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QUESTION: I hate my body
and I don't know anything I

_, can do. about it. My bust i
-_ really a bust. It's practically’

nothing. My ight aise are =
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(male). re

My “Seating arrangement”
is_-very comfortable, but
that’s aff you can say for it.

. What's to cheer about when

you have a good flat tammy
bat also have a good fist
chest?

It's not nearly as fanny 23 I

“Hike the way I am. By the
recreational

way, my three

interests are swimming,
tennis and baskethall. They
just don't go along with my
body.

.- Tam very depressed about

| my self. What can I do about

it?

STEWART: You say your
three recreational interests
“just. don’t go along with
your body”, Well why should
they? You don’t go along
with it either!

I think I know how badly
you feel. there is no joy at all
in resenting your body. I
wish I could say some cheery
thing to pep you up, but that
would not serve you well in
the long run.

It is much more down to
earth for me to urge you to
accept what you have and,
saying to yourself, “this is
the way it is for me”,
proceed to make the very
best of it.

QUESTION: Im a recent
colama you printed a letter
from a woman who was
upset over her changes of
feelings and attitudes during
certain phases of her
menstrual cycle. I was
surprised that you did not

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A woman who
‘hates her own body.

True, your feelings ghoat.

your body~do affect,

whole being, but >
your feelings a your
whole being also affect your
body. So, seeing . you
currently have a war going
on against your body, ' I

.. would urge you to resign
from that war and instead,

pour all that useless energy

spent on resentment, into

finding and developing and
being grateful for other
aspects of your life in which
you already excel or have
great potential.

Be happy over the things

‘you like about yourself and

improve upon them. But.
above all practise and learn
how to accept all of yourself
as being your reality. The

‘fact is, you have a body you

don’t like at the present
time.That’s the way it is with
you. It is one of your facts.
Accept it as a fact of your
life. But also, please accept
other realities of yours.

Accept ALL of your facts,
not just the fact about your
attitude toward your body.
As you t EVERY-
THING abdypt yourself, you
have a much better op-
portunity toc

At first you may not be
able to change. “the
measurement of your thighs;
but you CAN change your
attitudes about the
measurement of your thighs.
And when you change your
ATTITUDE (by total ac-
ceptance of yourself as you

are) you have a much better |

chance of changing your
measurements, (to a degree,
at least) and, more im-
portantly, to change your
reaction to those
measurements.

Talk to doctor

advise her to guestion her
doctor.

STEWART: [m_ surprised
too. It would have been a
more complete response had
I done that. Thank you for
your team-work.

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The A.A. serenity prayer

would be timely and ap-_

propriate for you just about
now. Do you know it? Try it
out about ten times a day for
awhile. -

Here it is: God give me the

serenity to accept the things
I cannot change; -

know the difference.
And be grateful for your

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delightful!

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Yes, WHY?

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the scores of other people
who get that sort of poor
say

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quite congenial, but

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