TI DEAR MISS MANNERS in wails call for — After a separation of 10 days, my wife and £ joined a woman friend of hers at a seaside cottage belonging to a mutual friend. Things got more crowded after the second day, but iniGally there were only the three of us.. The bedrooms of this cottage were close together, the wails by no means soundproof, and the beds squeaky. It was, and is, my contention that my wife's friend should have said something like this: ‘I am sure that you two would like a lit- tle privacy this afternoon. 1 am geing out to the. bookstore and you can couat on me not to .de beck before 3:30.” Falling this, I think my wife should have been willing to give her a gentle hint. Since she is my wile’s friend, not mine, I could hardly. assume the responsibisity. Alss, I knew the womar too " well to expect her to say anything of the kiad, and I suppose that if forced to think about the matter st all, she would assume that my wife and I make love only after retiring for the night, like any re-. spectable couple. Unsfortusately, while my wife ‘ean be unconventional on occa- sien, she was not up-to saying anything either, so while we were wot deprived of consolation " altogether, it was with the uneasy feeling that our neighbor ia the next room was probably listening. _GENTLE READER —- What, exactly, did you wish yeur wife to - say? ‘SHere’s a quarter — go Play in the traffi ic?”? : RISS MANNERS Miss Manners knows of no rule of etiquette that requires fellow guests, or even’ hosts, other people’s lovemaking for them. Obviously a group gathering in a seaside cottage is not conducive to privacy. You should have ar- ranged to have your. romantic re- union elsewhere, perhaps stopping in a hotel before moving to the cottage. is also considered impolite to alert. anyone else to your par- ticipation, however legal, in this to plan. activity. The explanation for retir- ing for the day, which Miss Man- ners admits can be stretched into a plea for having the house to one- self, is a need for rest and ak- solute quiet. Having a headache takes on a whole new euphemistic meaning in this situation. DEAR MISS MANNERS — My husband and 1 have an ongoing difference of opinion about bed- making: Does the printed side of the top sheet face the bottom sheet, so that when it’s folded over the blanket, the right side of the sheet is showing? We'll rest better upon your reply. GENTLE READER — Well, one of you will; Miss Manners is not sure about the other. Imagine that you have a monogrammed top sheet. (Yes, some people do. We love them because they felp us remember our names if we: wake up suddenly during the nigf.t.) Obviously the sheet would have to be placed with the monogram- aied side downward, so that when it is tucked over the blanket, the monogram is not hidden. Well, the same principle applies to the printed sheet, and even, among fastidious people, to a perfectly plain stieet, whose hem one must investigate carefully in order to tell one side from the other. Perhaps one of you is disturbed by having to iook at the wrong side of the printed sheet during summertime, when no blanket is es N. ‘Shore realtors make annual children’s run THE SIXTHEENTH Ane -: nual-North Shore: Realtors’ » Run for - Disabilities will take place in the Paradise Bowl on top of: Grouse. Mountain, North. ’ Vancouver.‘at noon: “on: -Fri- day,: ‘Sept.’ ii. = 8 1992 marks a deparure from - previous ."years,*” says -Machale, one. of the event. orga- nizers. “‘We've tried to make it an - event that. more ‘of. our members ‘ can- get invoived ‘in, while: _Main- competitive. pirit.” FOR ANY MAKE OR - MODEL PLEASE CALL AMBLESIDE AUTO * SALES & LEASE | 925-3233 OR CELLULAR 351-1958 Children | with” Pauiean *: the day. The ‘‘Grouse Ruo”’ will feature a western theme with eis such as a barrel race on’. mountain bikes, a horseshoe-throwing tour- nament and a chili cook-off. New this year is the realtors’ -telay;. however, old favorites in-. :, cluding... the tug-of-war and the- hill-climb. remain on the activity schedule.” “The event has become a-real_ institution on the’ North Shore and it-is a fun. way for participants and spectators to raise money for “the B.C. Lions Society for Crippl- ed Children,” dinators. 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To most of the people I know, the lack of such a card is inter- preted as penny-piaching. i have considered enclosing 2 letter with c signed card, but no matter whet one does, a printed card with x signature looks miserable. In fact, a card thet wasn’t designed to be covered with writ- ing doesn’t look so hot used for a letter, either. What te do? Now in North. Van TAOIST Tai_Chi For HEALTH and RELAXATION . Beginneis siass starts Wed.’ Sept. 16, 7-9 p.m... For information phone TAOIST TALCHI SOCIETY: A Non-profit Organization ouse ru les GENTLE READER This may come as a shock to those who think that etiquette has the corner on materialistic snobbery, but Miss Manners feels obliged to . tell you that it is the effort, not the expense, that counts in achiev. ing propriety. 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