C8-Wednesday, July 16, 1980 - North Shore News nw ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 forappoiniments for individual, family or group counselling. His new office in theslniernauonal Plaza Hotel (Open Tuesdays only) is for the convenience of North Shore residents ‘Pendulum’ problem QUESTION: Here is the pendulum thing that others have written you about. I also swing from one extreme to another. Right now I am trying to understand why I feel fall of self-worth one day and the very next day I am just as full of what | might call self-hate. And there is another one I'm trying to figure out. It's something the same, but it hits me differently. One day, I have a lot of self- confidence and respect for my own judgement, but the next day, I have no con- fidence at all and keep seeking out “authorities” to tell me what I should do or tell me what the answers are to the questions I am wrestling with. This second one, I have to deal with in regard to my painting, and my job, but most of all in working on my responsibility as a parent. The best Volunteer gardeners should use classifieds QUESTION: Seeing the “old codger” who wanted the garden to putter in has got his wish and there are quite a few people who were too late to secure his offered help, perhaps there are more “old codgers” who are looking for gardens. I'm wondering why the guys who want the gardens don't say so fn the classified ads. STEWART: A very very good idea! Because the letters (as of the date of this writing) are STILL coming in. Some of the letters of- fered payment, two offered lunch, and one even offered accommodation! So tiet's close this subject Don't write me or the column please. Run your ad and see what happens Pre-inventory sale of selected stoves July 17-July 31 1203 Marine Dr., W.V. 980-7116 ‘ illustration is about my painting. One day | just sail into it and enjoy getting it on the canvas. I feel free and confident and loose. Next day, I want to ask someone about colours or brushes or the size of the canvas or some shading of in- terpretation, and this “someone” I ask for help can not be a friend or relative, but must be some “authority” or “expert” on art. Why do I swing back and forth like that? STEWART: Knowing the “why” you ask about might be helpful to you, but probably not as helpful as affirming in the here and now that a lot of the time you are a person who has feelings of self-worth and confidence and that you are going to permit yourself to ex- perience them more deeply and more often. I am themselves assuming that you are not pretending you are con- fident, but really feel that way. If that is so — meaning, you are not pretending it — then those times when you feel self-worth and con- fidence are your reality. That is what you really are like. The times of timidity and wavering and seeking authoritative backing are not your reality and need not be given the time of day. Understanding this, you will be able, gradually, to permit yourself more times of self- worth (reality) and fewer times of self-put-downs. Incidentally, lest some of our readers get it in their heads that there is something askew. with anyone who seeks out the help of experts on such an_ exacting discipline as painting, allow me to invite such readers to read again your question. North Shore girls... have been appearing in the NEWS for years as Sunshine Girls) This photo feature is a-constant delight to readers, advertisers, and the models NEWS Sunshine Girl, If you want a paid modelling assignment as a | want to hear from you Sexually intimidated within the family QUESTION: I know there are places to call for bat- tered wives and kids, but what if she (a kid) has troubles about sex? I mean what if members of the family try to get something | going? Isn't thaf being battered in a way? STEWART: It sure is! Call that number you seem to know about and if you are not satisfied, call the Ministry of Human Resources in your area. (They're in the book). Don't wait around. If you are afraid of bringing on trouble for someone in the family, why not tell that person that there is to be absolutely no more of that whatsoever and that if there is any repeat performance you will im- mediately call those places and perhaps the police. And be sure to do it. The person who is bothering you is in dire need of help and perhaps your action, or threatened action, may bring the help that is needed. It is a mistake for you to do nothing and just hope for the best. 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