48 - Wednesday, February 5, 1992 — North Shore News

Q. OUR YOUNGEST child
has just moved back home.
A recent college graduate, she
is, like many young people these
days, unable to find a job. We
love her dearly, but having her
living with us again is creating a

LIFESTYLES
Couple’s old scenario not enough anymore

Dr. Ruth
Westheimer

problem of which she is totally —

unaware.

During the last four yeurs, my
husband and i rediscovered each
other sexually. Inspired by the
freedom living alone together
provided us, we became more ex-
citing and imaginative lovers. We
no longer restricted our lovemak-
ing to the bedroom late at night.

Now we feel we're stuck with
that old scenerio again. What can
we do (ce keep the lovemaking ex-
citing?

A. Because of the economic
realities of our times, many fami-
lies find themselves in your posi-
tion. Don’t get upset about the
situation. Hopefully, your daugh-
ter will find a job and start her
new life soon.

Meanwhile, if you can afford to
do so, check into a motel once a
week. If you can’t do that, you
will have to rely more on your
fantasies of remembered sexual
encounters to liven things up in
the bedroom. aan vf

While you are making love, iell
each other your favorite stories
about those times when you could

make love freely all over the .

house. And when your daughter is
going to be out for a while, drop
everything and have sex! .

Q. My boyfriend is preparing to
go out of town with his buddies

OPTIONS

THE FOLLOWING is a selection
of many volunteer opportunities
available through North Shore
Coramunity Services (NSCS).

‘AN. ART show ‘opening on
Wednesday, April ! in 2 new
gallery needs a security person to
watch the gallery during show
hours: This is an opportunity to
learn more about art, and the
hours are flexible.”

THE COHO Enhancement
Program: needs a person to work
in a mini hatchery. The volunteer
will be taking temperatures and

feeding salmon. This is a great.

opportunity to contribute to the
environment. The hours are flexi-

Allstate’
ADVANTAGE ACCOUNT
¢ RRSP ELIGIBLE
¢ GUARANTEED
COMPOUND INTEREST
¢ NO ADMINISTRATION
FEE Om CHARGES

THREE 6 f %

MONTH
1 YEAR

2 YEAR

INTEREST PAYABLE
ON LARGER DEPOSITS

CALL RON HOLMES or
CHRISTOPHER GEE

Allstate 985-5131
SEARS 9.3 Marine Drive
North Vancouver
RATES SUBJECT TO CHANGE

ASK OR. AUTH

for the weekend. They are going
mountain climbing. I wanted to
go too, but he said I couldn't.

1 dos't anderstand this because
I Nike the guys and they like me
and 7 wouldw’t get in the way. I
am as athietic as he is, so it’s not
like i'd be asking him to carry my
pack. ao

He jokes that he needs
time for ‘male bonding.”’ 1 feel
left out.

What cdo men do when they
bond? I have read a few things
about the men’s movement; and it
all sounds pretty silly io me. Does
this mean he might be gay? _ .

A, We talk so much about

‘homosexuality these days that men. |

are suspected of being. gay every
time they want to go hiking
together!

ble and orientation is provided:

A YOUTH worker who enjoys
teens aged 12 to 19 years is needed
to assist at a drop-in centre. The
assistant will be involved with the
social program and orientation
will be provided. The hours are
from 7 to 10 p.m. Tuesdays
through Saturdays.

A TUTOR with good com-
munication skills is wanted to
teach elementary school children,
whe have learning difficulties, a
variety of academic subjects.
Training workshops begin in Feb-
ruary and the hours are flexible.

A TELEPHONE § counsellor
who has some knowledge of

some. *

This is not something you
should worry about at all. Male
bonding simply gives the men a
chance to be friends together the
way they were in childhoud, They
can hang out and act {ike adoles-
cent boys without offending any-
one else by their silly behavior.

You should be glad your
boyfriend has male friends. Men
who have no friends of their own
expect their girlfriends and wives
to provide all the emotional sup-
port they need in life. This is too
great a burden for any woman to
bear!

So be happy your boyfriend has
good friends and enjoys spending
time with them.

Q. I am a working mother who
also takes care of the children anc
everything in the house. Our kids
are both under six.

Each day I take them to
daycare, dash to wesk, pick them
up from daycare, come home,
cock dinner, do the chores, tend
the children, put them to bed. My
husband reads, waiches TV and
naps on the couch.

‘ As soon as the kids are down,

 he’s.ready for sex; and I am ready

fo collapse. I don’t want sex at all

_ during the week because I am just

toc tired!
He says he hates coming heme
at night because F never want to

‘have sex with him.’ What can I do

fo save my marriage?

A. This is a very unfair situa-
tion, and you must change it right
now! Tonight sit beside him on
the sofa. Put one hand on his
crotch. In the other hand, you will
have a large sheet of paper.

women’s issues is needed to give
support to women suffering from
post partum depression.
Telephoning is done from your
home. The hours are flexibie and
training is provided.

A NEW cultural facility on the
West Vancouver waterfront needs
sociable people to set up and
assist lecturers during pres-
entations and to introduce the

‘speakers and musicians. Training

is provided.

‘If you are interested in volun-
teering cal! 985-7138. NSCS is a
member agency of the United
Way.

Romance by the Sea for 3 days and 2 nights. Romantic
dinner dance by candielight and 2 breakfasts
overlocking beautiful Parksville Say and a chsnce to
win a heart-shape diamond ring. Take a swim,
relax in our hot tub or just stroll along the
beach and enjoy nature at its best!

2 Nights Accommodation
Dinner Dance Friday Night
2 full breskfasts

‘250

per couple

FEB. 14-16, 1992
‘ey plus G.S.T.

> Bayside inn
ZA Resort

PO. Box 3000, 240 Dogwood St, Parksville, 3.C.
TOLL FREE RESERVATIONS 1-800-663-4232
BOOK YOUR SPACE EARLY TO ENSURE AVAILABILITY

(604) 248-8333
FAX (604) 248-4689

Say, “Honey, | love you: and !
would like to have the energy to
make love to you again. We are
going to do something about that
right now. Which of the house-
hold chores would you like to do?
If we share them each night, |
won't be too tired for sex after
the children go to sleep.’*

Keep your hand on his cretch
and write with the other hand. Do
not get up from that sofa until the
household chores have been divid-
ed in two columns. Promise him
you will be the best mistress in
bed he could ever imagine having
now that he has agreed to do half
the chores,

MONTESSORI ACADEMY PRESCHGULS “®
OPEN HOUSE .

Saturday, February 8
10am -Zpm

French!

social
courtesies!

Registration for September 1992

Le Petit: 980-7973
195 East Windsor Read
Upper Lonsdale

Mes Patits: 380-1102
440 Hendry Avenue
Lower Lonsdaie

B.:

"AUSED CAR,
MAKE SURE §T’S.
AA NON-SMOKER.

Next summer, British Columbia will
introduce AirCare, a vital part of the government's,
effort to improve air quality in the Lower

Mainland.

‘Beginning in July 1992, all passenger cars, -
motor hemes and light trucks must be inspected
to make sure they’re tuned properly and that
emission control systems that were originally
installed at the fectory are in place and
operating efficiently. This inspection will be
required before a vehicle's license can be

renewed.

So if you're thinking of buying a used car, _
light truck or motor home, be sure it’s in goad
mechanical condition and that its emissions
control devices have not been removed or
tampered with. If you're not sure what to look for,
ask a qualified service technician.

Finding out before you buy could save you

time and money later.

Vehicle Emissions
Inspection & Maintenance

Motor Vehicle Branch

Province of British Columbia