42 — Wednesday, January 22, 1992 ~ North Shore News

Set spouse straight before problems start

Q. 1 AM a man, married
eight years.

My wife has always told me I
have very large testicles. She
langhs and jokes about them. I
just tell her they're average size,
but I wonder if they ure too large.
She's even told her sister how big
they are and they've both teased

me.

I’ve had it with this joke. She's
made me so self-conscious that my
testicles fook bigger than ever to
me. Is there a problem with them
being large? Maybe I should be
worried.

A. Tell your wife to retire the
joke today! After eight years, it’s
time she found something new to
jaugh about.

Ask her how she would feel if
you had been making fun of her
genitals for the duration of your
marriage — and especially if you
had shared the ‘‘joke” with your
-brother! Believe me, she would
not have been amused. .

mueeemme be concerned about the size of

Dr. Ruth
Westheimer

ASK DR. RUTH

You have been too tolerant of
her mindless cruelty. Set her
straight before this causes real
problems between you. | seriously
doubt if you have any reason to

your testicles, but ask your doctor
anyway.

ft will make you feel better
when he tells you that men’s testi-
cles simply come in different sizes.

Q. I'm 35 years old and my
husband is 40. We've been mar-
ried for six years and lived
together for four years before
that.

Our sex life is not what it used
to be. He cecently got a large
promction, so he is tired and
preoccupied with work. When we
have sex, we have it too fast. He
has given up foreplay. It’s over
before I can even get into it.

Is there anything I can do to
slow him down? I’ve thought
about massages and other physical
relaxation approaches. What's

‘ best?

A. I am certainly in favor of
massages as a means of relaxing
the body. They can also be sen-
sual and arousing experiences. In
fact, anything you can do to relax

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available through North Shore
Community Services (NSCS).

A TUC shop volunteer is re-
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PATIENT DRIVERS with
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A SOCIABLE person who is
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for outings, including shopping
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Residents need help getting into
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him may help your sex life at this
point.

Go away together for the
weekend, or at least for one night.
Plan quiet, teisurely dinners or
weekend breakfasts together.

But the most important thing
you can do is this: Don't let him
penetrate until you’re ready. That
will break the pattern of
**quickie’’ sex quickly. Tell him
sex is not satisfying, and some-
times uncomfortable, when he
penetrates before you are suffi-
ciently aroused.

By allowing him to penetrate as
soon as he's ready, you are mak-
ing it too easy for him to rush
through sex with no thought to
your pleasure.

There's nothing wrong with
**quickie’’ sex occasionally — but
not consisrently. Perhaps because
he’s tired and rushed, he’s falien
into a habit. Stop him before you
find the habit has become a deep
rut!

Q. | am a married man. Many
times you have mentioned
vibrators in your column, end I
have seen references to them in
other sex articles and books.

My wife and I are interested in
purchasing one. But we five in a
small town. I have discreetly
looked for them in the pharmacy,
but didn't see any next to the
condoms or women’s sanitary
supplies. Probably they are kept
dehind the counter.

Where else can I flad a
vibrator? And is this what I ask
for, or do they have another
name? Is there a mail-order com-
pany that specializes in these?

A. Several mail-order com-
panies do specialize in sex toys,
such as vibrators. You can find
ads for them in men’s magazines
and other publications featuring
erotica.

Also, you can order vibrators
from some more general mail-
order companies. Look under
‘*massagers’’ rather than
vibrators.

It’s unlikely a small-town
pharmacist would have a supply
of vibrators under the counter
anyway. Don’t feel embarrassed
to admit your discomfort.

There’s nothing wrong with
wanting. to keep your bedroom
secrets to yourself.

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