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44 - Sunday, May 31, 1987 ~'North Shore News

Lifestyles

HANDLING EMERGENCIES

Gentleman friend
is not to be vilified

DEAR MISS MANNERS — One can hardly imagine a sit-
uation in which vomiting in public would be acceptable;
unfortunately, it is sometimes unavoidable.

I am a_ cancer - patient, ,and
nausea and vomiting are among
my symptoms. Recently, I was

’ shopping in a local gift store, when

I was. suddenly overtaken b
nausea. There was no approprial

Do you think the rudeness of
fouling the floor in public view is
so great that it should be avoided
at all costs? 1 think my boyfriend
was being overly considerate of the
other: shoppers’ sensibilities and

miss

manners

by Judith Martin

receptacle handy, so my choice
appeared to be between the tile
floor and the cotton handkerchief
offered by my boyfriend, which he
thought would handle the problem
and keep the mess to a minimum. -

I thought the floor was the more
appropriate solution, because it
could have been more easily clean-
ed up. As it turned out, I ended up
using the handkerchief and soiling
my clothes, but not the floor.

In future, Pll make sure I'm
equipped with an emesis basin, but
the disagreement between my
boyfriend and me is still unresolv-
ed. . ; ;

the store management at my ex-

pense.

GENTLE READER — Do you,
really? Are you seriously telling
Miss Manners that a gentleman
who is devoted to you to the extent
of wanting to absorb the mess
himself is guilty.of lack of con-
sideration?

A medical emergency is a medi-
cal emergency, and you surely do
not expect Miss Manners to make
etiquette rules about whether you
can be sick. If she could, she
would rule out illness altogether
and spend the rest of her. days col-
lecting prizes for that achievement.

However, when some choice is
possible, as you indicate it was,
one tries to protect others from the
effects, even at the expense of
one’s own clothes. A gentleman
who so identifies with one as to
volunteer his assistance and his
handkerchief is not, in Miss Man-
ners’ opinion, to be vilified.

DEAR MISS MANNERS — My
daughter will soon be three-years-
old, and I am planning to have a
birthday party for her. Is there a
polite way to tell the guests, if they
are planning to bring gifts, to br-
ing books for her? She has a closet
full of stuffed animals she never
plays with.

GENTLE READER — There is a
way to do this, but Miss Manners
won’t tell you what it is unless you
promise not to allow this child to
grow up with the idea that she can
dictate her wedding presents and
demand cash payments on gradua-
tions and anniversaries, on the
grounds that she doesn’t want all
that junk that people might think
of to give her.

Is that agreed?

For childhood birthday use only
— you may declare a literary
theme party. Send out invitations

with pictures of books or charac- ° |

ters from children’s books, and

call it something cute, such as ‘‘a -

little great books party.’' That
should give them the idea.

But oh, yes, Miss Manners has
one more request. Teach your
daughter that she must welcome all

_ presents with equal warmth.

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