38 - Wednesday, January 23. 1991 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES Fiance should give her a hand Q. i WAS years into my Pest marriage before | discovered what you have often said in your column: Most women seed direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. U don't have an orgasm during intercaurse, ao matter how long it lasts, unless § touch myself. Since my divorce three years ago, I've only been sexually in- timate with one man, and he has trouble with me doing that. He says it is ruining sex for us — he doesn't feel as close to me as he would fike because I give myself orgasms. Tam in love with this man and want to marry hi. Shouid [ step touching myself and fake orgasms ta please him? I'm afraid if T don't Fl lose him, and more than anything I don‘t want to lose him. {f I show him your column or give him a book, would that change his mind about this? A. You don’t give me much choice in answering you! You tell me he is so disturbed by your need for manua!} stimulation dur- ing intercourse that he may not marry you because of it. And you want marriage more than anything! Then you ask, “Should I lie?’’ [am betting you will lie. But, | am also wondering if you won't be dissatisfied with the sex in your marriage after you get that ring on your finger. Not all men are so stubborn an this point, No, I don’t think he would be receptive to my column or a book. Have you sugzested he use his hand so you won’t have to use yours? Q. I dated a younger man for five years. He was crazy about me, but I treated him badly, in part because I was afraid to commit to somcone younger. Now, he’s secing a woman closer to his age, and { want to get him back. She thinks we're just good friends, but we still have sex. He lies to her about his rela- tionship with me. Does that indicate he will come back to me? THE ALZHEIMER Society of B.C. is hosting the Forget-Me-Not Ball on Jan. 26 at Le Meridien Hotel in Vancouver. Entertainment for the evening will be pravided ty singer Linda Magno. The ball marks January as Alzheimer Month. A fundraiser, the proceeds from JOIN EAGLE Harbour Com- munity Centre for a family event on Wednesday, Jan. 30 between 5:30 and 7:30 p.m. Chilfie Willie's Winter Carnival should be a fun filled evening for all members of the family. Enjoy the penguin’s famous chillie dinner, join ing sing along Ball to benefit Alzheimer groups Winter carnival held in West Van HOMEQVIN CONDOMINIUM INSU® Dr. Ruth Westheimer ASK DR. RUTH A. So ma ‘y lies are told about sex! His willingness to lie to his new girlfriend is not proof that he will be willing to break up with her and come back to you, no matter how patient you are. The sex and fies are separate issues. If you want him back, you must take a strong stand now. Tell him you don’t want to share him. Q. My wife and I have been blessed with a good sex Sife and also good health into our 70s. She has never refused me sex, and we have experimented with positions and oral graiification, too. However, I do have a somewhat stronger interest in sex at this point in life than she does. I resolve this by masturbating occa- sionally, But | find masturbating tiresome. It takes me so long to reach orgasm. I understand this is nermal for an older mar. But is there anything 1 can do to speed up the process? A. First, bravo to you and your wife for having such a good sex- ual relationship. Yes, it is **norma!"’ for an older man to require more stimulation to reach orgasm. And you can “speed up’’ the process of masturbating to orgasm. Buy some sexually arousing reading material, like Playboy or Penthouse or, if vou prefer, erotic books. You might also rent an X-rated video. the ball will go towards Alzheimer research and a special in-house care program to train new volun- teers. 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