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56 - Wednesday, January 29, 1992 - North Shore News

LIFESTYLES

Can old guys still learn new tricks?

Q. 1 BELONG to a poker
group of older gentlemen

| like myself.

We've been playing poker
together for years, but only
recently began talking to each

other about sex. I was surprised
and: secretly pleased to discover —

everyone is in the beat I thought I
rowed aloze; that is, we can’t sat-
isfy our partners as well as we
once could.

We all have problems getting

‘and maintaining good erections

from time to time, so we decided

to write to you and see if you can

tell us what to do. Are there any
tricks you can share with old guys
like us to make the sex better for
our wives?

A. Yes! The best trick is timing
the sex right. Play poker in the
evenings and have the sex the next
morning. When you are together
with the guys, talk about your
sexual fantasies or maybe your
best sexual experiences. That will
put vou in an excited frame of
mind.

Go home and fantasize to your
heart’s content, but sleep on it. In
the moming when you wake up,
your testosterone level will be at
its highest and you will be inspired
by the evening’s conversation and
the night’s sex dreams.

’ The second trick is:

vibrator. That will take the

- pressure off you to satisfy your
_ wife.

Why don’ you ali go
vibrator shopping together?

Q. -My mother hes been in
Europe for the past three months.
In ber absence, my father has
become. too close to another
woman. They go to the movies.

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They go out to dinner. Often I
hear him talking to her on the
phone in what sounds like a sexy
voice.

fam very worried about what is
going on between my father and
this woman. I have tried to talk to
him adout if, but he denies having
an affais with his ‘‘friend.’’ My
mether will retura soon; and I
don’t know what to do.

Should 1 confront my father
again, more forcefully this time?
Or should [ talk :o the woman?
Or should 1 wait until my mother
is home and tell her what's going
on? I am 26 — old enough to get
the score.

A. You should do none of the’

above!. Absolutely keep your
mouth shut. You are responsible
for your own sex life, not your

. father’s or your mother’s either,

for that matter.

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If your father is having an af-
fair with another woman, your
mother probably knows about it
or at least suspects it. If he is not
sexually involved with his friend,
you would be doing everyone a
terrible injustice by making such
an accusation.

Your concern for your parents
is touching, but misplaced. Forget
your suspicions and look forward
to your mother’s return. Has it
occurred to you that she may have
had her own reasons for leaving
your father alone for three
months?

Q. I don’t know how to handle
a woman I can’t avoid. Recently
she and I were assigned ta the
same duty station in Japan. We
are both in the service.

At one time, we were lovers,
but we haven’t been (together in
two years. She is involved with
another man and not interested in
me, but she constan‘ly teases me
sexuzlly, both by referring to
things we did together in the past
and by making numerous sexual
innuendoes, often in the presence
of others.

If I treated her the way she
treats me, I'd be up on sexual
harassment charges. This woman
keeps me permanently hot and
bothered. What can I do 2bout
her?

A. If possible, ask for a trans-
fer! This is an intolerable situa-
tion. If you can’t get a transfer or
if asking for one would hurt your
career, you musi be very firm with
her. Her behavior is unacceptable.
Don’t feel you must be polite
when she is torturing you sexually
and humiliating you in front of
others. Don’t respond to her

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comments at all.

if completely ignoring her
doesn’t silence her, then wait until
she says something in front of an
audience and tell her “I am
shocked at your conduct and [an-

guage. If ! talked to you this way,
you would be charging me with
sexual harassnient.’” a:

The best punishment of all for
her would be for you to find a
girlfriend. I hope you do!. mo

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