‘the books. call .
‘think it's true that “blondes.

+ have: more fun” and. do: you
" think Tshould switch?

“ANSWER: You: wrote that

letter: on a bet. Right? Do ©

out ‘on: their. ‘own and | we
have a= “house with four:
° bedrooms. | That means, of

course, ‘that we have lots of
room for visitors.

Good so “far, but what's

-happened is that a bachelor ©

friend of ours who lives in

the interior comes in to town

for a couple. or three days at

’ least once a month. Once, a

couple of years ago we
invited him to stay with us
and he now automatically
phones us that he's in town

QUESTION: My husband
and I have been separated
for about 10 months and now
he is pressuring me to “try
again”.

lam not at all convinced
that I want to do that. I'd like
to if I chought that this time
it would he better, but I
don’t. I am afraid {it would
just be the same old thing
and really I have had enough
of that. What do you say?

STEWARTs On the basis of
the little bit of information
you have given me, I find it

0 an unh-.
tion about

< ask hayden stewart |

you win if I reply? Or do you.
“lose?

..By-all:means. ‘switch! Then

you: won't ‘have to. wonder.
. But. why. a blonde? You'd get

“zeven ‘more attention if you

“shaved it off; or gave purple
atry. Try" em all. .

and is it ox for him to come
over.

We don't. want to hurt
him, but this has- become too
.much. Last time -he just
‘tured up at the door! How
can: we end this free loading
‘spree he’s on?

STEWART: Don’t worry too ©

‘much about “hurting” him.
His sort is hard to hurt. And

anyway, if more people had

been kind enough to “hurt”
him a bit years ago, he might
not have become a free-
loader.

Do him a big favour by
telling him you don't want to
do this anymore, except,
perhaps, in emergencigs. Let

vv “hy

difficult to say anything very
constructive. The only
strong feeling I have is that
as long as you feel as you do,
you should not get together
again.

Having said that, may I
suggest that you pay at-
tention to one particular
thing you say in your letter,
which is, “I'd like to (try
again) if I thought that this
time it would be better”.

Perhaps you and = your
husband might be willing to

Tired of reading
about ‘the
love principles’

QUESTION: T['m_ getting
tired of reading so much
about the Love Principles!

STEWART: Soam I!

"Reading WoL LAs ove
Principles is cat partic arly
rewarding. Where the fun

lies is in PRACTIOING

them.

_see him next time.

Freelance Counsellor Hayden Stewart ‘may , be reached at
261-6242 for appointments. for individual,-
counselling. His new office in'the International Plaza Hotel (Open _
Tuesdays only) is for the convenience of North Shore residents.

family or. group

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Do jlondes have more { fun?

oo QUESTION: | I'm. “32° and
te 8 .. what? .
. - striking brunette”, Do: you.

_ Switch, ‘switch, switch.

Thea come back. -home. to:

you ‘and talk it over. You'll
probably have to: start up a

whole new companionship

with’ "yourself — ‘but that’s

_ where the real fun lies! ~~

him know that you don’ t
want him. ever to come
without notifying you and

- that if and when he does.
phone, to remember: that it
. may be the very time you

have plans, or that you
simply want. to’ be alone and
that you will tell him so when
he calls.

Tell, him. you had no; in- LL.
visits

tentiogs. of his
becoming. regular things | and

“that ‘you Want now to work |

on a different basis. If you
don't hear from him for a
month or two, give him a
call and tell him you've been
missing him and you'd like to

-

Woman not ready
to ‘try again’

get some _ professional
counselling help in en-
deavouring to learn’ what
each of you might doand be,
differently, that would
prepare you to bring more to
the relationship than you did
before.

When each of you has
arrived at the changes you
would like to bring to the
marriage, the new dimen-

sions of love you are willing:

to offer, then compare notes
and see if you are ready to
talk it through with con-
sideration and mutual
respect, from every angie
that has occurred to you.

That will take some time
— perhaps weeks, perhaps
months and that time may be
one of the things you need.

One small guideline:
When you say, as you did in
your letter, “I'd like to,
if...", be sure the rest of the
sentence does not start with
“you”. Make sure it starts
with “F". Gotit?

Don't be thinking, “I'd like
to if you...”, but stick with
“I'd like to if 1...". Wise
choosing to you!

QUESTION: Tm almost 6

now and there's a trivial little |
‘ matter that is gnawing-away

“at me and I hoped you might -

have the insight to make ali
‘appropriate sueecation «| for

me to consider.

rm rather young looking,
even if I say it myself. Others

‘the closet and be 66 |

any: one there > a know. It
there is, I-put-in ‘the regular
fare, but if ’'m “safe” Tpat is
the reduced fare.

ANYONE. know Be am ‘over

seem to think so too and I |

find. it embarrassing to use“ STEWART: tt will be more |
fun than you think when-you

My ‘Pharmacare. card, get |
' reduced ° ‘rates: on the bus,,
ete. . _ : .

va: NEVER ‘be able to go
into one of those restaurants
798, mentioned that “give
pecial rates for “seniors”
(aply word}).

_ The plain fact ts I don't
..want people to know I am 65 |

. you,

decide to “come out of. the

” closet”, One of your facts is
that you are 66. (Or are-you |

REALLY 67 or 68?). And the
very best way to handle
being ‘66 years of age is to be
your 66-year-old self.

Being. yourself means,. for

‘woman. Is that shameful? |

years old! When I wait fora ,

bus, if I am all alone, I get _
the ‘regular fare’ into one
hand and ‘the reduced fare in
the. other hand and ~ then
‘when I'm aboard I quickly
look around to see if there's

west

It’s so "much more
rewarding to BE your age

than it is to ACT your age, or

to ACT as though you were
younger (or older) than. you
_ really-are. Let. the good news

in

“WESTRYNN

* Westlynn celebrates summer for the next month — letting the
sunshine in the mall and the values out to you!

Here’s what the month looks like:

June 14th-16th. Just in time for Father’s Day! ~~

All the summer merchandise that Dad may need for the “family
fun’’.is on display in the Mall. Improving the house, the property [J
or your recreation —- it's on display for your viewing. You may
find just the item Dad’s been talking about — on display!
Everythings arranged for your convenience. Enjoy the ‘summer

in front of Maxim’s.

restaurant”

THE ‘‘REAL COOL”’’ SUMMER SIDEWALK SALE

Summer Living!

Starts July Sth

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I feel silly: about ‘all these :
; shenanigans,. but there you
are... Iam: Joathe. to have...

: are: 68 ‘or 74 still: ae
“people don’t catch on’ that

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WINNERS!

“WHAT THE HECK IS THAT?” CONTEST
Answer: "A glass ball in the hold of a brass claw from an antique

table”.

Congratulations to — Mr. J. Wheatley, 908-2555, Whiteley

Court, N. Van.; Lorraine M. Wills, 25-3550 Adanac St.,
Phyilis M. Croker, 319-1335 o7t St.,

Kluyskens, 328 E. 15th St., N. Van.

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