C8-Wednesday, October 22, 1980 - North Shore News QUESTION: I am a 16-year- old girl. I chink of myself as sort of average. Nothing is awful about my life, so far, but I guess ['m a little scared; 1] know it's an old- fashioned word but temp- tations are really bothering me. I have a lot of them bat. there’s another too. I'm tempted a lot to do things that seem OK to me but are not OK with my parents. These are just little things like running out om my chores and staying out later than I'm supposed to. When I'm tempted to do something that even I think fs wrong for me, and still I want to do it, what can I do? I don't want to be a nerd and not get into anything that the other kids are doing, but some of those things are real temptations for me. What do I do about that? Keep an extra set of keys handy QUESTION: My husband is so adamant against me working that the other day he hid my car keys so I couldn't get to work on time. What to do with a guy like that? STEWART: Has he some real good reason for you not to work? Are you waiking out on the kids = or STEWART: Suppose I answer you as though you've got some brains and really want to be quite a person. Are you game? In other words, this will not be some cute bits of advice. Ready? | think it’s a tremendous idea to think about who you are and who you want to be. | mean, think about some of the “end-results” you want in your person. I'm not talking about what you want to have or what kind of job you are “suited for”, but what you want to become. What sort of person do you want to be. Got the idea? Now, next step. Con- something? Don't be huffy now, just think about it. If he has no good reason, get yourself another set of keys and have them ready for such emergencies. QUESTION: (This time, Hayden asks himself a question) Hayden, why did you give such a silly brief sciously choose experiences for yourself that will really contribute to the things you want most in your life. If, in the course of exploring that second step, you are “tempted” to be the sort of ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. His office in the International Plaza Hotel (Open Tuesdays only) ts for the convenience of North Shore residents. person that will take away from the kind of person you want to be, then walk away from it. Don't pal up with anything that will poison the person you are wanting to become. An example? OK, let's take an extreme one. If you are “tempted” to shoot some heroin, ask yourself, if doing that will add to the possibilities of your becoming the sort of person answer to that woman just now? STEWART: Because I have so very little space left, and because the real question she has in mind can't be answered very well without my knowing a bit more about WHY she is working and why he doesn't want her to work. 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