My ‘work, which I almost

hate, is frankly an “in-the--

meantime” thing that I do in
order: to. do something else
later,. We are living as if we

. are. -almost _broke, so that’.

later. on “we'll be: able to
- spend money as we e want to.

rm taking a * couple - of
night-school. classes, which I.
do not really enjoy, because :
_ supposedly,

. they. - will,

prepare me. to enjoy

something - ‘later on. 1 play -
', volleyball twice a week (it’s a

crazy~ game!)- because «it’s
ap and {it will keep me in

ipe''to play golf someday
in the dim distant future.

We’ re ea hamburg era.
lot, which is OK, but a va ilttle
boring when it is served too
often. We're doing this so
that later on, we'll be able to
eat what we really want. I
think I've gone on long
enqugh to explain my
dilemma. a

Is this the way to live? (By
the way, this fs not just my
idea, but my wife's too. And
she Is getting tired of it just
as Tam.)

‘pattern. by . whether.

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. y ae +
« “doing is not. all that bad. I ‘-expectancy about the. end-
at only about 51: per cent bad.”

-, There. are -two ‘things you

. might consider. -

. “First of all, be ‘sure you

and - your wife .ate. both. .
pleased with what you are.
_ Preparing for., Help your:
- selves to get. clear on what
the end-results are for which -
‘you are working and saving —

and planning. And be sure,

in doing so, that you see, in’
your mind’s eye, ‘what you .
want to BE, rather than what

-you want to HAVE.

In getting | clear about |
- tomorrow, think of BEING.
_, the kind of people you want
‘to be together, rather: than:
--the achievements: you. want _
to récord, or the “position”.

you want to attain. In doing

that, you will. be able to

assess your. current living

contributes to those
portant - “end-resulf
want. oe =

The second thing to. do is °

to ease up a bit on your
regimented lives of

discipline. See if you can =
learn to move from ham- |

burger to steak once in a.
while, without feeling guilty.
See if you can be dedicated
to your rotten
BECAUSE it is, at least for
now, contributing to the
end-results you crave. Skip

-the volleyball once in a while

and feel free to play some
golf.

In other words, stick with
the 49 per cent of your
current way of life that really

Love at first. sight

enjoyable. But be careful of
planning on 50 years of
marriage and love, simply
because it has those lovely
attributes. It takes more.

QUESTION: This = may
sound like a silly and even
flippant, question, but [I am
dead serious. Do you believe
there is any such thing as
“love at first sight"? I cer-
tainly hope there fs!

STEWART: The “first sight”
love feeling you ask about is,
in my way of thinking, quite
often a valid evidence of
ONE PART of an experience
that may very well lead into
a rewarding love relation-
ship. It is a threat to real
love, however, if it is im-
mediately enthroned in one's
thinking as being “proof” of
love.

Ii is aftraction, it opens
doors; it is delightfully

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but likes looking at women

QUESTION: I hardly know
what. think ‘about
something “that. ‘has been

; bothering me for years. Iam
-married happily, with no |

desire to he. to my
wife — ever. She is lovely

and Tam‘ perfectly content

with our marriage. It has

always been like this, ever.

since we were married, 14
years:ago. I:°am ‘really

. speaking the trath.

So, what bothers me is

that. even though I feel so
good about: my wife sand
about our marriage, I greatly

enjoy “looking” at women. I
am worrled that I have any

interest in “looking,” when I
‘want to be totally true to my
wife... Oe

How can those two at-

. titudes go together in one.

person? Should I see a
peychiatrist? a

STEWART: Perhaps you
should see a psychiatrist,

but, if I were you, I would |
not bother seeing one over. native?. Do. you feel you °

the situation you describe.

I also enjoy “looking” at
women, not to mention men,
kids, trees, sunsets,
mountains and puppies. I am

‘deeply and profoundly
grateful to God that all these

“lookings”™
enjoyment.

give me such’
And [I am

grateful that .women have.
top priority in ‘that list. _

limited, so hurry!

You: have felt like that for.
14 years, but I have had: the
same experience | for about
140 ‘years’ since I - first
‘married the same beauty I
gratefully ogle now. _.

So many women are
beautiful to look at. What
should you do: as. an alter-

should: cover your eyes?
Why not enjoy the beautiful
arrangement that lets you
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