QUESTION: You seem to be
‘a very bysy. person, into all
sorts of things. How do you
keep..a curb om your ac-
tivities? That sounds like 'm
just ‘passing the time of day
about your. busy-ness, but I
meant it to be an intro-
duction to the question that
4s bothering me.. -

I get so wound up in things
to do that I'd have to be a
whirling dervish to get it all
done. About half the time
Fm only able to accomplish
about half what I want.to do,
or am committed to do. My
very ‘patient and under-
standing wife keeps saying,
“It’s flercet”, and she’s just
about right. One of the
things that make it hard for
me to understand is that !
WANT to do nearly all the
things the tic me up.

‘Fitke what P'm doing (most
of it) and I enjoy accom-
plishing more than most
people. So, Fm into the

accomplishing thing up to

A.

QUESTION: I read a
Women’s Lib thing the other
day that made me laugh. The
writer wants “to preserve our
herstory"!. That's reaily
beyond being fanny. It’s sick
if you ask me. Right?

STEWART: There are
enough excesses in the
women’s lib efforts to bring
that movement almost up to
the excesses of male

chauvinism that we have got
used to for years and years.
(I hear there is a road sign
outside Ladysmith, B.C. that

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my arm-pits (hurrah!) ‘bat
rm also too. tied
altogether (yeuch!) How do I
strike a balance?

STEWART: You may
possibly be one of these guys
that is doing more than he
thinks he can handle
because he.can handle more
than he thinks.

You may not be tied up
because you are doing too
much, but, rather, because
of the nature of the drive in
you that. ‘propels: you into
being’ as active as you are,
¥our letter gives us a couple
of clues. You say (twice) that
you. enjoy MOST of what
you do. I suggest you look
into the reasons behind your
doing those things you

DON’T want to do. Are you |
trying to prove something |

about you? Are you keen to
make an impression? That
sort of motivation often
enough goes to excess. Are

has been changed to read,

“You are approaching
Personsmith”).

In any worthwhile move-
ment there are excesses that
are practiced by its fanatics.
(A fanatic, we are told, is
one who, having forgotten
his purpose, redoubles his
efforts). The greatest harm
done through excesses, lies
pot in the excesses them-
selves but in their tendency
to obscure the excellent
ideas behind them.

Women have been gypped

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ling. His new

you trying to impress YOU
or someone else.

The other clue you give
yourself hides itself (but ‘not
quite) in the phrase, “I enjoy .
accomplishing ‘more than
most people.” Why more?.

What does that do for you? If ©

making an impression is as
important. to you as it seems
to be, remember you are not
only impressing people with
how much you can: ac-
complish, but also with how
tied up you are becoming! is
that satisfying to you?
Perhaps you need to explore
how to rise above
addiction to achievement by
simply enjoying your ad-
mirable preferences. It isn’t
your busy-ness that ties you
up, it is your ADDICTION
to busy-ness. Break your
addiction and your
preferences will quite likely
free you to do as much as
you are doing, WITHOUT
feeling tied up!

erstory ‘lesson

for generations. A lot of
women and a lot of men just

simply do not want that kind .

of thing to continue. We'll
all have to be careful,
however, that we don’t aim
merely for equality of men
and women. What I'm
pulling for is the sort of
respect and love that leads
PERSONS (male or femate)
into the extraordinariness of
being free and _ fulfilled
persons, all of us recognizing
and being grateful for our
“maleness” and our “female-
ness”. Let's be total persons}

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