QUESTION: r am 40 years. old and have a fairly good . Job as: far’ as. income and . benefits go. I trained myself for it and have been at it for 7 years. But I don’ t like. it. Ds yde! Stewart may. ‘be reached at 261-024: woe for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. His ne - Office in the International Plaza Hote Open Tuesdays oni is forthe convenience of. North ‘Shore residents. ae os Freelance Counsellor Ha len “had | caay ‘experience "with YOU, until your letter arrived. There’s so much I - do not know about you and. ‘the nature of the risks you are contemplating taking, cand, about your ability to At times. it really gets to me. 'T've hung in there for all - these. years because it was making it: possible for me to care for my family and pay my bills; etc. But for the last couple of years I have come close to quitting on three or four occasions. . I have not quit because. the thing I want to do would amount to a pretty big risk. I want to go into business for “myself ina rather unknown line. My wife gives me good support and although I think _ she would like to see me do what I want to do, I sense that she is pretty scared. I think’ I‘ could swing” it financially to quit my job and make the big change over. ‘Do you think I should? At my age? ['ve asked a lot, of people what they. think and their. answers. have | not helped.s bit. About half of them say, “What are « you waiting for? Take the jump, and the other half say, “Don't be crazy. You've got a good job and these are very dicy times.” So now I ask you, from your experience with a lot of people, what do you think? STEWART: You are right - I have had “experience with a lot of people”, but I’ve never Are you talking yourself ' don’t eal with risks. So I can ‘answer only from your - letter. - In view of your indecision, why not learn from yourself what you are sure of? I get the feeling you are sure you experience ‘ecstasy about: continuing in your - present job for a long time. I — get the feeling you want very very much to follow your dream.and get on with this thing that pulls at you. But wait a minute!! Do NOT doit tomorrow. Get ready for it - in every way possible. You. say, “I think I could swing it financially”. All right, how long do you need before you say, “I know I can-swing it “financially”? What I am saying is, I believe you should DECIDE to quit your job, and DECIDE -you are ‘going to follow. your dream, and DECIDE to get ready for the big leap, and DECIDE how long you will give yourself to prepare. Do you need six months? A year? Two years? Let yourself know you are going to do it, then devote the next few months or years to getting ready to do it as well as you want to. Your current job, as you say, has served you well. Let it continue to into something? QUESTION: You said, in response to a recent letter, that you do not make any fudgement of lesbians. At first I thought, how beautiful. But since then | have been unable to believe you. 1 think you told us what you would LIKE to think about lesbians. I think you are talking yourself into something that you belleve is the way you'd like to he. Any comment? STEWART: You may be right you know. But honestly, I think you are wrong in your assumption. I am not enthusiastic about lesbianism as a way of life, but I think I do not judge any lesbians I have met. Thank you for writing as you did. It prompted me to rethink what I had said and how I feel now. It was a fair question. And the choir sang ‘Smile, darn you, smile’ QUESTION: I went to a church (!) the other day where the choir sang, “Oh what a beautiful morning”, then, “Smile, darn you, smiles” and finally “Lord of the Dance”. What would you or your readers think of that? STEWART; [ would have to hear it first. Did they do it ‘well? 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