QUESTION: It was quite some time ago that you did a piece about the importance of putting yourself first. I and I must say that for quite some time I felt good about practising the idea of upgrading my own Faga fellow to have the pie. I don’t even want to cut it and have half a piece each. I was taught to ‘‘serve’’; to “put ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Siewart may be reached at 261-6242 Jor appoinunents for individual, family or group counselling. grading the impression you make, or the achievements you register, or the ‘“‘stuff’’ you collect for yourself (like the last piece of pic) or the clearly if you capitalize the word SELF. We’re talking about putting your SELF first. We're talking about respecting who you are. We are talking about acknowledging and ac- tivating your integrity, rather than denying it. When you _ femember being somewhat shocked at the suggestion at the time because, at first reading it seemed-to me you were espousing selfishness as a sort of undiscovered -or neglected virtue. What you said struck me as being directly opposite to my train- ing. I had been taught to put myself last. On re-reading what ‘you said, I think I got_ an inkling of what you meant FROM PAGE C6 o’elock biscuit and cucumber sandwich tea (a tradition that dates back to the British col- onial era), you go game view- ing. again returning to your lodge at dusk. The lodges “and tented camps are situated from two to several driving hours apart, and it comes as a great surprize to most travellers to find modern buildings and facilities, often in s surroundings, in the middle of nowhere. All lodge rooms are air-conditioned, have showers, baths, and radio telephones. Spacious dining rooms, elegant lounges and outdoor swimming pools are the ‘iorm. Some lodges are even built close to a water hole or salt lick so you can game spot from your bedroom or while sipping a sundowner on the verandah. The tented camps, while not quite as luxurious as the lodges are mosquitoc- proofed, have their own showers and toilets and are currently enjoying an up- surge of popularity. There’s a thrill and wonder being close to big game in their natural habitat and from beginning to end the en- tire trip is one big adventure. The adrenalin really flows when your vehicle pulls up OTE Roasevelt Grose. | (behind the Avalon) open Mot. -Set- from a wn $0.B:30 pm it po iw hy « ) t ! importance. - However, early training dies hard and I find myself, ground prompts me to tred very gingerly along any pathway that calls upon me to consider myself more im- portant than others. If two of us have one piece of pie of- fered to us, I want the other close to a pride of lion, or when an elephant throws up his trunk, makes.a charge. But it’s not for the faint-hearted. You’re bound to see a kill or at least vultures or hyenas eating a corpse. You will probably witness a fight between ba- boons, and you might even. come face to face with a buf- falo or elephant near the lodge after dark. It is everyone’s ambition to see ‘“‘the big five’’ - elephant, rhino, buffalo, lion and leopard. You'll see all of them except possibly leopard, which is secretive and elusive with largely nocturnal hun- ting habits. You'll also see countless zebra, wildebeeste, warthog, giraffe, ostrich and different types of gazelle, plus a huge variety of animals, birds and flora that you never knew existed. The coastlines of Kenya and Tanzania are cqually ex- otic, but Kenya is the more sophisticated and developed, FREE ~ an * SAND * GRAVEL e MUSHROOM MANURE e BAGGED BARKMULCH COMPLETE INSTALLATION SERVICE i Wesfcon CONSTRUCTION PRODUCTS (FO . ROBERGE TRUCKING - CENTURY BARK 980-5413 ® BARK MULCH (Fir of Hemtock) e TOP SON (Screened oF unscreened) * BLACK PLASTIC POLY 1000 SO FT_ROLLS yourself last,”’ to ‘‘deny yourself”’ etc. So - as you see - Pve lost track of the value I saw in your piece - STEWART: It might help for you to be aware that in think- ing about ‘‘putting yourself first?’ you run the risk of moving toward small-bore, egotistical aggrandizement. My idea of putting yourself first has no interest in up- with a selection of some fifty ~_ resorts and hotels north and south of Mombasa, Kenya’s principal port and second largest city. The famed In- dian Ocean coast boasts miles of soft white sandy beaches . and crystal-clear waters, warm and most of the hotels have discos, displays of native dancing and roman- tic candlelight dinners. Prices for an _ inclusive three-week East African holi- day, including airfare from the West. Coast range from CDN 7 ding on the itinerary and choice of accommodation. If you happen to be in Nairobi you have the choice of many short or.long safaris offered by the many local safari operators. Whichever safari you choose, you will doubtless depart from the Dark Conti- nent agreeing with safari veterans who frequently say, “*You may leave Africa but Africa will never leave you.”’ DO-IT-YOURSELF DEMONSTRATION SAT. MAR 31ST 10:00, 11:00 & 1:00 INDOORS 109 BOWSER AVE. NORTH VANC. DEERWOOD GARDEN AND ANDSCAPE SUPPLIES 987-1221 THIS WEEKS SPECIAL UNI-STONE