26 - Wednesday, July 5, 1989 - North Shore News Couple are too young for sericus commitment Q. 1 AM 17, rsy boyfriend 16. We used to be close but now he spesads more time with his male friends, which I don’t mind. But the minute he sees me with another guy, even my cousin, he gets mad and jealous. And he doesz’t trust me at all. 1 told him to shape up or ship out and now he wants me back. Should i give him a second chance? ; There is something elsz. Ail the other guys I have gone an) with were the same with me. They didm’t trust me at all. a What should I do? a A. First, tell that 16-year-old to girl. ae , grow up, because 16 is not tco You are probably not ready to not young to learn that a girlfriend has go beyond flirting lightly with a lot ; the same privilege as a boyfriend of guys, not ready to go steady. to associate with other people of That is a normal stage for many, either sex. If he sees you touching many nice girls. You are too young and flirring a lot, and doesn’t like for sex, and probably too young it, maybe neither ore of you is for serious commitment. ready for a serious zelationship. Q. After years of wondering what orgasms are like, I have f- maily learned to ience them. Bat when I have one I also feel the urge to urisate. Is this an ordinary female reaction or should 1 bring it to 2 doctor’s attention? The urge is so intense that I have to hold in the arime forcefully. This ruins an otherwise pleasurable event, and once sgain I am becom- ing inhibited from leiting myself go and enjoying sez. A. Try urinating before having sex, to reduce the pressure on your — ask bladder. This simple advice is given at some point ‘0 almost every woman who secks help wit , . Dr. Ruth this well-known problem. If it . . works, I don’t think you will ro . Dr. Ruth Westheimer _ bother seeing cither a doctor o7 a ‘ . ; sex therapist. What for? \ . But it may not work, and thea ‘ eee ; the smart thing is te see a doctor, . If you only talk and smile with who may show great intezest in » your cousin and other guys, he has = your sexual dilemma but may find . to learn that even a husband hasto some medical cause for your con- , permit a wife to have a normal sciousness of the need to urinate. ' social Efe. If he can’t hack that, he If the doctor finds nothing, a sex : is just too young to have a popular therapist may be helpful. girl for a sweetheart. Let him hang Your worry about this phenom- out with the guys and now and enon may well come from your then try his luck with some other tendency to worry about things. & _| MORE PEOPLE SLEEP ON oe at these low prices shouldn’t you? FULL 398 ais QUEEN 468 ai. KING 696 13 and delicious, nutritious meals for hungry families at a will be taught by Sandy Sinclair, a. of two program being offered by recCentre Lonsdale. boys. The meals are popular, economical and che variety For further information or to register call o87- will aim to please the most difficult to feed. PLAY. ‘ how off the world’s most beautiful Ss city on the city’s most beautiful sightseeing tour. Travel up scenic Howe Sound to Squamish—seven hours of relax- ation and unparalleled scenery on the ma- jestic MV BRITANNIA and the historic ROYAL HUDSON STEAM TRAIN. ook now and take your out-of-town B guests on the BOAT-TRAIN DAY TRIP. Tour runs May 21-Sept. 24. Special dis- counts for kids, teens and seniors. NOTE: ROYAL HUDSON round trip tickets also available. TOUR HIGHLIGHTS INCLUDE ® Tour is nairated, multilingual guides. Souvenir magazines. * Choose your route. ROYAL HUDSON departs N. Van. at the B.C. Rail Station, Pemberton Street. The MV BRITANNIA, leaves downtown Vancouver, north foot of Denman Street. ® Shuttle buses return you to your starting point at the end of day. " RESERVATIONS REQUIRED ° CALL 687-9558 OR 68-TRAIN WESTERN CANADA & U.S.A. 18 663-1500 CALL TOLL FREE