Counsellor ~
Hayden - Stewart may be

Freelance

reached at 261-6242 for -
appointments for individual,
family or group counselling.
His new office in the Plaza
International Hotel (open. —
Tuesdays only) is for the

convenience of North ‘Shore
residents.

Sink April

QUESTION: Did you notice
that this year there were
fewer of those dumb April
Fool jokes played than last
year? This has been a
welcome trend in the last
few years. Don't you think
- it's high -time we totally

ignore April first as a special |

day? I'm one who enjoys
Christmas and I observe
Easter, but I vote for sinking
April Fools’ Day. Do you
agree?

STEWART: You've asked

the wrong guy. I consider
April first a Holy Day. It’s
my birthday. Leave it alone,
Llike it!

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- QUESTION:
. concerned about . a friend.
who lost. her: ‘husband. nine ©
months ago... ‘She is 5% and

I know what a ‘ shock and.
loss it is to her because they
~ had. .a.. wonderful. relation-
“ship, but she is taking so long

‘to, get over her loss and at—

least start making some sort

of life for herself.. She has. —

- ‘gone into a shell and nothing
seems to interest ~her.. She
‘has no financial need for

working. Her two children

Megane ‘ off’ " “doing it
their way |

QUESTION: Im getting
‘awfully browned off by

--always having to-do -thirngs-

that other people tell me-to_
everything the way
somebody else wants me to
do it. Pil be 18 in August.

Yesterday I heard Sammy

Davis Jr. sing his old song, .

“Ti do it my way” and I
laughed right out loud
because I hardly ever do
anything my way. I've got
parents and teachers and my
priest and the police all
telling me ta do it their way.
TI guess that's the way it goes.

I suppose if P'm smart, I'll
do it their way and save
myself a whole load of
hassles. Sammy Davis may
be able to do it his way, but
sure as hell I can’t. Life ts all

. Kigged for me and I sure

don't like it. Is there a better
way than knuckling under?

STEWART: Sure there is
and I'm glad to hear that you

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-had‘ been married 27 years:
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“gre: ‘married and. live on the

‘prairies: So there seems to.
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oe t's “terrible ‘because she
was S very active person. I'm

also a little bit: worried about.
me because I am .
to lose patience with her and

Ym so afraid Yu
something critical. ~ .

_How can I help her and
how can I keep from heing

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. critical of her?

STEWART: I have a strong
feeling that there is no way

dare trying to explore i it. “Til “Tl choose to go along with

do it my way” is not a brave
--and noble announcement of
independence and
manhood. “It is, rather, a
simple and accurate
statement of how life works.

You say, “I hardly ever do.
And I.

anything my way”.
say, you ALWAYS do
everything “your: way”. If
you want to do something
“your way” and your parents
have another way for you to
_do it and you decide to go
along with their way, then

immediately and
automatically, “their way”
becomes your way! You

have CHOSEN to go “their
way”, so “their way” is now
your way. You CHOSE it!

Up above you say, “if I'm
smart, I'll do it their way and
save myself a load of
hassles”. Do you see what
you are saying? You are
saying, “my way is to save
myself a load of hassles, so

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to stop ) grieving _

ihiiryowgn J, oF anyone elsé
can tell your friend how long
she should grieve and at
what time she should stop

grieving and start “making
some sort of life for herself”.

It is counter-productive to
let someone know that you
expect them to hurry toward
an end to their grieving.
Your friend-can remember
as well as you how active she
was and how involved in life.
She will want to move
toward more
sooner or later.

their way—Tll let their way
be my way”. So, you put ‘the
avoidance of hassles in first
place and choose a. way of
doing it. But do it YOUR
WAY!

By the way, as you learn
more about “Tll do it my
way”, be sure you also learn
more about how to handle
hassles with a good quality of
cool. Be in charge of
YOURSELF in any hassle,
and never try to be in charge
of the other fellcw. A lot of
love can emerge from good,
clean, honest hassles.

Where does it say that the
object of life is to avoid
hassles? Perhaps if you stick
with “Ill do it my way”,
other people will learn that
they can bank on your way,
and be less fearful that you'll
screw things up. Perhaps
they'll even learn that your
top priority in life is no
longer to avoid hassles.

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- Give her all the time she
needs. Avoid making her

feel that she is failing by

taking as long as she is.

Perhaps the best help, you

can give her will come to her -
through your feeling as --
much as you can of what she .

is feeling.

If she senses you un-
derstand her feelings, it will
be support for her. Please

don’t try to rush her into |

brave recovery, because if it
comes too soon for her, it
will only be a phony show of
strength. Trust her.

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