QUESTION: As a girl and young person, the church always seemed quite central in my tile. At Christmas it was particularly meaningful. To make a long story short, I fell away trom the church in my mid-20' ow, in m early 40's, I have not only “fallen away” bet I am almost antagonistic. I feel very negative whenever | attend a church = service. O.K., that's one part of my problem. The other part is that | know | am a naturally religious person and have desire to pay attention to that leaning | have and do something positive about it. How can one give priority to one's” religious tendencies and feel almost bitter about the church? STEWART: Could at be that the church in vour youthtul days appealed te you primanly das oan activity centre? Perhaps you were drawn to i as an institution that offered you something But at that time. vou may not have Come to any personal 4 Send in ‘a uwarenecss of the and intellectual religion spiritual aspects of Now you are more mature and are probably aware of a need to nuture your inward resources But because ol backyround, you, Subconscirously. sense that your inward maturing can only be nurtured by the ehureh. Inats carly days, the church ways a tellowship of peuple who had something and = naturally came together. So perhaps you are at the place in lile where you need to respect vour searching mind and your hungry spirit and pive vourself some ume and space to tind out more and More Concerning some of your pechaps “found slice of your life’ QUESTION: Wh. dont you” write something about mid-age crisis? From the talk I hear and the situation | am in, it strikes me that is avers prevalent problem that a lot o} people are trying to cope with. 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Meanwhile. follow the lead you have been sensing. PSS NSIO™, Sale does not include lining, i GOLD’S Listen to your inner self ask hayden stewart yden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 the church may = again someday become important for you. Or - it may not. But YOU are important to you right now, and always Listen to the wisdom of your higher Sell and respect ul trustingly. Letit be! we GOLD'S FABRICS 4 North Vancouver. 341 Lonsdale C7 - Sunday News, December 28, 1980 Go for it! QUESTION: i have completely flipped over a girl I've not even met yet! Is that possible or have I lost my marbles? I observed her at a party and it was out of this world at first sight. It seems utterly fantastic, but I will, [That's how strong my feelings are for her. I'm scared to get in touch with her for fear I'll come on too strong and frighten her off forever. I've always scoffed at people who say they fell in love at first sight. I chink it is crazy. But I think I've done it. Am I stightly warped or do you think | should go after her? STEWART: Isnt oat oa wonderful lecling’ You scare me a bit by asking me if you should “po after her”! But it's a cinch you are going to get acquainted with her. So whats the -big delay? Give yourself the fun of getting to know her. She may be just as marvelous as she seems to be. Then again, she may turn out to have two left feet. or she may be as cold as an icicle, or she may be the sort that spends $500 a week to look beautiful while in- wardly she is out for lunch. Go boy' She may also be the one. come early for the best selection! savings through Wed.,Dec. 31,1980 nierfacing, drapery fabrics, and patterns 980-4433 Open Mon - Wed & Sat 9:30. 6, Thurs & Fri 930 9 Sun 12 5 FABRICS Vancouver 11th & Granville 736-4565 Open Mon Wed & Sat 930-6, Thurs & Fn 9 30-8, Sun 1256 7 VISA | Oordic IDIGOETIR STREET fat ted Ave )