destroyed QUESTION; I have a very dear friend who has given me scads of pleasure throughout our friendship. He’s a tease though and when he discovered an especially touchy spot in my personality, he has time and again ribbed me about it. It got so it really bugged me and to my great surprise I really blew my top. I lost my temper. I told him to get out and stay out of my life. I swore and screamed. I knew I was hurting him, but I kept it up. And there went a very good friendship. It was all so stupid. His teasing, my touchinéss and then my temper. And now that he knows exactly how hard I was taking his teasing, rm going to leave it up to him to apologize and “make up”, ff it takes the rest of my life. I know I was wrong, but I'm sure not going to tell him that. I feel right about it too. He's the one that did the hurting. He's the one that will have to take the first hones gees = ad step in reconciliation. I feel sure about this. I guess I'm kidding myself a bit, otherwise why would I write you to say, “What do you think?” STEWART: I see what you. mean. If you felt sure of your ask -hayderrstewart Christmas Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242°~ for appointments for individtal, family or group counselling. His new office in the International Plaza Hotel (Open Tuesdays only) is for the convenience of North Shore residents. Security an illusion QUESTION: Your answer to “Get away from it all” (Aug. 27) was a home-ran! Your reader was com- menting on a friend “giving up his work and with it his security” as if “security” came as fringe benefit when you are working. Security. What security? You can only have very limited security, and .even. this is not guaranteed. Security because of wealth? Your wealth will make you envied; it will rouse the appetites of others; it will give you power but that power will be a threat to others. You'll be feared. When you are feared_or envied, beware! I remember an old movie in which Tony Randall was complaining about his bad luck: “Other. people start with nothing, ~ yet they succeed in making their DRAPERY FABRICS| INTRODUCTORY OFFER O% off YOUR OPPORTUNITY g . ° “ mark in life. But look at me! I was born with four million dollars in the bank and here I am, still with the same four tafllion. I can't get ahead in life”. Like the old saying goes: a man with six children is happier than the man with six million dollars, in that he doesn’t want any more of what he's got! STEWART: Thanks for your comments — I think. peieatynsee i. ot PSNR aan mnnnmreme teal liomntsotn ntannctocame TO BEAUTIFY YOUR HOME FOR XMAS AT LOW COST FREE ESTIMATES Fashion home IrcteRriors Lto Lynn Valley Rd & Mountain Hwys. N Van 988-1220 or 988-1525 decision you would not ask me, or anyone, “What do you think”? So, I guess it’s up to you. Do you agree with this? “Temper is what gets most of us into trouble. But pride is what there?”. keeps us . C13-Sunday News, September 28, 1980 AFTER SCHOOL CARE QUESTION: What we need on the North Shore is some facility that is available to care for kids who are too old for day-care, but who need to be looked after, especially for a couple of hours after school. Do you know of any such help that is available? STEWART: Phone Family Portraits Services of Greater Van- couver. (In West Van 926- 7851; in North Van. 988- 7128) and also Ministry of Human Resources. (West Van. 926-0114; North Van. Lonsdale office, 985-8721; North Van. Lynmour office, 986-2294) If you don’t get the help you need, write again to this column. for KEN OXENHAM PHOTOGRAPHY 988-0173 ~ Save $5 off any 7 Save $2 off any » OF an STEAMEX RENTAL RELINE COAT or JACKET Save money on any number of 2 or. 3 piece Mon'ror"tsidies™™ ("2 or 3 piece Men’s or | Ladies’ SUITS SUITS Save $1 on Each Suit Save $1 on Each Suit Expires 7 Expires o= ~~. Oct. 11, 1980 Oct. 11, 1980 Present Coupon with Garments Present Coupon with Garments Save money on any number Pod + i. 1. . awe : ant 4--------- mee ee ee mS ee Ge ee ee: ee ee ee ee oe oe oe — a ee ee, ae GE EP GE SEED Gee ee Save money on any number of Skirts - Sweaters Slacks Save 50c - Each Item 7] Expires ~~ Pe - Oct. 11, 1980 Present Coupon with Garments Save money on any number of Skirts - Sweaters Slacks Save 50c - Each Item ew Expires Oct. 11, 1980 Present Coupon with Garments en rr ee ce ee cee ce ee ee ee oe ween —— oe ame eee oe ae Save money on any number of Coat or Ski Jacket Save $1 on Each One Expires . Oct. 11, 1980 Present Coupon with Garments Save money on any numbes of DRESSES Save $1 on Each One _ Expires aii Oct 11, 1980 Present Coupon with Garments ALL HOUSEHOLD ITEMS 20” off SAVE - SAVE - SAVE Blankets - Drapes Sleeping Bags Expires ~ Oct. 11, 1980 Present Coupon with Garments Sane money on arty mernibes LEATHER COATS Save $2 on Each One _ Lxpires —i\sx~ Oct. 11, 1980 Present Coupon with Garments