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QUESTION: Basically J am
a rather cerfous Introvorted
person, socially awkward and
perhaps too censitive:

When = was young, I
overcomponsated and he-
came quite wild. ...many
people were ecandallzed by
my actions...yot many of
them camo to admire my

oldor, with an elght-year-old
son, I have toned down a jot
-and am carnostly striving. to
bo a more loving poreon, for!
realize now how unloving I

STEWART: lam convinced
you would not have written
such an open, forthright
letter to us if you had
expected us to suggest cold
showers, medication and
longer prayers. It scems to
me that your considerable
change of life-style is crying
outto you for an even better
understanding and still fur-
ther emergence into total
living.

1 feel too that you already
sense that LOVE is the
answer for you. (Yau say, ‘'l
know I just want some

Freelance Couneelior, Hayden
Stewart does private counsel-
ling as woll as @ great deal of

group work. He can be.
‘contacted at 261-6242 for
v information and appointments.
Letters are always welcome.
Mali them .te HAYDEN

STEWART, c/o the North
Shore News, 4202-1153 Lons-
dale, North Van.

have been, espectally to
exhusband, peolally to my

up with my soa, work
{which I love) and spiritual
efforts and study. This
chango fn mo has resulted in
anes oment from my old
friends who cannot lose tholr
old picture of mo. This would
be fine, if I could find now
friends who accept mo ag I
am. .

I can elncercly say I am
‘opon and thenest and
loving,"® but my basic shy-
nese cooms to havo ome ed

man plo In

lam aloof and @ purist. J
realize I am loncly and am
dying for intollectual com:

with
panionship, To compound, ing soll AGOUFAHCO...8 am not

this wholo problem and mako
mo ovon shyor,: I'm always

love’’).- Your old ilfo-style,
from which you have chosen
to move away, and your new
experimental and rather ten-
tative emphasis on what you
call the spiritual are not
comfy with cach other at this
point,

The conflict tends to block
off from you a rewarding
understanding of what this
love is that you ‘‘know’’ you
need and want. Your spirit-
ual growth suggests to me
that you are moving toward a
more profound rclationsnip
with God and with people.
Hang in there and you may

‘even wished mysolf back in

homo . Evor since I etepped
being” satisfied with cno

. This ts
night stands I’ve beon nutsholl iff don’t find sexual

problom Ina golng to filp out er take up
again with strangor:, It's. .
BOMCOnO tten so that I am one of
it to almost tke an willing to be a friend as weil 080 poeple who just want to
ebsession and interfercs with [and there must be spiritual’ got into bed. know 2 Just
my life on ali lovela, I have supporttoc) thon am elther want some, love, why fe that

impossible? |

eatiofaction with

tho old crass days. Now, with
my now senso of values, this
is imposstbic for ma. I can't
havo that sort of rolationsh
with semeono I don’t fool fer
Tho pooplo | mest now

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soom to rospect mo, and yot I Ls
am really noeding a lovers= Your holidays —_ personally
I can be freo with, No-one arranged=espeolally for

suspoote what a problom this Hawall, Crulses & Qhartere,
Is for me. I ecaro people off |

intensity and coon

LOU cROSsIZ . 480 WEST 18TH BTREGT

colibacy.

soon discover reality In the
claim that GOD IS LOVE,

Real love--even ‘spiritual
love’’ (a horrible term) is not
something to have Instead of |
something else you long °
for—it is the most all-inclu:
sive experience available to
us, Cool it now, remember:
Ing that the real thing you

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announces the
opening of his ne
Travel Agency at

want is within you already, @mel aannell
OrGe GNU BUNUUGIS

. Giving it away will In no wa
diminish it, but rather, it will
add to its abundance, GIVE '
love to Reople who need it
‘and you'll find yourself more
and more on the receiving
end,

-chartere and toure
“flighte to anywhere

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QUESTION: The letter In pregnancy shows a good must say that most of your
, your column from the par- sense of responsibility, fore- letter shows a healthy
“ ents who discovered that thought and respect for attitude and some pretty

thelr fifteen year old daught- human life. Thelrdaughter!s good sense, Having said
er was taking birth control coming to the age when she that, I invite you to read the
i - plile sounded so angry and isrealizing thatherlifeisher letter again to ses if you find
‘ scared it prompted me to own and that (t deca not any of It that sounds a little
ie * write. | . belong to the ts who bit ‘starry- ved or stubborn,
7 Ican certainly understand Sve It to bor. It ts time her or unwise. I'm just wonder
14 ‘that parents would worry Parente realize thattoo. They ing about the wisdom of a
i about their young: daughter @#ve her a iife and did thelr youn | woman who, as you
having s sexual relationship.’ best to teach her how to use ee tal has alroady made the
know ft can hurt a parent it. Instead of feoling bet- ‘eclsion to have these

deeply. Along with el. these te should ‘‘elatlons and will continue to
of betrayal come fear for the fool proud that they have

do so whether she (is
thelr Protected against prognancy)
7 of thelr daughter. tor very impor
7 ' (These parents though, tant

or not. Do you fool at a
smart attitude? I a wi
sr, Thevncaytor Rates het sti i
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ay mace the decision to YOU te ent, nats easy for and wisely OR to mess it up:
relations and parents. In fact, I'm‘ guies- in tty he that could add a
‘continue to do so whether ‘sing that you are: the ree, oavy id a 1 a
she ts taking the pill or not. daughter. If you are—or If grog 9 O° SO US
The fact that thelr daughter you are a young woman in ,
is taking precautions against similar ‘clroumstances—I

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