56 - Wednesday. Augusi 2 an 1991 - North Shore News Boyiriend getting bad information Q. § HAVE been reading sex books und magazine ar- ticles on sex in search of the answer tO my questions, but Fean’t find it. Dr. Ruth Westheimer ASK DR. RUTH My boyfriend doesn't believe I reach orgasm when we make love because my thighs don’t spasm. He says he just knows when he’s lying next {o me and my thighs are quiet and not quivering that I have faked kim out again. The truth is I do fake a Sot of orgasms, but he doesn't seem to know the difference between the ones ! have and the ones I fake. He thinks they're all fake. What should } do to convince him 1 re- ally do reach orgasm with him? A. I have never heard that quivering thighs were proof a woman has had an orgasm! Ask your boyfriend where he gets his information. But | don’t know haw to teil you to convince him you've had an orgasm when you really haven't. I have a better idea: Why don’t you tell or show him what he can do to help you have more orgasms? Then you won't have to attached coupon. tell so many fies, If you are fakin to spare his feelings, you might as well give it up altogether since he doesn't believe sou. You are ceally a ducks woman. Many women write iask- ing me how they can tell their husbands the truth after many years of faking. Q. Since 1 got divorced six months ago. £ feel fike a mate Alice falling dawn the rabbit's hole. This is an entirely different world than it was 25 years ago when | married. Now bam 55, a man who never even cheated on his wife, and &'m involved with a real sexual dynamo. She would fike a sexually exclusive relationship, but I'm not ready for thet at this point and may never be with her. $ leve being in her bed, but ii bothers me a fittle that she per- forms oral sex on me so en- thusiastically. { enjoy it, but should she? Aliso, | think she insists 1 wear condoms with her because | won't agree to a monogamous relation- ship. She knows I don't like them. Do you think she’s using this as 2 means of forcing me to commit? A. J think she is a very smart woman to insist on condoms until she has 4 monogamous relation- ship! If mace people did this, the spread of sexually transmitted diseases in this country would be slowed down considerably. You are a very lucky man to be in bed with a woman who enjoys sex so much. Many men are fan- tasizing about such a partner right now. Perhaps her joyous sexuality makes you uncomfortable because you have never known anyone fike her. Yes, women’s attitudes abour sex and their sexual behavior have changed a great deal in the past 25 years. | hope you learn to enjoy her without being judgmental — and if you don’t, 1 hope she finds someone else who does! This summer many B.C. forest companies are offering free public tours of their forestry, logging and manufacturing operations. A brochure containing details of tour opportunities on Vancouver Island and in B.C’s south coast region (from Powell River to Vancouver) is available on B.C. Ferries, in major hotels and at tourist and forestry information centres in these areas. This brochure may also be obtained by compicting and returning the Name Street Address Towe, City Mail to: Proves 1991 Summer Tour Brochure Pustal Code Council of Forest Industries al B.C 41200-5355 Burrard Street Vancouver, B.C, V7NISE tURESTS FOREVER’ © UATE RY UR FOREST thud S190 Q. EF got divorced when our son was 10. and my ex disappeared from our fives. Therefore my son rever gor the kind of sex talk a futher gives a son. Now he is 25 und married and £ think he's having sex problems. § blame myself fer ast providing him with a good male cole model and teacher in his life. Is it too Jate fo correct the mistakes of the past? I um dating aman who could have been a rea! father to him. Should 1 ask this man to have a heart-to-heart talk with my son about his sex life? Or should | have the talk — with my daughter-in-law? £ want to help them. A. Then keep your mouth shut and stay out of their bedroom! It is not your place to talk to sour daughter-inelaw about her sex fife with your son. Nor should you ask your own Criend to intervene. What makes vou so sure they are having trouble with sex any- way?) Young couples have all kinds of problems, including money and in-laws. Don’t become one of their problems by trying to help them in ways you cannot. Many boys don't ger the kind of sex talk from their fathers you are imagining they do. That is an ideal. The reality in many families is silence. Don't feel guilty about ihe past. You can’t change it. But you can keep your mouth shut new! Waterfront hosts day of medieval pageantry THE SOCIETY for Creative Anachronism will present) an afternoon of ‘‘medieval mag- nificence,’” at Waterfront Park on Sunday, Aug. 25, from I to Sp.m. The public is invited to witness the spectacle and pag- eantry of the Middle Ages as Knights of Old and _ their Ladies demonstrate life from the Viking, Celtic, Tudor, and Renaissance periods. Merchants will be displaying and selling jewelry, needie- work, home crafts and calligraphy reminiscent of these eras. The activities include exhib- itions of music and dancing, mock battles, and medieval costumes, circa 600-1600 A.D. “Bring a picnic and spend an afternoon transported back to a mystical age of pomp, chiv- alry and splendor,” say orga- nizers. Waterfront Park is located on Esplanade, two blocks west of the Lonsdale Quay in North Vancouver. This free event will be held as scheduled, weather permitting. and everyone is welcome. 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