_ Tuesdays only) of . - convenience of. North: ‘Shore oi = residents. ee oS - Freelance Counsettor Heyden. Stewart. may. “be. reached | at 261-6242 for appointments for family _ _or group His new sy in the Plaza International : — Hotel . everyone. in, my lesrly . smokes | ‘and. ‘drinks. and is — ~° pretty . heavil into: pot. I. : “don't smoke, nor do I drink, . batence in'a while I enjoy _ smoking dope with them, I never have felt like an: odd hall with them and they have | _.. never once tried to get me to smoke or drink. They don’ even tease me about being 20 nae Really the: ‘biggest ‘thing “you feel good and-are honest enough’ to'say it's ‘a relief to _be without. the: responsi much straighter than they” are. They.do their thing and they are quite happy with me doing my thing. They are good friends and -until’ just recently I have felt quite comfortable with them. Now | there’s.a change that really bothers me. They have started sniffing coke. I was sorry when they started it, but I thought, well, just like before, let them do what | they want, I don’t have to go. ‘along with them. But it wasn’t thag easy. For some reason or other ihey are quite difierent with coke. They. want me to “try” . i They almost seem to | resent me not doing it with thom, It changes the whole picture. Hayden I don’t WANT to do coke! But these friends, who have always been so good at everyone ‘yunning: their own lives are really pressuring me to join | them in their new kicks. What shall Ido? | + STEWART: It's your life. I don’t care if they were pressuring | you asparagus or go to ‘church or - | a nudist or join the symphony . society — it’s "YOUR ‘life. Hang in there | and continue making your own choices. They may feel ‘coke, is .more. risky and dangerous | ‘than their previous tastes and that your - _Yemaining out of the risk. is something of. a threat. to them, Continue to’ be as tolerant ‘as. “you . have’ been, but just as s decisive as ever. | : the drinking. - but E feel awful about it to eat. _ but. all: three of then make me - _ unhap iy: unhappler. ‘phout - them: In Treally “being f free to D tay away fire church, and. yet ye: th terrible feelim avoiding some bs very very Ame is: tor. ‘the. .Y devil and. then’ there’s the “healthy brood of kids. " against them is that they are a normal brood of kids. The ‘biggest thing in favour of - them is that they are a nonmnal brood of kids. At any given hour. I could be the - mother of a rotten trio of adorable youngsters, or the mother of an adorable trio of : rotten youngsters. . flexiblet I fatty intended | to start this letter simply by telling | you I have three kids and getting to the problem, bat T got carried away, Anyway -- . here's the problem. They're all away. . to camp .-- haliciujaltti. Well, - mother yell hallelajah when her kids go off to camp for three weeks? The hallelujah is an honest expression of a myseul tkat E . mearly ail the atrls 7 know do: ~. those - same three . things, 2 oo A oir ‘gure. LL -would.: feel y akes the: ' Ihave been 7 “relations, t couple of. years. I 1. having | ‘Sexual — a “Tbecawae” eI While you ar ‘thought fe ‘was a. terrible — “thing to do. So let's: forget ‘180. love sex oa - QUESTION: L have. “three 3 Ei. ‘Nearly. ‘all of the time, | one out of the three | is an: angel. (They. seem to take © turns -- I-don’t mean one of © them fs always an- angel). ae. ‘While one is being an angel, - another of the three is. being - won't think you” are’ some there, you have it. How can a good oa sexual involvement and need todo. some ‘clear thinking le about WHY you: feel-“‘bad” ‘Tr and - “sinful”. Perhaps - in- i Ve, tellectually you” n0- longer. “ "i. hold’ to’ the. teaching’ ‘and — - conditioning — you “teceived » de it. that: n definitely wrong for: you; and . -you. . absence . a from . about your.sexual because’. Of. ‘your traditional : religious ‘ Stance, : acer abou ut > perti ps ; ae FEELINGS - ar not. in line. with. that. intellectual . 2 decision. and “deep” ‘in ‘your - - heart. you. sense ‘that. the. ‘concerning | ‘Sexual activity - you . are. ‘KNOW ui - experiencing now. is just. not - Ww “really for. you. If ‘you: also: 4 * _your back o certain. aspects : of spiritu 1 made sex - quite: th church © sid . you may feel: suulty your » heart-about bein ally: «how I feel. And GUILTY is. : an honest. expression: about | chow F- feel: about. being: Slad » they’re gone." I'm: ecstatic - about “my. husband - and | Te “being: on our own”, but I feel so punk. about | "having | a that ‘sort of-attitude about: . the kids being : away. T almost _third one who at the moment. 4, could go one. way. or the “other. In ‘other: words, | my “Kids: seem: to ‘combine. too ‘make up