C8 - Sunday, April 11, 1982 - North Shore News

Devastated by a friends ' departure

QUESTION: Once in a while, one or other of your correspondents tells you he is devastated over something. That's the way I feel right now — devastated. I feel empty and alone and even a little bit frithtened. The event that has brought about my condition is the decision of a dear and valuable friend to move away to another part of the world. He has been like a mentor to me. Through my friendship with him, I have come to know a lot more about life as it can be. He has been an inspiration and a teacher and an advisor to me and now, suddenly, | am going to be without him. |

How would the

QUESTION: In your March 24 issue, Elsworth Dickson's INQUIRING REPORTER, asked the question, “What do you think of chemical warfare?” four of the five people interrogated replied by registering their op- position to chemical war- fare. The only one who gave it a reluctant approval and, only then as a last resort) was “a former chaplain”.

1. What would the good

The risk of using

QUESTION: About one of your columns of a few weeks back in which you plugged for parents not to say “Be Careful!” to thelr kids, but to say something like “Use your brains and take some risks.” Two of our friends thought you had given terrific ad- vice. The rest of us all thought you had been quite irresponsible. We could not stomach you having = the nerve to ADVISE kids to deliberately take risks. Don't you think you screwed up that time?

STEWART: Let me put i this way I'm glad all the parents in the world have not taught = all the kids in the world that they should be careful and never do anything for the first me Come to think of (1t. perhaps To did screw up | guess to encourage kids to use thei brains makes redundant the business of

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feel like a babe in the wilderness. I was just beginning to see what it's all about and now I'm to be without my guide and strength. How does a person handle such a loss of one so important to him?

STEWART: Many who read your letter will know how you feel. At first you feel so alone, don’t you? It has been great for you that you two have shared so usefully. Can you see, however, that in fact he has not given you anything more than help in your own uncovering of what you already had even before he came into your life? What he has helped you

chaplain consider to be a “last resort” and what would his argument be for using chemical warfare even as a last resort when he thinks it wrong to use it before the last resort comes along? 2.9f the Inquiring Reporter is handed a score of about 4% out of 5 op- posing chemical warfare, what is your guess the world- wide score would be? How would “THE PEOPLE” of

jJelling them to take risks. All other things being equal, if they use their brains they will take risks. Surely we are

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discover you need not be without, simply because he has moved. It is valid and natural for you to miss him, but he would be chagrined to hear you say that have lost your guide and strength and inspiration. You HAVE

what he helped you come to know.

Who knows — he may have left town because he felt he was not sharing with you in a way that left you in charge of your own life. Perhaps he felt that you (and

too many of the others) were “leaning” on him and too dependent on him. Here 1s your chance to know (right in the midst of missing him)

that everything he shared with you is YOURS, everything he gave of

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people vote?

the world vote?

STEWART: 1 God only knows the answers to your double-barreled first question. And, perhaps, the chaplain.

I wonder if either of them could help us decide what “last resort” (if any) would justify our turning our backs on a firmly held principle of life and switching to a policy (that your five readers describe as “illegal”,

“madness”, “insane”) that everyone disapproves of.”

2 My guess is that the people of the world would also vote about 4% our of 5 against the use of chemical warfare. With that sort of majority we are quite capable of peace. Of course we'll need a majority that does not switch policies too easily and one that is not at all sure that there is any such things as a last resort.

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born with the “knowing” that without risk-taking, nothing will be accomplished.

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