42 — Wednesday, February 22, 1989 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES ENDLESS ‘EXPLORING’ BORING Stop the talk and go to Paris Q. MY CONSTANT companion moved out on me, sayin it was time to get on with the rest of her life. The relation- ship seems te have lived out its own course. As she does net want children, 3 am confused — I just suppose I am not what she wants for keeps. One complaint she made adout me was thal I was uzcom- monicative snd would not discuss our relationship issues. She was too communicative for me, asd that’s a fect. 1 don’t wast my own life to be spent in talking things out; J don’t went 2 relationship devoted to examining itself. vat of ony outgeing, life-loviag, obecesed-with-fectiags women? A. Look, that relationship has ended. But I’m very glad you wrote. There is a lesson here that has probably little to do with you. addresses, that isn’t wemen who don’t want to make the relationship the central conver- sation piece of the relationship — outgoing women. what is important to both parties, but there definitely are too many men and women who got bitten by the ‘‘get it all out’’ bug. It is not an absolute and universal im- perative to tell your partner every feeling and every idea, especially the negative and offputting ones. Or to live out the relationship in agonized discussion of relationship issues. The soulful explorations can go to such an oceanic depth that no- body wants to follow the chief ex- plorer into such a hole. Definitely, a relationship (that could be legal and sanctified marriage, of course) needs a way to air disagreements briskly, but with most couples there is at least one member who finds endless you-me talk boring. I said boring. The get-it-all-out school of couple-counselling has a lot of cye-watering yawns to answer for. Yours is not the oniy relation- ship that I know of to break up because the relationship discus- sions were too on-and-on-and- ongoing. ‘‘Where is this relation- ship going?” gets to be an un- productive query. Better just to take that relationship out on the .dance floor, the tennis court, into a collecting hobby, some shared kind of work. Or best of all, to my mind, to Paris. @Q. I am allergic to ber cat. She says for me to get immunized against cat-for allergy. Is this rea- sonable? Isa’ the sensible thing to Gump the cxt? A. Iam not a pet-keeper, unless you count my family and friends. But I do know that a cat is very muck what makes an apartment home to lots of people. They say that the sight of a sleeping cat makes the human heart purr. Ox, no cat tray in my place, but in yours its OK if you change it often enough. Your gulfriend may think that some regard for her special likings, to the extent of getting allergy treatment, is the sign of considera- tion she is looking for in a man. If she is important to you, you don’t have to love the cat, but try to live with it. Learn clowning skills The workshop, which is happen- - ing on Saturday, Feb. 25 from 10 to 11:30 a.m., is open to anyone age cight and up. Pre-register at the West Vancouver Recreation Centre, 780-22nd St. or call 926- LEARN SOME basic clowning skills at a workshop offered by the West Vancouver Recreation Cen- tre. Meeks the Clown will teach par- ticipants the basics of clowning in- cluding juggling, acrobatics and 3266 for further information. Space is limited. loss? See us for good hearing aid service — sales, repairs, batteries and advice. northwestern hearing centre 1910 Lonsdale North Vancouver Open Tues.-Fri. 9:30-5 Sat. 9:30-1. Closed Mon. sf ADVE MTSE RAE PIT Success | ~snee - See - CROWDS ARE COMING INTO DEPARTMENT STORES for the exciting wrinkle cream. ebS. developed by Pharmacist Robert Heldiond Hes pictured showing hs cream in a Cosmetic Department I's an exciting story of a pharmacist who developed a wrinkle cream which women are requesting throughout the country. Robert Heidfond is making cosmetic head- lines with his ebS Cream. His dream since phar- macy school has resulted in a wrinkle cream which is enjoying tremendous sales in depart- ment Stores and is praised very highly by customers. Research lab tests show that by daily use of ebS Cream. morning and night, facial lines around the eyes. on the forehead, and around the mouth are smoothed. Aad you'll be so pleased to find that eb5 is 5 creams in one jar...eb5 is a wrinkle cream, a day and night NEW LOOK | cream, a moisturizer, aun eye cream, and a make-up base... ail in one. Pharmacist Heldfond’s ebS Cream helps leave the skin soft. velvety and younper-looking. bt contains Liprogen and other effective ingredients. Hf you are concerned about your skin appear- ing to be aging too quickly, try some ebS Cream. One jar lasts for months. Sold with a money- back guarantee (complete details available in-store). ON SALE THIS WEEK! ENY’S UNTIL FEBRUARY 26th