LIFESTYLES 33 - Wednesdays, January 17. 1990 - North Shore News Jealousy won't wake husband up sexually Q. I HAVE «4 much stronger interest in sex than my hus- band, but I love him very much. I don’t ever want to hurt him; I only wish he would wake up to the fact that sex is important to me. He has been working hard lately and telling me he is too tired for sex, Complicating this » a male acquaintance on our floor who is very handsome and interested in me. f can tell. f told ms husband about this and now he is jealous. eee ask Dr. Ruth Dr. Ruth Westheimer eee A. Your husband's jealousy will not increase his interest in sex, but it Will probably increase lus anxiety about rivalry and about the reliability of your love tor him. In my experience as ai relationship counselor and sex therapist, I’ve found that using jealousy to arouse a spouse sexually has usually backfired on the one trying to use it. Maybe some kind of waking up to a spouse, showing that sexual interest has not died outside the relationship even if it is asleep in- side, works sometimes. but then those people don't come to seek professional heip. | don't get to hear about it. So in general | am auainst mak- ing people jealous. From: what you tell me in your fetter, i can't be sure that it is the mak acquain- tance who has *tcompli ted" your sex problem inside your nvarriage. It seems from what intormation I have that you are the one who complicated it by telling sour hus- band about the other man's inter- est in you. Is this interest real oF cust a cute idea that came into yo::. head? 1 would like to know more about all this. Did you really tr. to wake your husband up sexua!iv by mak- ing him jealous or did you tell him this other guy is attracted to you because you really don't know how troublemaking that might be? ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING ON SALE AT GIRDER & BEAMS CONSTRUCTION TOYS 20-60-:. * BRIO — WOODEN TRAINS x LEGO — DUPLO * MEGA BLOCKS * PLAYMOBIL PLUS TRAINS « FISHER-PRICE CONSTRUX * MICRO MACHINES # MATTEL — HOT WHEELS * PLAYSKOOL * MAJORETTE * LASY * BRITAIN’S — FARM * FISCHER TECHNIK * MECCANO * CORGI COLLECTABLE CARS Lonsdale Quay Market 984-9200 The whole world of sexual func- tioning and rivalry intrigue may be new to you. You may hase told your husband about the other man because you are uninformed about this stuff — or, as they used to to make up with your husband, show him the other man is not on your mind. This may be helped by putting the man out of your mind, which can be done. husband very much. You can keep the other man in mind as a fairy- tale figure, a sex-fantasy-enriching idea; what 1 mean is to get rid of him as an intriguing possibility for say. “tnnocent.”’ | think you have You do say that you fove your betraying your husband. PRICE Designer’s Gelled Ceiling Latex «Super White «Drip resistant Designer’ south Satin latex Super Scrubbable Available in 100's ot designer colors Designer _ Eggshell Latex «Super scrubbable °One-c coat coverage i mt Designers) 8 Seml-Gloss uch #Super scrubbable $39. 92 Painter's Choice Alkyd Enamel Flat Latex Interior Semi-Gloss *One-coat coverage #0004) NO roller spatter *Scrubbable ma 423 & ih hg BE 6 a 22 ASE" $43.96 ALS.P? $43.96 ‘Notaltitems available at all stores. Offer Ends Dec. 30th, 1989 AS.B* $29.92 asersedt | In-Store ALL Walicovering There's a vade selection of styles and patterns to choose from. including co-ordinating borders “Reg doo4 price Patterns may vary ‘rom those snown Choose from page atter page of the latest wallcovering patterns. *Reg pooknnce Matening fabric noteciuded Selected So04s only Easy Care No-Wax Peel & Stick Vinyl Floor Tile® pola” x 127 “ Reg. $1.49 “in-store ea. ss only Flexgio & Royal Collection No-Wax Peel & Stick Vinyt Floor Tile® 012" x 12" Reg $119&$139 “In-store stock ‘es UF Ee i Sale Ends february 6, 1990 Notailitems available at all stores. Ralnchecks Available For Franchise opportunities call (604) 437-0401 a VISA La! Satisfaction Guaranteed! An Carty pare m eet an Your Wari ate suld ath The Experts’ Choice. Your Choice. The Best Choice. Satisfaction Guaranteed! All products purchased at Color Your World are sold with an unconditronal guarantee of quality You must be completely satistied or we will replace the product or give you a full refund This guar antee does not include labour for application or instaliauion Deel VISA ea * 1887 Marine Drive, N.V. At Capilano Rd., east of International Plaza For franchise opportunities calt (604) 3 /-0401 980-8567 * 2925 Lonsdale, N.V. 2 blocks north of Upper Levals Hwy. 985-5222