‘Ta am in receipt oftwo
“letters, quite different
- from one another, yet;
actually, they” explore .

There ‘follows -¢ extracts

“my single response to.
the two of them. _

“LETTER ONE (fren a pong, |
. Gone...

- mamj: My parents.| he
_everything for me theycould,
including teaching ' me to- feel

_ most comfortable and secure -

when | recognize my depend-

ence upon them and accept it
7 as apart ofmy way of life. As ©
L SAY, T reallly’ enjoy. “ean.
'_jAimg’?: om them. I¢ makes: me
'. feel ‘safe and secure. How-
. ever, I have become aware |
: recently that there is another”

a must ; berome' *e more - _inde-
7 pendent: ‘aud more my own)
person. I like just.being their |
som, but I can see I am sort of ©
2 nahody. It’s. in the. cards: for.
me to quit. Jeaning and to |

. become strong in‘ myself. So,

Tam beginning’ to be my own
“person. When ‘other people ©
* fitke that, PH ‘be pleased, of.
- COURSE, but. when. they-don’t, ©

that’s thelr - tough — inck.

-That’s what I say, in my ._
~ mind, but I-feel like a. traltor will

and that I am ignoring my: —
‘obligation to my parents. -

and’; honest, | :

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"MENTAL AWARENESS

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and independence. in:

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. dog. to “be aware, : from .
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| object is that he sees and, :
“how, the, dog: should : ‘react.
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“LETTER: TWO: Iam a wife
and ‘mother of three, in my
t . Tate 30's. I made up my mind

“years before I was married —
_ that I would give my all to'‘my
husband and children ‘and

“that” is. exactly” what I have.
been ‘doing. “1 feel”
- responsibility ay am happy
: from both: letters: and - to accept it. I always put my _
“Joved ones: first and” am

“feel my

literally living ‘for them. Of
“course, that means I must |
sacrifice but‘l am willing te
do just that - in fact | WANT
to. do it. Some of my friends
- tell me that is no way to live.
‘They. say Iam ‘ urying”?
myself. What's. wrong” with
that? They say Iam simply.
“serving”? my husband and.
children. What's wrong with

“free to live my" ‘ewn life the
“way. T-want to. If.1 want to -
‘subordinate myself and serve-
‘my loved. ‘ones’ - - what’s -
_ wrong with that? I don’t like |
people who say, “me first”?

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‘STEWART: These. ‘two. tet-: z
‘ters are from two. people ©
_ who, in vastly differing wa ays,
want to take advantage of .
their freedom to .live their’
“fives: in’ ways: that. let’ them |
feel good about. themselves.
“Tf” the - young » - man
“exchange his’'sense_ of “Ob:
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to: his: patents, he
likelihood. be: able |
“to move ‘toward. his. freedom

you. is :good: and: ‘important
then others.
- resent you and back off. from
you. either because they. are.
ready. 1. move. ‘along.

‘because you are ‘presenting .
' badly what you:
.““found’’. You | were ‘not |
‘ready. yourself just a few
short months: .ago.. Right? |
‘have. difficulties with the
“VE [FOUND | IT’*” people ©
because they: seem (to me) to -

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“bon over half a century ago |
on a Wisconsin farm: ‘amid ©
dogs. and: other aniimals,”’ ‘it »

a wasn’t until after.a lengthy —

‘military service and 13 years —
as a. baseball player and —
manager that. he ‘started ©

spending 24 hours a.day for |
e last 32 years. with: his ©

"dogs. - a

One golden rile’ treasured,
by: Eisenmann,
resides. in . Hollywood, °
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important as what :th

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I would be judged Py that one»
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‘ herself last, she will need to
check on herself occasionally

out of. Jearning . how. to
others... By “describing “her |

she wants to do.’ It could be
. that she really wants her: way

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‘were to hurt or bite satat ong rie at some answer. for)

that “will be ‘rewarding “to. L..
shimself‘and to his parents. If | —
‘they cannot see what he is.
doing and ‘be grateful for it,
he will need io ‘carry-on
anyway as graciously as he
can, always remembering his
gratitude, but always moving
toward his. ‘maturity.

‘The: sit of freedom the |
author. ofthe ‘second’ letter mE
wants is‘béautifully danger- | . '.
ous... If she’ ‘CHOOSES . to” i
subordinate. - herself - and
- serve her loved ones and put _

to see if that is what she
really wants to do. Or, if, on
the other hand, see if she is
choosing that asa waythatis |
_(to her) simply an easy way |

‘respect herself: as ‘well. as_
_ghoice as ‘ax ‘sacrifi e”” ‘she’

has made me wonder if. what.
-she is doing, is, i

in fact; what: eas

of life to. be. sacrificial. and

-etately selected that path. If.
‘so, more power to her! But,
she is kidding herself abo’
choosing. ¢ to be a. sacrificial

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