ROLE CONFLICT WORKSHOP

THE CONTEMPORARY
woman can find herself in
volved ta a multiphoaty ot
roles during the Course of one
week Worker, trend, loser,
daughter,

Palen. sister,
mother the bast seers
endiess

Making the switch trom

roles and thei often conthe
ting caxapectations
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setuipg difficult and
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INFANT DEATH
Surviving a

WHEN A pregnanes ends in
stillbirth. or a baby dies soon
after birth, the parents must
cape wath a mayor tragedy

Well-meant remarks trom
those close to the bereaved
that thes can “‘try again’’ or
Should “try and get over it’
may oonly make matters
WOTSe

During her pregnancy the
mother has already formed a
Strong bond with her unborn
emild, a bond that grows with
every kick and every change
in the mother’s body as she
nears the awaited time Both
parents have probably
dreamed about their tuture
with a child The baby's
death can bring a deep griet
that may last vears

Bereaved parents
through different stages ot
gnief The initial reaction is
shock, often accompanied by
demial and = disbetiet Thes
then move on to a phase of
disorganization, they are
contused and unable to make
decisions or understand what
has happened They need to
talk te others about their
fechnps and often the
father, Conditioned not to
show eMolOn,

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difficult

Onts slowly do parents ac-
cept the loss. Otten fathers
will display anger, and

mothers will expenence guilt
that they in some way ‘‘caus-
ed the death, through ira-
agined tailings such as poor
diet, working, smoking or
having intercourse during
pregnancy

They may cut
ott from others,
whelmingls

themselves
teel oOver-
sad and resent
other mothers and their
babies Only slowly do the
nightmares and = preoccupa-
tion with the baby's image
give way to thoughts of the
present and tuture

As the Fetus and Newborn
Committee of the © anadian
Paediatric Society has recent
Iv pomnted out, physicians are
realizing that they have an
important role in helping par
ents come to terms with their
Toss

They are increasingly con
scious that parents must be
involved in any decisions
about medical care tor their
child, and that a couple
should be given the chance to
see and hold them dead or
terminally-ill baby

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eneounter and an opportum
ty to deselop. practical
Srategies for coping in a one
day workshop, Saturday,
April 28 at the Vancouver
Neurological Institute

Role conbhict arises tromt
he demands of one role jure

ime owith the next The

loss

Even though there may be
major malformations the
fear of the unknown and the
imagined ts often much worse
than the reality

If at the time of the tragedy
parents don’t want [0 see
their child, they may later
want to see a photograph.
Most important, medical and
nursing staff recognize that
they can help by sensitive
understanding and support,
by demonstrating their own
sorrow and by letting parents
stay close to their child at the
time of death

The process of recovery 1s
often slower than parents an
ticipate Another pregnancy
within 6 months may trigger
more grief Doctors are
aware that parents need
reassurance that they are not
to blame, and are prepared to
discuss with them such symp-
toms of grief as loneliness
and insomnia

If vou would like to suggest
topics for future items, please
contact Dr Everett Coffin,

President, Canadian Medical
Associanon, PO Bax &680.
Ottawa, Ontario, Als OG&8

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realities Of living as a career
woman and a mother often
has women constantls
Negotiating between the two
and ending up frustrated
The complexities of even one
yob can feveal an artay of
Sub-roles that pull women in
Opposing directions

Group. leaders C larissa
Green and Valerie Ward will
focus on an active explora
tion of the roles that women
play, incorporating the actual

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Situations of workshop par-
Hhoipants, and ending with
common-sense solunons The
groups limited to 20 to allow
for a tree and informal inter
action of ideas and teelings
Clarissa Green is an assts-
tant protessor ut b BO) who
tcaches and does research on
lamily dynamics. As well she
is researching the interface
between women's work and
their health Nalerie Ward is
an employment

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tickets are $25 for Network
members and $30 tor non
members, available by
registration Mondays.
Wednesdays and Friday,
8 30-4:30, at 228-4467
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