48 — Wednesday, December 18, 1991 — North Shore News LIFESTYLES An inch away from ecstasy Q. MY PROBLEM is a simple one. Even after fathering three children in six years of marriage, | fear lam not satisfying my wife. i feel it is because of the smail — 5% inches — size of my penis. My wife does scot complain, but I know she nas faited to achieve (rue ecstasy with me. Since she was not a virgin at our marriage, | wonder if she has known that experience with another man. Are there any proven methods other thzna surgery to increase the size of my penis? Even if it only increased an inch “ I'm sure it would increase my wife’s sexua? enjoyment tremen- dously. 1 want te give her that more than anything in the world. “a Bravo to you for wanting to igcar your wife sexually more thieai anything in the. world. She is very lucky to have a husband who is so devoted to her pleasure. But her satisfaction is not link- ed. to penis size. Perhaps. she is noi getting enough clitoral stimu- lation during fovemaking. Ask her . to tell or show you how to touch ‘her, And, for a better view of your penis, stand in front of a full-length mirror when you are fully erect and you will see it in a new way! You should ‘stop worrying. Most men measure between five and: seven inches, so you are average. In reality, there are few very big or very large penises. Q. Why does my husband have difficulty, achieving orgasm — after -he has been holding back for a while? He doesn't like to have his - orgasm until I have had one or more. * Frequently _ during iovemaking he’ stops. the ‘stimulation to «his _penis so he can protong the expe- rience.. During a long session, he might do this many times. Then, ‘when he is ready to let go, he_ can't. - It is frustrating to both of us to ~have’ a: long” and . passionate lovemaking: session end this way. ‘What can we do about it? ' Also, “if, be doesn’t have an ‘orgasm that. night, he wakes up Dr. Ruth Westheimer ASK DR. RUTH wanting to make Jove again and I am usually not in the moad. A. Perhaps he is holding back so long that he gets past the urge to ejaculate. Why doesn't he try making love without worrying about when his orgasm occurs for. the next few weeks? Just have sex and let him ejaculate whenever he can. He can continue to stimulate you and give you as many orgasms as you want after he has ejaculated, Sometimes couples put too much emphasis on the timing of the man's orgasm. They think he has to wait to have. his: until after his partner is satisfied. This isn’t necessary as long as a man is willing to continue making love aft ter his own orgasm. ° . Q. EJ find great difficulty in reaching the peint of orgasm with my boyfriend, ’ This has happened to me often over the years, but the situation is worse now. ‘Pam 26 and my boyfriend is 50. Perhaps his age makes him Jes: patient with me than other mer have been. He says it bothers him that I can’t reach orgasm. during intercourse. I. do reach orgasm during masturbation and during lovemak- ing with a lot of clitoral stimula- tion. But i need a lot of stimula- tion! nonesuch Boutique For rnen & women FOR A GLOW IN YOUR HEART AND IN YOUR WALLET! NONESUCH OFFERS YOU UP TO Season's % e nee, Greetings to all our friends & cusiomers Lobby level, Hotel Vancouver 1457 Bellovue Ave, W. Van Delta Min. Plaza, Whistler Vil. 688-9.154 925-9454 932-5300 COMPLIMENTARY GIFT WRAPPING What can [ do to make him feel better about this? His patience is wearing thin. A. Why is he worried because you don’t have vaginal orgasms? Perhaps he is not informed about how women do have orgasms. Some older men have never been with a woman who is honest about her sexual needs. They may have been in long-lasting mar- riages with women who faked orgasms or didn't care if they had them. He may not know that most wemen do not reach orgasm dur- ing intercourse alone. Why don't you give him some books on female. sexuality? Perhaps he will be more patient if he understands the process of orgasm in women. But if educating him doesn’t make him more understanding, why would you want to put up with his at- titude? Wolo Christmas Flyer Appearing Dec. 18, 1991 CORRECTION Page 9 — Fashions. The sav- ings of 50% should have staied ‘on selected items only." Page i0 — Ladies’ Lingerie. The savings cf 40% should have stated ‘on selected items only’ Page 6 — Sporting Goods and Toys. Savings indicated are to be off the regular price, not the ticketed price. We apologize for any incon- venience this may cause. Foot Health Shoes 655 W. PENDER (Rogers Bidg.) SALE STARTS THURS., DEC. 19th - 9 A.M. 681-6844 Regular to SALE 898. 00 $6495 SELECTION OF 95 ¢ HELENA SANDALS $79.00 S46 OPEN 9 A.M. - 5:30 P.M. 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