Keep marriage secrets secret Q. MY HUSBAND was laid off at the plant and now he is pretty much off sex. I am sympathetic, but that isn’t getting me any fun in bed. My attitude is, we still have money for contraception, and no job is one problem, but no sex is another — and an unnecessary one. Ala community meeting I men- tioned how sex was one of the ca- sualties of the layoff and this gota big laugh — but not from my hubby. He was sore at me for days. i just blurted it out and never will again, but the harm is done. He is sure guys are laughing at him. A. ltike your attitude, but you do have to be more secretive about marriage secrets. 1 think now is the time for some disinformation from you. You can tell your husband (and others) how a woman came up to you in the supermarket and said you were right about the layoff ending sex as well as paycheques, so it isn’t only you and your husband. And you might let it be known — true or not — that you were_ talking about cutting sex down to Diet author From page 39 culture. In his book and in his talks, Robbins attempts to ‘‘lift this veil of denial’’ and offer peo- ple the knowledge to make choices in their lives that have a positive effect not only on their health but ask Dr. Ruth Dr. Ruth Westheimer only twice a day. Your husband will be appreciative of your care for his reputation. When one spouse is too worried and the other wants sex, the best thing is for the wanting one to be loving and seductive instead of challenging. To distract him from solid worrying and to get him in a sexy mood calls for some initiating on your part — for changing his to speak in Vancouver} on that of the planet. Robbins will be speaking in Vancouver on Monday, March 26, 7 p.m, at the Hyatt Regency Hotel. He will be joined by Michael Klaper, M.D., who will discuss the nutritional basics of vegetarianism, West Vancouver environmentalist et ee > | ot, ap See Artists Demonstrate Their Unforgotten Skills... Entertainment & Demonstrations Thursday, March 22, 1990 Erie and Ken Ensemble The Vancouver Raging Grannies Merle Norman Demonstration 10:3¢ am 11:00 am 11:30 am 12:00 pm 5:30 pm 6:30 om 7:00 pm 7:45 pm Fashion Show Fashion Show Doreen Sillery & The Swingtime Dancers South Mall Doreen Sillery & The Swingtime Dancers North Mall Opening Ceremonies Friday, 11:30 am 12:00 pm 12:30 pm 12:30 pm 1:00 om 1:15 pm 2:00 pm 2:30 pm 2:30 pm 3:00 pm 3:00 pm 4:00 pm 4:30 pm 5:00 prn 5:30 pm North Malt North Mall North Mall North Mall North Mall North Mall mood with cheerful, positive and loving actions more than com- mon-sense talk. Q. My wife ignores compliments and flattery. It is a funny thing — when I tell her she’s gorgeous or something like that, it's as if she doesn't hear. E know her hearing is good. What gives here? If she never says anything in response, how do I know my good words are getting to her? A. When she gets a little pink it’s a good sign. Every husband has to study his wife’s body lan- guage. Little moves and non- moves convey this mood or that. One husband told me that when his wife smiles slightly and looks at her wedding ring, he has done something right, and she doesn't even know she does this. Maybe you are doing better than you think. Compliments and flat- tery are different things. | think flattery is no harm. It is hard to lay it on too thick. So it’s cheap, so the flatteree knows you are real- ly loading your trowel — he or she also knows that you are taking the trouble to create a good feeling. But a compliment is something that does reach the recipient because he or she knows it has some truth. Andrea Miller and singer Ann Mortifee. 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