42 — Wednesday, August 7, 1991 — North Shore News LIFESTYLES His insecurity giving her second thoughts Q. WHAT MAKES a man when the sex is so good? I am in a gocd relationship with a man who suits me very well. The sex between us is the best I have ever had. We're both in our 30s, so we know what's go- ing on in the world and are ready to make a sound partner choice. i am beginning to wonder if he’s the right choice, however, because of his insecurity. Last night we made incredible love. This morning he left a message on my office voice mail to call him. I was too busy to return his call until jate afternoon. By then, he said, he was sure I was calling to tell him it's all over between us. What's going on with him? Aren’t I making bim feel wanted and appreciated? A. It doesn’t sound good to me. If you are letting him know you desire him and also letting him know he satisfies you, I don’t see why he should be so insecure. You have two choices: Ignore it and maybe his insecurity will go away. Or talk to him about the situation. If you want a perma- nent relationship with him, I sug- gest the talk. Also, you might consider going with him to see a counsellor. Perhaps it would only take a few sessions to get to the bottom of the problem. I am guessing it goes back to past relationship dif- ficulties. Q. It took me forever to get out of a bad marriage, but I finally did it three years ago. Under- standably, I don’t want to get back into another place where i feel stuck. But ail of the women I've dated want a sexually monogamous rela- tionship. Some wani mort com- mitment than others, but they alt want me to agree, after a few months, not to have scx with Foundation hosting oo * THE SUNSHINE Foundation of Canada hosts its first ‘‘dream picnic’? August 1! at Lynn Valley Park. Said picnic chairperson Heather Makus, ‘‘Sunshine’s mandate is to fulfil the dreams of physically challenged, seriously ill and ter- minally ill children. And this is our chapter's special dream to the kids.”” Billed as the ultimate picnic, the event will feature tethered hot-air balloon rides, a moon walk, car- nival games, a police dog show and other entertainment. Neon Rider TV stars Winston Rekert and Suzanne Errett-Balcom will join other celebrities to cap- tain team games. Volunteers, including members of the North Vancouver RCMP and B.C. Ambulance Service, are helping to make the dream picnic come true. insecure about a relationship Dr. Ruth Westheimer anyone else. Why are women this way? I don't know why they can't just enjoy being together without wor- rying about what I'm doing with somebody else on another night. As soon as I feel comfortable with a woman, she pushes for a com- mitment and eventually breaks it off when I don't give one. A. First, bravo to all of these women! They know what they want and they aren't going to put up with you for very long if you don’t give it to them. In these days when sexually transmitted diseases are such a concern, any- one is wise to seek a sexually monogamous relationship. Also, I really believe most peo- ple, men as well as women, do want to be part of such a rela- tionship for emotional reasons. ft is not their problem that you On-screen programming and remote contro! make this VHS VCR easy to use * One-year/six-event timer ° Cable-ready electronic tuner save $50 29928 | * HQ circuitry for sharper video * Fast command-response system a MENU 71, CLOCK SPITTING. 2. TIMER, SETTING. PROGRAM CHECK LEAR The new TV season is almost ready to start. so make sure you don't miss arty of your favourite shows. Model 82 VHS VCR lets you sel up your own viewing schedule. Easy-to-use on-screen programming and remote contro} pul you in charge. 16-520 programming makes it easy to set up your own TV schedule Hand-held 2” colour TV lets you watch from justi about anywhere save S71 18928, * Digital-synthesized tuning with up/down auto-search system * Backlight for clear viewing in dim light areas This handy portable features precise 69-channel tuning for drift-free picture and sound. With one-touch auto search, rapid-on picture and carry case. 16-159 recently came out of a long and unhappy marriage. Maybe it is too soon for you to commit, but you should understand their feelings. I do congratulate you, however, for not promising them you'll be monogamous just for the sake of keeping a sex partner. Q. I'm sure my husband is see- ing someone else. Recently found some condoms in our apartment, and we don’t use con- doms. 1 confronted him and he denied that he was seeing anyone. He said he’d bought them on a whim in case we might want to ‘*play"' with them some time — and then forgot about buying them. He got angry at me for accusing him. I don’t believe him, but I don't now how to get him to be truthful with me. He is several years older than f am. At times like this, I feel very young and inadequate. How do other women get their husbands to tell the truth? A. First of all, stop insisting on the ‘‘truth.”” You've tried it and found it didn’t work. If you have a strong suspicion he is seeing someone else, you may have reason to worry. I am concerned that he got so angry with you. His anger would make me think he probably does have something to hide. If he didn’t, J think he would have told you, “Oh, don’t be silly! Of course there is no one else. I love you!”’ And he wouldn’t have got- ten angry. I don’t know how you can make someone tell the truth. All you can do is trust your own in- stincts. [ suggest you talk to someone at length about your marriage. 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