QUESTION: A couple of years ago I| asked for and earned a bad reputation. I used some‘very stupid ways to make friends and to try to -keep them. I know now that those ways just don’t work. ask | Hayden Stewart though I have changed a lot, ~ the reputation fs still there. a When you are 17 and attending a mixed school, a But, in the meantime, even . Stewart’ ‘may be “reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, counselling. His new office in the Plaza - International Hotel {open Tuesdays only] is for the convenience of North Shore. . residents. family or group We share the same hungers QUESTION: What's so wonderful about spending. ‘An Evening with Hayden Stewart’? ; STEWART: I would say that is a darn good question. I get a little embarrassed once in a while about the very question you have asked. —You_may be surprised to learn that I did some thinking about your question even before you wrote it. I've ‘come up with this: PH enjoy the evenings with whoever comes because I feel good about’ sharing with them ~ some of these Principles of Living that | have tried and found exciting. 1 feel good too about knowing Lam not going to try to promote something or form an organization or make speeches about ‘the bes way" or “‘the only way.”” Nor are there any plans to belittle other ways and other princi: ples of living. What's so wonderful about spending An ‘Evening with Hayden Stewart? Wen, you'll know PU be enjoying it and, because you have the same hungers I have and th same interests in finding th sort of life you want and’ being the person you want to be, perhaps you'll enjoy it too. come with specific expectations, bul rather, abundant ecxpectan- cy, anything could happen! If you no Any cash purchase over $6 06 if you present itis coupon Sunday onty 21 Jan 70 ' ee CB REA Bey, eer Ae ") ee —- f a if iy aie ay ae Ry “DISCOUNT NOTE _ 7 OVER A MILLION _ AARE COLLECTORS , ITEMS i) We Duy. trada, sall ort all py. sth, lle th oo oked és "as QUESTION: For two years now, since I was 14, I have had an interest in politics ‘and have had it in mind that -I would like to go into politics for my life work. P've been planning to study law - and then move from ‘there into politics. But the more I look into it the colder my feet get. Fm learning more and more about how much of politics is dishonest and hypocritical and I don't think I'd be able to hack it. Sport and peanut butter QUESTION: Aren't sports supposed to be good for you? |! My parents have not discovered that yet. I'm thirteen and into. sports all year around. I really like team sports and play football, soccer, basketball and hockey. Besides being fun I think they are real character builders _don't you? But my dad keeps saying stupid things like, “Can’t you do anything but play games?” and my mother’s favorite is, “Why don't you get interested In something that isn't so dangerous?” They always want me to read or study or take up a musical instrument or some stupid thing. I can’t go to a practice or a game without them yelling at me. And another thing is they won't ever watch me play. The other guys’ parents come to the games but not mine. The other guys don't like their parents to come they say, but I think they are really glad they come. Well, my question is aren’t sports supposed to be good for you? STEWART: You've loaded your question! Sure sports . are good for you. So is peanut butter. But if you cat a heck of a lot of peanut butter and don't cat anything else it’s not too cool. When {ew Ger tee we oe me lem Be Redes . ANY CASH SPECIAL Paperbacks, Hardbacks 1247 Granvilie’ Mags, Records. comics { Truly espocially ‘The Book Lover's Paradise!'’ Canada's Largost Now & Used Bookstore N.S. News Ad Special bad reputation can be a terrible thing to live with. The girls sort of avoid me .-fexcept one or two who don’t help my rep a bit] and the guys. either ignore me or _ keep on one subject only. STEWART: The starting point in handling this sticky “situation” is in -your own attitude " toward yourself. We need honest politicians — And I don't like “my party. right or wrong”. There's GOT to be a better way. I think I'm beginning to back off because of all the infighting and dishonesty. What do you think about a young guy planning on going into politics? STEWART: If you go into politics, there is no doubt you will find a lot of these things you don't like. But, if I knew of a young politician who hates dishonesty and hypocrisy and infighting and _ your dad says, “Can't you do ‘anything but play games?” , he may ‘be saying, “I wish # you would do something else besides playing games.” If you read all day and were net interested in games at all, or if you played the sax by the hour and never did any homework and didn't have any friends and didn't play any games, you'd probably have your parents at you to do something else besides. I think they just want you to round out your whole life more than you have and there is nothing much wrong with that. I know a girl about your age that won't do anything else all day (if she can get away with it) except listen to Elvis records. All day! Her parents are screaming at her, “Can't you do anything else but listen to that jerk?" iu ! -™m., Sunday, nternationa Stix tahcheactct t. Van. B.C. O.K.. you feel like you used ‘some very stupid ways.” but you've learned they are no good for you and you've chosen new ways. \ hs Now then, ‘how do you feel about this new person, called You? What sort of reputation has she now in your eyes? Do you feel good about her as she is now? If you do, that t through a will be a great help for your during this waiting period » when the others begin to see you as you are now. with your new way. My daughter once came to me all upset because, **The kids are saying I'm pregnant. What will I do?"'l saidto her, prin, "Stick around for nine. month Give. them some time and get on “e so.: ” Your new ways are: -keep on cherishing those . or sports. But if you give any An eve with Hayden --.. speaking on the Principles of Living at 7:30 January 21, in the ballroom of the Plaza Hotel, Capilano at Marine ‘Drive, North Vancouver, followed by discussion. Suggested donation $4.00. 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There’s nothing wrong’ with Elvis, or peanut butter one of them your full time, you gradually come to hate them, “and,” (as Lily Tomlin says) “that's the truth!” You know how a coach likes to have a player who can switch from forward to defense in hockey, or a switch hitter in baseball or a running back who can also kick? Well all your folks are saying is hey man, get yourself good at sports, but also at having friends and also at getting good grades and also at being a good friend to have around at home, don't specialize so much that you miss out on lots of other fun besides sports. So, try being a sport and getting the whole picture. (PS. I was just like you at school, and I'm glad | got into other things too).