The first is rejection. Not many of us delight in having someone let us know that they are walking away from us, or that they would like it if we walked away from them. Rejection by a loved one is particulary painful.

The loved one may be a spouse, or parent, or child, or dear friend. And when such a one rejects us, we are devastated. We experience a variety of feelings. We may feel angry or afraid or bewildered or cheated. We may feel a lot of self-criticism

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CORRECTION VOLUNTEER to supervise court order visits or become a Corrections volunteer for adults or teens. North Van- couver location.

PROGRAM AIDE - CHILDREN. Do you have two or three hours to spare one day a week? Help is needed at a daycare centre tn Lynn Valley which is open 11:30 a.m. to 6 p.m. Assist with field trips, snacks, games or outdoor activities. Open during the summer.

FUNDRAISERS for a cultural organization during June are needed.

Join the North Shore com- mittee planning a November **radiothon’’.

HANDICAPPED AIDE

for a visually impaired

Senior

FROM NOW until June 15, semors in your community will be asking you to support them by pledging money for their participation in the First Annual Vancouver Semor Strut. The event has been created to promote and raise funds for sentors’ organiza- vons throughout the city

Participation in the Strutis open to anyone who is con cerned about the seniors in ther Community, to all seniors and all seniors’ Organizations Strutters wall collect pledges trom frends. telatives, neighbors and local businesses for thei participa hon in the Strut

Pledges are for participa

tion and not for distance donc So, steutters may walk yom, roll of stroll the cate route, or begin at one of the tein pomts along the route The toute selected atfords easy access. trigh visibility

or self-pity. We may feel spite or even vengefulness.

Often our pride is so hurt there seems tO grow in its place a pitiful feeling of in- adequacy or failure. Rejec- tion is not fun.

Another experience, (so different!) that some of us hate to get into is a deep in- volvement with another human being. We like friend- ships and we like being loved and giving love, but many of us are fearful of ‘‘letting go”’ to the point of risking the all-

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woman who would love a visit or a walk once a week. Uses wheelchair.

NUCLEAR WEAPONS FREE ZONE volunteer need- ed in West Vancouver area to petition for signatures. Hours flexible.

COORDINATOR for a Parents program at a Mom 'n Tot drop-in centre for one or two days a week. There are several locations on The North Shore and mothers and their young children can drop-in. The mothers partici- pate in the program and the children can play with others. Help also needed in the playroom.

For these and other in- teresting volunteer oppor- tunities, please phone Joan at 985-7138, the Volunteer Centre.

strut

and does not include any steep halls or difficult terrain. Monies raised will go to the participating seniors’ organizauion in the strutter’s community Three per cent of the money raised will be held aside for the operating cosu of the 2nd Annual Van couver Senior Strut 85

The Strut ts oa. fetsurely route, Jess than a mile in length through downtown

Vancouver Strutters 9 wall assemble at Terry Fox Plaza, BC Place at 10 amon June 1S) From there, it will proceed down Beatty St to West Creorgia St. along Georgia (oO Granville St and south on Granville to Robson

Street The Strut wall finish at Robson Square where Mayor Harcourt wall offfmrally pro

claim Sento: Strut Day 1984 Praises and cnitct

complete the

displays tarnment will

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Retired studies

UBC, ANNE AL Sumnce study program for retired people siaty andiover begins June 4 and Continucs for fous weeks on campus

There are minimal «harges for Courses in the program

which ois funded by the Sentors Lottery Assocation of Ho and there are oe vaeademic prerequisites Pat Vacbpants can register fo cave week atoa time on all tear and accommodation os as art able on canipus

Phas suse: s prcgrann an clades a Week oof Deans June TH 22 in whah five 1 BO department: heads gis costphtsoanto there field anedia

tour to the Seattle Scicnec Centre where an catibit of "OOO years of © himese tech nology oi oon display The

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Microcomputers lawn bowling great Canadian Shakespeare hitehen chemustry and the golden age of Russian

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out giving of ourselves to another person in a close relationship. There is a fear of losing control, a fear of weakening our sense of self identity.

So what happens when a person avoids the experience of an open, deep relation- ship? Such a person, even though he yearns for love (and therefore would not dream of ‘‘walking out’’ on another) is quite apt to bring about his own rejection, by engineering it deliberately or subconsciously. In other words that person would br- ing about his own rejection to

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Cll - Sunday, June 3, 1984 - North Shore News

Don’t be afraid of involvement

his piece is about two experiences that lots of people don’t want to go through.

the growing edge

by Hayden Stewart

Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242

Jor appoiniments for individual, family or group counselling.

happens’’ to spoil it.

And again, all too often, it 18 obviously because they choose to be rejected rather than choosing the risk of in- volvement. The _ benefits?

Well, they can blame so-

meone else rather than accept

responsibility, and they can

say ‘‘poor me’’ loud enough

to win support and pity. Loving ts better.

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