C10 - Sunday News, February 21, 1982 Dealing with depths of depression (Note from Hayden: This fs the third time im a couple of months that writers have reprinted. Here is one of them). QUESTION: You don't ever say much about depression and I think it ts one of the most prevalent and bothersome “ailments” of our day. Once in a while I get feeling quite depressed and, as far as I know, there is mo apparent reason for my doing so. Everything fs the same today as yesterday except ‘that yesterday I felt great and today, with all my circumstances the same as before I feel plain lousy. | am bive. I lose interest in my any inspiration to climb out of it. Cam you tell me what brings om these bine “spells?” STEWART: Ready for a little hair-splitting? Depression is NOT an “ailment.” It is more ac- curate to think of it as a symptom. It will be useful for you to see that. Don't try to do anything about your depression (especially while you ARE depressed) but rather, (while you are NOT depressed) consider what is going on in your life that is leas than ing to your own higher self. As an aid to myself in my work as a counsellor, I have drawn up a littie list of things that seem to me to contribute to the appearance of the symptom that we call “depression.” | will mention the three that seem to surprise my clients the most. One is unresolved hostility. “Bad feelings” that are not dealt with, but rather, are simply put up with, are so contrary to the way of life we instinctively “know” is better for us, that they come to the surface in the form of the symptom - depression. There may be someone you have never forgiven or with whom you are still angry. Ring a bell? The second is post- ponement: If you have decided to write that letter, or pay that bill, or enroll in that course, or marry that girl, or join Greenpeace, or start to pray again, or write that apology, or beautify your sex life, or any of a thousand others, and have not yet done anything about - lo and behold - depression! The third is capping a lid on inspiration. Somehow, deep in your centre, you “know” you have been in- * spired by Life itself to do something or be something or give something and you have been afraid it was “just a pipe dream” or “wishful thinking” and so you have ignored it. Everything worthwhile that has ever been accomplished in the history of man has sprung out of our inspirations. Inhibiting them is a very effective way to fertilize our ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. Let Terry Fox rest QUESTION: If I were Terry Fox, I would resent the way my name was being bandied about. Even now, I think he is still being used. Don't you think we should let him rest? STEWART: Once Terry felt sure about his dream of rais- ing money for cancer resear- ch, he didn't seem bo be very interested in resting. He WANTED to be “used”, as you put it. He, himself, took the initiative in using himself for his purposeful dream. It may well be that Terry resented some of the things that were done and said, but he did not let them muddy up his dream. Despite everything that made life so difficult for him, he kept on keeping on. His fund must be inching up toward thirty million dollars because he was so willing to be “used”. “If I were Terry Fox”, I suspect the whole dream would have disintegrated after about half a mile of my running on TWO legs. ['m glad it was Terry Fox who was Terry Fox. 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