48 - Sunday, November 2, 1986 - North Shore News MANNERS FOR OLDER KIDS Ch iidren, gro w up! HAS YOUR child written home yet from boarding school or college? By JUDITH MARTIN Miss Manners “Written?’’ (This is an echo Miss Manners is hearing.) ‘‘Is the woman mad? Why. we count ourselves lucky to get a collect telephone call asking for money.’’ What about married children — do they write? “Write?”’ (The echo in here is awful.) ‘““No, my daughter only calls, Do they handle the question of your visiting satisfactorily? “If they invite us at all, it’s when they want us to look after their children, When we get there, they’re always frightfully busy.”’ Wait a minute. Who are all these awful people? How did they get so callous and rude to their very own parents? Miss Manners does not mean to chastise the parents for the faults of the children. She knows all come See us. we're the We do, about that tremendous effort ex- pended in making them behave. “You were a wonderful child when I was bringing you up," her own dear grandmamma used to say to her own dear mamma, ‘‘but then you started bringing yourself u aa Actually, Miss Manners’ mam- ma turned out just fine, as you can imagine from the fact that she brought up Miss Manners. The grand-matriarchal reference was to that awkward stage when a child has escaped parental-roof supervi- sion and feels the headiness of freedom from many things, in- cluding, regrettably, manners. It is Miss Manners’ (and no doubt the parents’) fervent hope that well-reared children will, after a brief fling at irresponsibility in the name of independence, even- tually revert to proper behavior. In the meantime, however, parents who have otherwise -om- pleted their child-rearing must pro- tect themselves by setting explicit tules about how they expect to be treated. Leaving it to chance really ate experts, 1509 Lonsdale Ave. 986 - 1616 BRITISH COLUMBIA INSTITUTE OF TECHNOLOGY FRAMING EXPERIENCE Bank of Montreal OPEN EDUCATION ACCESS CENTER means setting up a test that equates the outward form of manners with the inner emotion — "If he cared, he’d rcemember,’’ "She doesn’t write because she hates the present or me both." Why subject yourself to all that emotional wear and tear? The proper parental solution is simply a bit more child-rearing for grown-up children. CONCORDE COPY WHILE YOU WAIT SERVICE ON MANY JOBS HIGH QUALITY ECONOMICAL PRICING NO EXTRA CHARGE FOR COLLATING OR COLQUREO STOCK 1350 PEMBERTON AVE. NORTH VANCOUVER A n incredible oppurtunity to start yaue Christmas shopping early and save on great gift ideas for your family, your friends, your home! THE INTERIOR DESIGNERS INSTITUTE OF BRITISH COLUMBIA OFFERS A RARE OPPORTUNITY INTERIOR DESIGN WORKSHOP Conducted by leading Vancouver Interior Designers SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 8 ROBSON SQUARE Media Centre - Theatre 800 Robson St., Vancouver, B.C, 9:30 AM to 4:00 PM LUNCH AND REFRESHMENTS INCLUDED $85.00 Per person For registration call: INTERIQR DESIGNERS INSTITUTE OF BRITISH COLUMBIA Phone: 734-3631 From 10:00 AM to 1:00 PM (Limited Registration) HANDS ON COMPUTER COURSES Featuring the “FAST TRAIN" earnat your own pace and Selecta time frame that satisfies your training reeds! A unique and inexpensive method to learn computer skilis while :garning business application course ware programs such as BOS ADMN 943: and CAT ADMN 949... BOS is a course desigied for the persan with little or no micracomputer experience. A three hour lecture is followed by 12 hours of auto training and professional assistance. CAT provides 15 hours of auto training and professional assistance in programs of your choosing like dBASE If. MULTIMATE. LOTUS 123. the PFS Family ane PC Write. The full facitities are readily accessible at $9.00 per hour per person. Center Hours Monday to Thursday 1200 to 2000. Fridays and Saturdays 1200 to 1600 Call 984-467 % during the open hours or Burnaby at 434-1610 on weekday mornings. The Center is located at 145 Chadwick Court. 2nd floor, North Vancouver. next to the Sea Bus terminal and the Lonsdale Quay. . Continuing Education = Continuing Employment! oe E mg9% OFF 3 ALL LAMPLIGHTER CRYSTAL ‘ CHANDELIERS! 5 LIGHT DINING ROOM, | Chande jer ' PH ore Sale “Py Ser 7 ota MDs & "OFF QUO EVERYDAY LOW OMCES. WHILE QUANTI LAST 935 Marine Drive Capilano Mall 4 y, Re, Cat by, 2 yp, a 2 LIVING LIGHTING = 985-5636 BBS EGA Baght Meas