QUESTION: There's a thing I want to do and I don't want to do, both at once. It’s a . thing I feel wrong about. But © what I do is argue myself - into believing that I'm old- : fashioned, or inhibited. About feeling wrong g about it, I just tell myself that’s just your conditioning and a part of the old morality you were brought up on. I tell myself — it’s a new-age Pm living in and I shouldn’t bow down before the old standards of my parents. But I still feel it’s wrong for me. Do you think Pm just inhibited and too darned staffy for my Own good? Or do you think it is really right for me to play the game by Page C10, August 1, 1979 - North Shore News However, perhaps: I could give a general vague answer. Generally speaking (he said, vaguely), it’s pretty good sense to treat with suspicion any “logic” you bring purpose of convincing yourself that your inward feeling is not worth heeding. If you feel something is “wrong” for you, it is quite likely that all your logic will still leave you feeling guilty. We. are not too know-. ledgeable about what con- science is, but we do knowit . is mighty powerful. If you want to feel lousy and depressed, go against your inner voice and side with your home-made arguments. into play for the | ask hayden stewart ~ Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart. may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family: or group counselling. His new office in the Internationa! Plaza Hotel (Open- Tuesdays only) is for the convenience of North Shore residents. m | too stuffy? yourself and better able to -trust yourself, you will be in > @ position to examine your old standards with a view to ascertaining their ‘validity or lack of it. It’s over-simplification on -my part to lay this"on you, but I want to suggest that for TODAY you would be wise to listen to your “feelings,” because there are some things that you KNOW you know. As long as you ,_know” them, go with them. * They probably will never let —you down. The more you get used to going along with what you deeply “know” within yourself, the more freedom STEWART: Your letter. is rather vague and general. It leaves me _ confused. But if you want to feel more sure of yourself, listen to your inner voice. Then, as you become more sure of Only . ashot at it. STEWART: Previously, I’ve been asked to define God and love and life-standards. Each time I refused to come ~ through with a definition. But this time I think Pll take — ” — Abnormal sex (like God and love and life-standards) has no over-all definition, that has validity for everyone. Even the word sex (without the “abnormal”’) cannot be defined “in general.” So any definition that I give must youcan! bel - your sexual activity leave room for your awareness of your own personal feelings and at- titudes and conditioning and conscience and religious convictions, etc. So here goes. - “Abnormal sex is, for you, any sexual activity, physical or mental, that seem to you to be abnormal for you, or for your partner.” tacked-on, __ That definition remain valid for you until such a time as you come to may - feel differently about what seems to you to be abnormal for you. In other words,. nothing is sexually ab- normal, in general. Only you can label your own sexual activity as being ‘currently abnormal for you. - If yours is a love relationship and your partner considers some sexual experience to be abnormal, then it will quite likely come about that you will also see it as ab- normal, siniply because she does, and you love her. THEY'RE SINGING THE SAME OLD TUNE: Problems bring gifts QUESTION: I'm wondering on the same wave length as ‘found its way into the New _how many people will point the author of the Love Testament, in which he said, your inner self will have to out to you that Richard Bach Principles. She says, “When all kinds of trials and give you more mature (author of Jonathan “Perceive problems as __ tribulations crowd into your . So, i i “Livingstone Seagull) says, in opportunities”. lives, don’t resent them as and saying “yes”, and your his new book — ILLUSIONS intruders, but welcome them inhibitions will be handled in — “There is no such thing as STEWART: Yes, and 2000 as friends”! His quote seems some good way just at the right time. a problem without a gift for you In its hands”. He must be years ago, James wrote a letter that subsequently tougher to me,.but all three are singing the same tune. Culminating high in the heaven the sun quickens Nature’s processes and prepares for harvest. In like manner, cach human being should strive to fulfillment, fairs of wordly involvement or his/her higher nature. ‘Sun in Leo offers much drive, energy for all those who aspire. Masculine signs Leo, Libra, Aries, Gemini in particular, should capitalize on Leo sun's released energy force; challenges may be ex- perienced by Scorpio, 7 Aquarius, Taurus. The remaining signs will achieve according to the effort they putin. a Seen min *. a en Raa “Ay fae - RRS to August 23 Watch out that youdo not bite more than you can swallow. Leo month lends much self-assurance and confidence. Use it to productive purposes. VIRGO Angust 24 September 23 A good time to attend to unfinished business, attend to chores and duties you neglected in the past. Much goodwill may be created thereby among your family, friends and acquaintences. self-. whether in af- Sagittarius;- . . 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