C7-Wednesday, May 14, 1980 - North Shore News ask hayden stewart What about cults? Freelance Cuunsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 forappointments for individual, family or group counselling His new office in the Internauonal Plaza Hotel (Open Tuesdays only) is for the conventence of North Shore residents Living your life QUESTION: What about all these new religions and cults and movements that seem to be winning such large followings? What's hap- pening? STEWART: I think what's happening is thal we are growing up and going through that awkward stage. There is a lot of evidence to suggest that we are moving into an age of spiritual emphasis and growth. Matenalism is not THE GREATEST INVENTION going to be the One and Only. We = are awkwardly. doing i Going to. ex- cesses seems our way just now. But hang in there - we're living in a great time of importan change. without any guilt QUESTION: ['m_ wrestling with the problem of how to live my own life and yet not hurt or let down my loved ones and people who are important to me. Too often, in order to do things I want to do, I appear to others to be unconcerned aobut them. i am not unconcerned, but my wife and two teen-age daughters certainly get the idea that I am. To please them, I’ve got to give up too many of my interests. It seems to me if I make them happy I have to deny myself too much. Why can’t I do what I want to do, as long as I accept my responsibilities as a husband and father? STEWART: Because the AA steps are ‘terrific’ QUESTION: The two letters you have received that were critical of A.A. bothered me. Because mv husband was an alcoholic, | went to way you do that doesn’t seem to work well enough to suit you. Even though you are “concerned”, as you put it, your family doesn't get that idea from your per- formance. My guess is that your family is not so disappointed in what you do, and how long 11 takes you, as they are disappointed by your inability to share your love for them in a way that is Tewarding to them. It is not as important for you to tell them “You are wrong, I AM concerned”, as it is for you to find the ways available to you to share your concern and your love in a manner that they can understand and appreciate. You ask, “Why can't I do what I want to Alanon and got a lot of help. I learned about the 12 steps and I have been steering my liie by them. They are QUARTS $569 _ Deep and Accent colors slightly higher priced. First quality BREEZE Interior Eggshell, General Paint Semi-Gloss Latex. Breeze Exterior Latex Flat or Sem:- GIoss. do?”. Keep in mind that one of the things you apparently want to do, is have a joyous, SINCE THE DISHWASHER. The first dishwasher with a steam cycle. CTT oday. steam has conquered a norton an ter Dned-on food morstens and loosens most trusting, fun relationship . GENERAL PAINT & WALLCOVERINGS 133 W. 16th St. 988-0141