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QUESTION: Pm 16 years of
age and have. quite a few
friends but there is a

. problem Pm trying to figure
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Freelance Counsellor Hayden
Stewart may be reached at
261-6242 for appointments for
individual, family or group
counselling.

His new office in- the Plaza
Hotel {open
Tuesdays only] is for the
convenience of North Shore
residents.

Letters are always welcomed.
them to “HAYDEN
STEWART, c/o The North
Shore News, #202-1139 Lons-
date, North Vancouver.

‘QUESTION: What do you
think is potentially the most
harmful or the most danger-
ous to a person’s total health,
pot, alcohol, tobacco or hard .
' drugs?

STEWART: I’m elad you are.
aksing about one’s TOTAL
health, because I expect you
are interested not only in
physical health but in men-
tal, emotional and spiritual
health as well. And I’m glad
you asked about the POTEN-
TIAL harm or danger to total
health, because that lets us
‘escape considering many of
the variables that have to do
with ‘‘How much do you
use?’’, ‘‘Under what circum-
stances do you use it?’’,
‘*How old are you?’’, etc.
etc.

Before answering you, let
me say | am not answering as

; isor oe: Hl ud

QUESTION: Pm so dlsorgan-
ized even I can’t believe it! I
turn up for things an hour
early or an hour late or on the
wrong day even. I have even
been known to agree to be
two places at the same time.
This Is very embarrassing for.
me at times. For example my
friends joke about it and call
me to remind me of things
and always kid me.

Last week I was ready for a
date almost an hour ahead of
time and then didn’t know

what to do with myself while

I walted for my guy. I got
interested In defrosting my
fridge and before I knew It I
was a mess and all sorts of
frozen things out on the iable
when the bell rang and there
he was! In that hour I had

completely forgotten I was
supposed to be all ready for

him at a set time!

'

‘STEWART:

scene off and on. But try to

out. Pve had quite a bit of.
training im classical music.
[for my age] and I really
enjoy it. So far so good. But
where I have the trouble is
because I hate most of the
music that my friends like.
And the places they go for
fum always have the kind of

music I hate. I know you
could say to me that i should

just stay away from those
places, but the trouble is, if I
stay away from those places I
miss out on a jot of the things
my gang do together and I

don’t want that to happen. I

mican, even when a few of us

_ get together in one of our

homes, on goes this horrible

‘music at a volume you.

wouldm’t believe, It seems

‘impossible for me to switch

from Chepim to Kiss. Have
you got any ideas for me?

Surprise! sur-
prise! I’m acquainted with
Kiss and it isn’t too hard for

sateen we

me to understand how you

_ feel. Here are a couple of
ideas: First, don’t discount
the possibility of your coming

up with some idea that. is
better than listening to that.
kind of music, which might

also appeal to your gang. I
_ don’t mean you should try to
_ get them into YOUR kind of

music, but. that you might
think of other things altoge-
ther that they might learn to
like a iot. In other words, get
a better idea fora party or an
event and see if you can put
it over.

- Don’ t be afraid. to back
away from the loud music

an expert. I answer only from

observing and talking with-

people over the years and

_ seeing (as a counsellor) what>
they.

sorts. of | problems’
develop as a result of their
particular intake.

In order of potential harm

and danger to total health, I _

put hard drugs out in front.
Running a close second is
alcohol,
finally pot.

Going beyond your ques-
tion, I would like to say that
there is still another poten-
tially harmful and dangerous
‘intake’? that I would un-

hesitatingly put ahead of

them all. It has to do with
‘‘inhaling’’ the utter hog-

wash that you NEED one of

the substanced you mention

above in order to experience

" music snob, you can probab-

stuff. sufficiently to enjoy

- study what is really happen-. |]
ing in the other music? Pay

are put together to win the -fy
‘support of so many million |
. kids. :#

exploring at all the social

. friendships. It’s your life you
know, so use all of it you can!

_ already a part of you waiting
_ for you to be free enough to

then tobacco and.

i? Choicei

I'll choose an outfit to wear
and at the last minute find
the skirt is at the cleaners or I
forgot to bring home the
swenter I planned to wear.
Disorganized beyond belief -
that’s me. What can I do
about it?

“STEWART: A person who is

plagued by your kind of.

disorganization is —short-
changing himself in the area
of self-discipline. You have
strong drives toward bcha-
viour that is embarrassing to
you or even harmful and a
weakness of resistance . to
such drives.

If you also tend to be
nervous and blue and extra
critical, you will be burdened
even more by your lack of

self-discipline. Here are
some suggestions to
consider.

So page 13 - April 6; 1977 - North Shore News

see to it that your backing off
is because you have another’
thing to do that appeals to
you more. Let the gang know
that you'll see them next
time. Are you up.on the ear
plug things? Wear them. Lot
of people do. And finally, if
you are not just a classical

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what THEY § like. ‘Your
training may even help you.
Why not try, with your
classical - background, to

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“one whale of a high. You
“have been created in such a
way that your best. high is.

accept it and respect it and’
use it up to the hilt of human
experience.

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The others are not short-
cuts. They all take more
energy, more time, more.
money, more suffering, more
hurting (of your Self and
others). In fact, the cost to
you is simply, and without
any doubt, astronomically
more than you can afford to
handle. So, the potential
harm and danger to -your
total health that ranks higher
than any of the substances
you mentioned is the wobbly [|
thinking that makes you §
think you NEED something
outside yourself, (I will now
get down out of my Pulpit).

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1, CHOOSE to be organiz-
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to see happen”.

2. Avoid fatigue. Balance
your work and play. loads.
Get good sleep.

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