QUESTION: Usually I am an exuberant energetic person. It seems to me that is my natural state. Time and again people say to me, “I don't see how you get so much packed into a week, you are always on the go.” I don't see how I do it either. It isn’t that I try hard to do a lot more than other people, it’s just my way and I feel quite at home in it. Now here's the catch which will lead up to my question. Once in a while I just don't seem to have any energy at all!! Here I am, going full steam in my usual way and all of a sudden I just seem to run out of gas. Not only do I have no energy to do what I had planned, but I am completely without interest in doing it and I have no concern about it. During on of these periods I just seem to turn off.At the time, I am not curious about what has happened to me, nor am ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 | forappotntments for individual. family or group counselling. His new office in the International Plaza Hotel (Open Tuesdays only) ts for the convenience of North Shore residents. Love principle work QUESTION: We have in- tended to write you about our current situation but kept putting it off. Then I had the idea of writing to your column so that our good news can be shared by others as well. We are so glad that we didn’t give up on our marriage and end up in divorce or separation. You will remember how close we were to calling it a day. It was about at this point when you introduced us to the Love Project Principles and they seemed to be our an- swer. We really have learned to relate and to love in a much more mature way in these three years. I feel like we have made steady growth each in his own way but my question is, will we pot ever feel like we have “arrived”? We both keep on making good changes, but are we to do that forever? STEWART: Do you want to? Or would you rather settle down? I am roughly three times as old as you and this last year has been full of changes. Thanks for the good letter. Your more personal enclosure reminded me of how you both did not want to © have children because you felt so wobbly in your marriage. Now you are overjoyed with your first child and enthusiastic about the second one that is on the way. Thanks for all that good news! See an expert now QUESTION: My sister and | have recently learned that we are the puzzled owners of nine pleces of some ex- cellent art. Puzzled in that we don't know what to do about our treasures. We're up in the air about whether we want to keep and enjoy them, or get rid of them. If we decide to rid our- selves of them, is it better to sell them privately, or through an art store or a gallery or by auction? I have been led to believe there will TALMUD TORAH Return ride exchange. Take yours from North Van in AM Box 514 c/o North Shore News (ei probably be several thousands of dollars in- volved. I know this Is not your line, but can you offer us any advice? STEWART: First of all (and I feel certain about this) do not pay any attention to my for those who advice. There are very few people in the world who know less than I about the business end of the art world. Seceond of all (as our granddaughter says) get in touch with the Art Department of UBC. can tell the difference. .. our specialty SOLID TEAK dana interiors Itd. 530 Brentwood Mall with designs 291-2012 make your own ‘‘Stained Glass’’ suncatchers Plastic Cooking Crystals Over 100 difterent $333 ¢ Door Ornaments *® Wall Plaques ¢ Mobiles * Jewelry © Key Rings Western Canada’s greatest selection of children’s & adults games you will find in any one store If we can't get It. it doesnt evxust GOOD STUFF GAMES 2045 LONSDALE AVE. Across from London Drugs’ 988-6511 I angry or disappointed. I am simply not with it. This goes on for two or three hours, or perhaps for as long as two whole days. During that time, I don’t want to work (and usually don't) I don’t want to think, I don’t want to eat or exercise or sleep or read or even day-dream. I just turn off. Then, just as curiously, I seem to sense that’ my mystifying neared its end and pretty soon I am back on my “full- steam-ahead” program. I am so pleased to get back into action that I don't even feel badly about the interruption. But a day or two later I feel sort of angry about it. However, when |] know that Pm back into things, I don't want to bother thinking about it or take the time to plan how to avoid it being repeated. Is this a common thing and how do you think | should deal with it? STEWART: Well, I think YOUR best way to deal with it is energetically! First of all, decide right now to have a thorough-going physical check-up. Tell your doctor why you want it to be thorough-going. The idea is to discover if there is some physical reason for your “off-seasons” or to discover that there are no physical aspects to your conundrum and that you can get on with other solutions. The little bit you have told me makes me feel that good old Mother Nature is coming to your rescue by forcing you to ease up a bit, a thing sabbatical has . C13-Sunday News, August 17, 1980. Facing the terrible trauma of turning off that you seem unwilling to do on your own. You are so grateful for your super energy and enjoy it so much that you may be neglecting to steer it and shape it to your total needs. You, perhaps are not keeping it in control, but rather are submitting to its control of your life. Colorful wie OY oft For month of August Consider the wisdom in creating your own reality, consciously, rather than living as if you had no control over your life. Be in charge of your energy and use it to your advantage, don’t just let it manipulate you into periodic need for forced siestas. 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