44 - Sunday, October 16, 1988 -

Nosth Shore News

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DEAR MISS MANNERS — I am, almost alone in my

neighborbood, a mother-at-home. Every once in a while,

one of my children’s friends’ parents needs a favor — baby-sitting, rides for their children, or some other small

help that I can readily deliver.

1 do not consider this a big deal, and no one kgs ever tried to take advantage of me in a steady or obnoxious way. On the contrary —~ and bere is my problem.

At times, some of the people have offered me money for ser- vices rendered, and I just do not feel comfortable with this. It is true that my decision not to work has caused some financial hardship at home, but my husband does

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support us all. We are not poor.

1 understand these good pzople are mocveted by the real concerns of not ever being able to reciprocate, bat I still don’t want thelr money. I have felt more com- fortabie when people have given me something from their kitchens or offered a small present to my chlid, whose friend I helped. Even. so, nothing is necessary.

I have ttood there saying, “No, thank you -— it was a pleasure io have Angela in the house’’ till I was blue im the face, but — have

bad money slipped into my pocket when my defenseless arms were fuli of hungry children, | have had snoney teft in the hands of children who were taught not to contradict grown-ups, and ¥ huve felt bad when saying shortly: ‘Please! I would feel insulted.”

Sheuld 1 just gracefully accept

the stuff and take everyone off the hook? Or do you have a suggestion for a remark that would solve the problem? GENTLE READER — The most tactful remark of all is ‘‘I’m sure you would help me out if I needed it,’ occassionally followed by a practical suggestion.

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DEAR MISS MANNERS — What I enjoy most about Mass every Sunday is the sermon, which usually lasts 10 to 15 minutes. I find it distracting when there are couples in front of me, and the man starts puiting his arm around the woman and rubbing her arm and shoulder up and down, not really paying attention to the ser-

Nice people can’t stand always —

being on the receiving end, which is why these parents are desper- ately trying to get you to accept money. However, unless you want to set yourself up professionally as the. neighborhood manager who takes in the children and the

’ packages for a stipend — not a

bad idea, by the way — you are quite right not to accept cash, in Miss Manners’ opinion. Intended or not, tipping friends for being obliging is insulting. But except for the few who have given the ap- propriate tokens of thanks you describe, these people seem unable to imagine how they could help

you.

So tell them. After saying firm- ly, “I couldn’t dream of taking your money,’? you could add, “But there’s a movie Greg and I are dying to see — if there’s a night in the next week or two that you're going to be home anyway, could we leave Daniel with you?” or “This makes it easier for me to ask you if you would mind dropp-

ing off my library books on your.

way to work.” Even if they cannot comply with the specific requests, this should establish the idea that the proper reward for kindness should be kindness.

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Do you think this is proper behavior? Maybe it is me. I was raised to be stoic in church, but I believe the Lord deserves all our attention when we are in His house, and we should show our af- fection to Him and not to our

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