meeting with the NHB to express the district’s specific vomplalnts and report back on what NHB action may be tuken,

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