C4 - Sunday News, Iannary 3, 1982

Once more for the girlfriend

HAYDEN: Here's one more
- and the last - letter of
criticism concerning my
asgswer (Nov. 18) to the
woman whose male cousin
visited her and, ulninvited,
brought along his girlfriend
and requested just one
bedroom. Remember?

QUESTION: You are dead
wrong in your facetious
advice to the lady .... I
would not dream of telling
my Mormon friends to “grow
up” and drink alcohol or my
Jewish friends to grow up
and eat pork.

If the act, any act, offends
the person's moral, religious
or ethical! standards, then it
is incumbent upon the
visitors to respect these pre-
cepts. These consenting
adults are free to do
whatever they hike in their
own home or at the local
hotel, but if they choose to

visit, then they must con-
sider the feelings of their
hostess, for it is her roof they
are under. Why should she
compromise her maxims for
the convenience of incon-

is he and Hayden Stewart
who should grow up.

STEWART: You say, “if....
these consenting adults
choose to visit, then they
siderate guests? Would you must Consider the feelings of
wear shoes while visiting the their hostess.... Why should
mosque? she compromise her
maxims...?” I go along with
you in that. BUT, she did not
TELL them her feelings, nor
put forward her “maxims”.
She described her feelings

The husband's untimely
launt was particularly un-
fortunate as he neglected to
be supportive to his wife. It

only to her husband, and
then, after the fact.

I can't speak for the
husband, but you are nght,
you know, when you say 1
should grow up. I'm working
atit!

It bothered you when,
what you call my “facetious
advice” inchided telling the
hostess to grow up. Did it
bother you when you gave
me the same advice, or were
you being facetious too?

ask hayden stewart

Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242
for appointments for individual. family or group counselling.

No more than ‘puffy twaddle’

QUESTION: I heard you
speak mot long ago about
what you called SOME
CHOICE PRINCIPLES. It
was a beautiful comment on
a way of Hie, but it com-
ignored the in-

serving it
fedgement. That is nothing
more than pefiy twaddle. If
we all believed that, there
would be mo social action
whatsoever. How can you

say sich things?
STEWART: Wel, er, ahh, I
can say them badly as I must

have done when you heard
me. I'm all for “Social

Action”, but feel that its
lasting effectiveness depends
on the persons taking the
action being ones who have
found that action to be an
expression of their own

tribute to our personifying
justice and peace and

‘rights’. The thoice prin-
ciples are concerned with
our BEING the changes we
want to see happen. You

experience, rather than say, up above, “...if we all
merely a stance they are believed that, there would
taking. The choice prn- be no ‘Social Action’

ciples I discussed have to do

whatsoever.” Right on! [f we
with one becoming the sort

all believed that and, (much

of person who IS social more important hose to

action. BE that, our ING would
They have nothin say be the needed action!

really about c ted Meanwhile, each of us has

action, but rather, . his own way to. go.

speak about BEING the “Whichever is the way YOU

action. They don't speak of
the promotion of justice, for
example, or the promotion
of peace or human rights,
they simply share ideas
about choices that con-

have chosen, follow it with
dedication and compassion
aod with all your heart and
soul! Thank God for the
‘social action’ of such
enlightened ones who are

Part of a big conspiracy

QUESTION: Two or three
fusmes back you referred to
the Aquarian Age. lust the
way you said it, | wondered
ff you were im on the
Aquanan Conspiracy Are
you?

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knowing it, I have probably
been “in on it” for quite a
while. Got the Aquanan
Conspiracy for Chrnstmas
and am reading it now = It 1s
very caciting and cn
thusiasfically supportive of
peopic who are wondering
and cxplonng and open to

the astounding = potential

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