Advice on the care and
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feeding

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Now I Kaow Why Tigers Eat Their Young. How to Survive Your
Teenagers With Humour, Dr. Peter Marshail. Whitecap Books.

$41.95,

UST THE onset of double-number birthdays in

children has been known to drive even the sanest,

most reasonable adults to enrol in the Stalinist School
of Parenting and invest in cattle-prods, razorwire and

Valium.

What may make this witty man-
ual on the care and feeding of ad-
olescents unique is not merely Dr.
Marshall's counsel of patience and
negotiation. Any fool can say that;
the UN is full of them and half the
adult world still soends an inor-
dinate amount of time and energy
trying to kill the other half. Not
much of an example for incipient
grown-ups.

It’s his recommendation that
parents facing middle age regress
and recall their own teenage
transgressions, to admit they
weren’t magically born as 35-
year-old pillars of the community,
that’s most likely to produce a
healthy sense of perspective on
the blood-boiling bloody-
mindedness of one’s ofispring.

Underlying Marshall’s calm, ra-
tional, often funny advice is one
crucial assumption: to make any of
it work, you-have to be prepared
to spend time with your children,
from Day One.

it’s no use handing them your
business card and trying to in-
troduce yourself when they're 15,
pregnant, under arrest, addicted to
drugs or HIV positive.

That fundamental requirement
may be a problem for many
parents currently confronting

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BOOK REVIEW

mid-life crises and puberty in their
kids simultaneously.

Most of us come from a genera-
tion so utterly spoiled that as
teenagers in the ‘60s we had the
ultimate luxury of being in a posi-
tion to loudly reject the richest
material culture the world has ever
seen, while quietly holding onto
the cption to buy back in, mostly
thanks to our long-suffering
parents.

The hidden price of that ticket

‘was added up for me by an RCMP
officer as 1 curmudgeoniy sug-
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Louisville Slugger at Cranial Park
might impress the idle, mouthy
youth infesting my local 7-Eleven
with an understanding of the stat-

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Amateur society holds
one-day music workshop

3390. Participants may register
at the door.

Next summer, the West Coast
Amateur Musicians Society is
hosting an opera and chamber
Music Tour to Santa Fe from
Aug. 5 to 13.

THE NORTH Vancouver-based
West Coast Amateur Musicians
Society is holding a one-day
music workshop for chorus and
orchestra this Saturday from 9
a.m. to 3:30 p.m. at Queen's
Avenue United Chunch in New
Westminster.

The $12 workshop features
conductor Terry Pitt-Brooke.

For more information phone
Margaret Nordman at 734-

utes governing loiter-
ing-with-intent-to-be-a-pain-in-
the-ass. They existed when | was
a kid ...)

“We live in a dual-income
society,”’ she told me. “Most of
these kids come from families
where both parents not only work
to support their lifestyle, but ex-
pect to still act like kids
themselves.

“On weekends, they want to
party with their own friends at
Whistler or go windsurfing at the
Gorge. They don’t want to hang
out with their own teenagers, who
make them feel old or like they're
setting a bad example.

“Some of these kids see their
parents for an hour a week, in
five-minute sound-bites. Living in a
nice house doesn’t mean much, if
there’s nobody home.”

You don’t have to be sold on
Dr. Marshall's “democratic” ap-
proach to parenting in order to
learn a lot from this book.

i grew up with some guys whose
fathers seemed tu me (then and
now) little short of family fascists,
yet they were aone the worse for
it.

The key seems to be com-
municating to your teenagers that
you regacd them as human beings,
not fashion statements who've
outgrown their cute little Osh
Kosh coveralls; that you're inter-
ested in them as people, however
awkwardly you may express it.

The tour includes transpora-
tion, accomodation and bus
trips to the opera house. Phone
980-5341 for details.

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Canadian illustrator, cartoonist and author
to The Book Company,
Park Royal Shopping Centre
Saturday, November 21st
1:30 p.m. - 2:30 p.m.

Mr Raeside will be signing copies of his new book

THERE GOES THE
NEIGHBOURHOOD

There are a lot of practical and
positive things in this book, but
you will have to make time to do
them.

We are what you read

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the spring of 1993.

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