A6 - Friday, July 13, 1984 - North Shore News Ge editorial page Here they come f, as expected, both Prime Minister John Turner and Liberal party president Iona Campagnolo, run for parliament in our two North Shore ridings, we will be inundated by the microscopic (if not at times myopic) eyes of the national media for at least a month. We of the North Shore will be picked up, turned over, inspected, tickled behind the ears, and asked to perform for the rest of the nation who will by trying to find out just what allure this area has for these two heavyweights. For a short time we will be the focus of Canada. And, of course, we will be dangled carrots aplenty by the luminaries of the political parties on all sides of the House of Commons. All this could become a bit mind-boggling for the majority of us who believe that the mountains serve as an effective border from the rest of the country and that the bridges over Burrard Inlet should have toll gates at- tached. Actually, it could be a bit of fun as long as we can keep our perspective.It would be far too easy for us to become carried away with the pounding of the drums and allow ourselves to be duped into voting for a per- son because they are ‘important’, just as it would be easy for us to not vote for that per- son because of that same importance. ‘We are going to have to force ourselves to ignore the clamor and the short-lived flame of fame and to listen to what the candidates have to say, then make up our own mind. Not an easy task. Off the buses BRAVO, Vancouver City Council, for your decision to turn down a proposal to operate a bus service during the current transit nastiness. We can hardly have a private company providing a service the public demands or go broke trying. No, Vancouver city council, we're with you all the way, even if it takes a while for us to catch up to you. After all, there are no buses running and 12th and Cambie is a long walk. 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The speaker, Dr = Adic Salamon of the cnmuinology department at Simon Fraser University, knows a lot about human sexual behavior has devoted years of study to the subject, including thousands of hours inter- viewing people who frequent some of the shadow areas of the sexual morass kept women and gigolos An unusual research focus to be sure and Salamon ad mits that many peopic jump to the conclusion that she must be driven by intelicctual voycurism ot perverse cunosity “Such responses, although disappointing, no longer sur prise me They tend instead to reinforce the contention that sexual conservatism = still reigns People with ostich mentalitacs love to look for something salacious in studics of sexual roles and relations when what ts ocedcd is less hypocrisy and beticr understanding *' “LOVE NEST" Salomon 1s well along in her objective to) demysuly some of the more ounor thodoxn sexual involwements of men and women She has written and = oreleased onc book, The Aept Woman. which ts now cnjyoying mtet national caposure. has a se cond on gigolos almost at the printing stage and plans for a thad and fourth on sen therapy and incest In spite of the sccmingly utllating topics pooplc look + She | ing for cheap thrills will likely find themselves disap- pointed. ‘‘It’s all im the man- mer that the researcher ap- proaches the subject. 1 con- sider myself a serious social scientist investigating a legitimate social concern. There is no gossip or steamy copy reminiscent of Harold Robbins, just documented facts and objective analysis.’ r s Dr. Adi Salamon The Kept Woman, originally a 160,000-word doctoral thesis complicted at the London School of Economics, was trimmed by half for the book. It holds promise of becoming a publishing sensation = with ““inside’’ accounts of what makes a mustress, how she becomes kept and how she sees herself in relation to soacty Of the 400 women Salamon interviewed, morc than 60 per cent were being kept in the ofd fashioned Id wardian = scns¢e tucked away in a “love acst’” pad for by a marincd man still liv ing with bis wife “One of my first: surprise findings was that the ar chetypal homewrecker docs not cust among kept women Most of them have a tendcn cy to see chew situation. tn terms of thwarted truc love An affair involves tying and cheating while the idea of star-crossed lovers is much more attractive.” The men, she says, take the Situation more for granted. “*Of the 60 men I interviwed most saw no irony in being ‘happily married for 37 years’ and then going on to describe their mistress of 15 years standing.”’ GIGOLOS “*The office, however, is the most usual mecting ground with managing direc- tor and personal secretary be- ing a common formula, not too surprising since secretaries often become a surrogate wife. Sexual banter is a normal part of office life and though it appears inno- cent on the surface the poten tial ts always there for dceper involvements.’’ While it’s impossible to project how many kept women there are for any given population sampling Salamon suggests that tf she was able to find more than 400 who voluntarily respond- ed to classified newspaper ads, “‘there must be quite an tcebcrg out there "' She has also received hun dreds of cesponses from an ad sechiang informanon on gtgolos which ran in September, 1983 in cvery newspaper with a arculation of more than 100,000 in Bro tain and North Amenca “The emerging profile ss that) gigolos are between 19 6S years of age. predominantly white and very often bi scaual ft isn't anomalous for the man to be manned and it's interesting that wives don't) seem to ound his ‘job Phey reason that he is being pard and at is casy to view the other woman as a bit of a yoke who reeoeives only manufactured romance The average Canadian gigolo ts well educated, oftcn with a dceree in the humanities, and Noel Wright on vacation pursues this line of work as an income supplement.”’ Salamon has been singular- ly unimpressed with the Canadian men who have pur- ported to be gigolos. ““Most are little more than glorified pimps who have heard about the study and feel the need to top someone else’s story. The European gigolo docs secm to be much more sophisticated.”” SEX THERAPY Since the ads appeared Salamon has been contacted by scores of people who seem to seck long-distance cathar- sis. ‘‘I’ve received tragic let- ters from women who want to know how they can stop their boyfnend from beating them, letters from impotent men, gay men, men with AIDS, people in jail, who have nothing better to do. | feel Ikke Miss Loncly Heart but the com@moon denominator 1s that all of them are only too willing to talk about their sexual cx. ploits. it’s really sad thai so many poople are having so much difficulty dcaling with their sexuality "’ She believes social mores formulated far back in history are largely responsibic “The concept of mamage came about morc for reasons of cconomes than romance lo day, however, the coonomiac oconsidcrations arc very secondary and people tend to capect romance and marnage to be a panacca where all nceds and desires are fulfilled People are also hving longer, long cnough to outgrow relatonships Con temporary attttudes sce af fairs not as acgative oc curences bul as an almost ncocssary sharing of different cmovions with different poo ple ft difficult to find everything you want i onc person and = modcroa per mussiveness means that cxtra involvements arc castly within reach ~* GSFU News Service)