Professional can

help with lack
of communication

Q. | AM 18 years old and a couple of years ago I moved
in with a man who was my first sex partner and who fa-

thered my two children.

Qur sex life can be a fittle bor-
ing, but most nights are great. 1
love him a lot and I don’t want to
lose him.

My problem is ! found oul that
he slept around on me about a
year ago. I asked him face to face
and he told me that he did. I was
very hurt and confused and didn’t
know whether or not I should
kick him out.

Since I do love him, I decided
to give him another chance. But
lately I feel I don’t want him here
and he can't understand why I
won't let him go out by himself
and why I don’t trust him.

I love him so and I don’t want
to hurt the kids but I also want to
kick him out. What should I do?

A. In this situation the problem
is not a sexual one but a problem
of communications.

Certainly he was wrong to cheat
on you, but to offer any advice I
would have to know if he goes out
every night or once a week or
once a month.

If you really do love him and
don’t want to hurt the children,
you should immediately call a
clinic and get a mairiage or rela-
tionship counselor for both of
you; a professional can find out
exactly what is happening here
and could help you to make up
your mind.

Q. I am a 65-year-old man with
an invalid wife wio cannot and
does not desire sex. :

I masturbate sabaut three or
four times per week, which I find
‘very enjoyable. At my age, is this
considered abnormal and is there
any harm or benefit physically?

‘ Also, do females contiaue to
masturbate at this age?

A. Consider yourself very for-
tunate that your libido is so strong
that you have the desire to
masturbate.

You should not fee! guilty; it is
perfectly normal. No harm can
come to you so long as you do it
with pleasure. If you want to, you
can look at pictures in magazines
like Playboy, rent sexually explicit
movies, or use fantasy.

All these things are fine.
Women can also feel the urge to
masturbate at any age.

The important thing for a older
person with a partner who is an
invalid as in your case, or deceas-
ed, is not to feel sad when doing
it. It is your wife who has become

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an invalid and not you, so there is
no reason to deny yourself the
pleasure that masturbation can
bring.

Q. I am 50 years of age, never
married but I have many lady
friends and have enjoyed a
healthy sex life.

. Until six months ago I would
have sex three to four times a
week. My problem now is that I
have trouble in getting an erection
and if I am lucky enough to have
one, my penis is still fairly soft.

I disappoint my lady friends
snd feel very embarrassed about
it. What went wrong and what
can I de about it?

A. Something worries me
because J] read that you are disap-
pointing lady friends and not
disappointing one lady friend.

In this day and age with sexual-
ly transmitted diseases, including
AIDS, rampant, this kind of
behavior troubles me.

Probably you are not telling
your various lady friends that you
aren’t being faithful. Who knows
what’s being passed around
among ail of you?

If I could talk to your lady
friends, 1 would tell them all to go
find somebody who wil] be
faithful.

As for your problem, at a cer-
tain age it is quite normal that a
man can no longer have a
psychogenic erection and needs
physical stimulation in order to
obtain and maintain an erection.

But you should still go to see a
urologist to rule out anything
physically wrong.

Dance classes offered

NORTH SHORE Neigh-
bourhood House (NSNH) is
offering a variety of dif-
ferent dance classes this
spring.

Beginner and intermediate level
classes for belly dancing will run
on Monday evenings, April 13
through June 15.

Beginner classes go from 6:15 to
7:15 p.m. at a cost of $30. The
intermediate level is offered from
7:15 to 8:30 p.m. and the fee is
$37.50.

Ballroom, Latin and Jive Com-
bo classes will run April 21
through May 26 from 8:30 to 10

p.m.

Line and Cowboy dance classes
are offered on the same days and
dates from 7 to 8:30 p.m.

The fee for either of these
classes is $24.

For more information call
NSNH at 987-8138.

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In the matter of Pacific Coast Terminals’ proposal to
construct additional) ethylene glycol storage and shipping
facilities at its terminal site in Port Moody, the Vancouver Port
Corporation announces the formation of a Project Review Panel
to receive interested views on the proposed project, and to
consider such views in making recommendations to the Port

PUBLIC MEETING:
Tuesday, April 21, 1992, 7:00pm

Corporation.

Port Moody Senior Secondary School, Cafeteria

300 Albert Street, Port Moody, B.C.

PANEL CHAIRMAN:
E. M. ‘Mac’ Clark
Former Regional Director,
Inland Waters Directorate
Environment Canada (retired)

SUBMISSIONS/PRESENTATIONS:

The Panel will receive written or verbal submissions regarding

this proposed project, az follows:

Written submissions — accepted up to 12 noon, ©

April 21, 1992.
Verbal Submissions — will be scheduled for the

Public Meeting on receipt of a written request to the

Panel, accompanied by a presentation outline.

Requests will be accepted until 12 noon, April 21, 1992.

Mailing Address:
PROJECT REVIEW PANEL
PACIFIC COAST TERMINALS
E. M. Clark, Chairman
c/o Vancouver Port Corporation
1900 — 200 Granville Street
Vancouver, B.C. V6C 2P9
Fax: 666-1207

Interested parties intending to participate in the
Public Meeting who require further information on the
proceedings are invited to contact the Panel Chairman through
the office of the Panel Secretary at:

666-6073

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