DEAR MISS MANNERS —
At my daughter's wedding,
my husband’s parents were
- seated in the row behind the
bride’s parents, as they were
the first to arrive. Next came
my former parents-in-law,

3 who were seated directly
behind them.

LJ
miss

i by Judith
— Martin
7 P|

Just before the ceremony,
during the soloist’s perfor-
mance, my former mother-
in-law left her seat,. con-
fronted my. husband’s
: parents in a loud voice for

all to hear clearly, saying
that since they were aot
“real grandpurents,”- they
should not be seated where
tye they were and must move.
a : To avoid embarrassing _my
: daughter and guests by
creating a further scene, they
graciously moved back.

Home
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home

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tended the opening said they
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A few had tried other
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I feel that my dear in-laws
were unduly humiliated and
helpless in this situation.
Neither my husband nor I
was present during this inci-
dent, and we did not become
aware of what happened un-
til later,

Was the seating done pro-
perly? There was no exten-
sive rehearsal, as this was a
very informal, small gather-
ing ina minute chapel. I feel
the usher was correct to seat
them as they were, since he
was told that they were
grandparents of the bride

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among the pews

and was unaware they were
“step-prandparents."*

1 am waiting to make
known my feelings regarding
this until I hear from you. If
this letter is made public and
you have a positive reply for
us, perhaps it will ease the
aumiliation and hurt that my
dear in-laws gre feeling. If
not, we can praciously ac-
knowledge the faux pas.

GENTLE READER — You
cannot seriously be waiting
to hear whether loud insults
may properly be directed,

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during the soloist’s perfor-
mance, to elderly wedding
guests who other wedding
guests think were improperly
seated.

There is no chart in
heaven showing which pew is
to be occupied by grand-
parents and which by step-
grandparents, Close relatives
are merely grouped up front,
behind the parents. They are
not supposed to use the

wedding as an opportunity
to revive old feuds. it is a
sensible precaution to sepa-
rate people who cannot be
trusted to behave
themselves, but not a rule of
etiquette, because etiquette
quixotically assumes | that
civilized people do behave
themselves.

Your current in-laws, who
handled the situation with
extreme grace by swallowing

the affront in the interest of
minimizing the public scene,
deserve an ipology. Ob-
viously, they are not going
to get one from whose rude
people.

But you should long ago
have lavished sympa‘hy and
praise on your pre.ent in-
laws. After all, you may
have already demonstrated
disapproval of their tormen-
tors by divorcing their son.

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