‘Freelance: : .
Stewart | may be ‘reached at

261-6242 for appointments for
individual, family ~or group
“~eounselling.-

. the break-down. in morals,

-but I just can’t.

78.1 took:a few studies On” that.
| positive thinking and ‘read. {,,

: every. book that was on the

‘reading list, ‘but I simply a ks

-cannot find the way to be
« positive and. full of ex-

- pectations for 1979...

“The : ‘economic. situation,

. the fact that 'm well-trained
- but. without work and nearly _
broke, all these things ~
combine’ to make me feel -
: like a liar if I look forward to
" the new year. Believe me,_I _
am trying to be positive, but.
the fact is lam NOT positive

and don't want to pretend I

me in- my _
send it.
a

if es ‘answerin
_your question; may’! Task you;
a few? If you “can’t look
forward.to 1979"; why do

you “hate. to admit: it"? —

han

‘Pége 15, Jannary7, 1979- - Sunday News a

Feelings’ are not ‘good. or: ;

bad, they're simply- feelings ©
and it -is far healthier to |
_admit to your feelings. What

“am ‘ “you. do-with your feelings i Is

the © -important, ‘opportunity

i ‘for-you.:¥ou say, “I know it

.. is wrong of me, and-that I

should ‘look ° ‘forward ...”.
: . ‘Where: does it say it’s wrong .

-to-have a negative feeling

and that you should perform

‘in a certain way in regard to
_ it?

Weird music taste

QUESTION: My parents are,
so bigotted and weird. Why
do they- think they can. lump
all kids together who like
KISS’ and ‘t they hate it. I
suppose that's O.K., but why

STEWART: Hate KISS?
Absolutely not. .
hate oysters. But I am very

selective about’ oysters. I.
- avoid. them. Am I weird?
Are you weird ‘if you like

‘ uncover:

Nor do I —

“Your pasiive thinking trip”

is utter hogwash unless itis. .
accompanied - by positive ©

action that grows out of your~;..All
“very. own: positive. attitudes.
*“ Will you consider ending: the.
‘struggle of turning your”

“negatives into: ‘positives, and,
_Yather allowing yourself to
some. of
Positives that are eagerly

“awaiting your permission for

1979 is-a long time. But,
you. can handle today

lovingly and excitingly! Just. .
for this one day, why not...

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QUESTION: When I ask my
question, I don’t ask it as a
moon-strack teen-ager who
has just been ticked off by
her guy after going with him
-for three long weeks. I'm a
responsible, mature 26-year-
old woman, deeply in love,
who has just been told, after

four years of. loving this man,

“It just isn't ‘working and I
think we should call it quits.”
I honestly thought he was
Kidding. It was a complete
and. devas surprise. I
had no idea he was feeling
that way. When I try to
ws understnd him and his
¥ reasons, he seems unable to

say anything much more .

> than, “It just hasn’t worked

- out.”
i .
ve had’ nearly a month
now to think about it. I.am

convinced he really means.

it. He definitely wants out. I
can’t think about anything
else. It is unfair. I guess I
really botched things up.
How can I get this man I still
love out of my mind? I've
tried so hard to forget him,
bat I am failing mikerably.

STEWART: This is one of
the letters I dread answerin
in the few lines that ye
available to me. You dre
fecling heartbroken and
resentful and guilty and
bewildered and, bereft. You:
are thinking that you could
shed a Jot of these, heavy
weights if you only could get
“this man” whom you love,
right out of your mind. Even
though you are thinking that
way, I am sure you sense
that it won't work.

First of all, you can’t just
decide to forget. Secondly,

QUESTION: How do I
go about consulting with
you?

STEWART: Just
phone 261-6242) for an
appoiniment.

am. The next twelve months”

“all dhe nasty cracks? They

~ look ‘pretty gloomy to me. ~

How about you? Do- you.
Jhave “great expectations”
. for. 1979?

why in the world rg you

_Want to erase from your

mind one of the most
meaningful experiences you
have ever’ had? Let it stay
where it wants to be (in your
grateful memory).

You are grieving right now
and that is a valid, normal,
healthy state for you to be
in. Realize that a time will
-come after a bit when you
will move out of the grieving
experience into a time of
recovering and getting on
with your living. But it is
cruel to demand of yourself
that you end the grieving
‘before you are ready.; You
will be. ready, but not just
yet.

“act like we are weird. Do

you hate KISS?

How can I forg et him?

Tm a little fussed over
your saying that you botched ©
it up. Do you honestly
believe that? Your great
surprise at your’ man’s
retreat suggests that it may
be largely a problem of his.
He perhaps loves you as you
love him, but is’ frightened

by © such honor and
responsibifity and feels
inadequate in regard to

relating to you as he would
like. If you feel, later on,
that you would like to“talk”,.

please give-me a call. Your.
crying now is helping you .-

move closer to the time

when you'll be ready to shift”
from grieving to recovery. .
. You'll know when! ©. -

+

ss

Last Week!

them? You might understand |: ma

your parents a little better if _
you. pay attention to your. |
own ‘feelings. about them...

when they sit down to listen

the

“have the fun“ of being: ‘the ~
change: ein want : fo. .see

‘ins-you ‘self?

"and! perhaps.

Avoid - specific ex-

pectations - just don’t fiddle
around with them, but allow
yourself abundant '.ex- |
pectancy, at least for today.
_You can make. a i choice like
that.

~~ f

-to:do.that ——

reder will let-you begin =
to -enjoy an- abundant. ex-
-Pectancy about: next, week —

f

to two hours of Verdi's [i

Requiem, or whatever.

Do they seem a little weird

to you? Honestly? See if the
people in your family can
find an enjoyable way to
make room for each of you
to enjoy KISS or oysters or
symphonic music without

_ being mad about the others

not enjoying the same thing.
By the way, how about the
drummer in KISS!

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