For woman with TV addict husband QUESTION: With all the rewards and trophies that are given away before, during and after the NHL season and playofis and Stanley Cup, there fs one important one that is missing. In fact there are two. The second most im- portant award that should be lovingly added to the almost endless list is one to be given the superwife whose every husband watches solitary play-off and cup game during which she does not give way to sulking or screaming or physical violence of leaving town. Even more prestigious should be the award that goes to the wife whose husband is just as hooked on the NBA playoffs as he is on the NHL. Added points, to ascertain to whom the award is to be given, should go to the wife whose husband is also nuts about Men’s and Women's Golf, and Men's and Women’s Tennis. Don't you think those trophies should be awarded suitable fanfare recognition? STEWART: Ob I do, I do! My wife says I do not qualify for making any sensible response to your letter. So, Yl just say, “Cheer up!” because there'll be some changes made real and quick-like. Soon he'll be deep into baseball and football and that will be a ‘welcome change for you that C7 - Wednesday, May 25, 1983 - North Shore News here is the ‘Superwife’ trophy? will help you feel you are not inarut. — Don’t consider divorce and remarriage. With your luck you'd probably marry some guy who is hooked on wrestling or Jerry Falwell or Gilligan's Island. ask hayden stewart Freelance Counsellor Hayden Ste wart may be reached at 261-6242 for appointments for individual, family or group counselling. TIRED OF DECEIT Wife ‘blown away’ by cheating husband QUESTION: I was almost blown away when my husband told me the other day something that I still find almost impossible to believe. He coolly told me that he has been in.an affafr for almost six months and is awfully tired of deceiving me and sneaking around. So he- wants to be in the open about it with me and carry on with it!! He says, almost as though that makes ic O.K., that it is nothing more than a_.physical reladonship and that he loves only me. Mr. Stewart, he fs serlous! Without even thinking tt over, 1 told him immediately that what he wants is absolutely an- thinkable. I said there's not one single slim chance I would even consider giving my consent to such an arrangement. I think there fs no question at all that I am right. I feel just as strongly that he ts wrong. Surely you mast also feel I am right. What will you say to us? STEWART: My upbringing, conditioning and personal value system would prompt me to say that he is wrong and you are night. However, by saying that, I would make no contributon to cither of you and would certainly delay your finding your own resources on which you must ultimately rely. I think, if you were more sure of your EVERYDAY IS SENIORS DAY 15% OFF All drycleaning done on the premises (bulk cleaning not included) CAROUSEL CLEANERS Park Royal North 922-4811 own resources for directing your life you would be less likely to ask someone else if you are “right” or “wrong”. One aspect of the question you are working out seems to be that you are reluctant to accept the fact that YOU are your ultimate authority. Is it your ultimate authority that is saying, “... there's not one single slim chance I would even consider giving my consent to such an arrangement”? You seem to know what sort of marriage you want and he is not ready for it. Nor are you ready for what he wants. Those two factors may signal an end to your marniage. Or they may signal a beginning. *Supporting Our Seniors The advertisers below entitle any senior citizen to a minimum 10% advertised merchan- discount on SOLID FIROR MAHOGANY FRONT DOORS 149” e INTERIOR DOORS e SKYLIGHTS THERMOGLASS WwooD WINDOWS You CAN afford wood ‘windows! Call us for a quote. Our prices compare favourably with cold aluminum windows. e MIRROR CLOSET DOORS ¢ DOOR HARDWARE ¢ BAY WINDOWS ¢ PREHANGING SERVICE ¢ PATIO DOORS ¢ HUGE SELECTION WALKER DOOR pt. 1380 PEMBERTON ST. 985-9714 NORTH VANCOUVER SHOWROOM OPEN 9 TO 5 MON TO SAT dise in their stores. Seniors must show pharmacare card. GIFTS OF ALL DESCRIPTIONS COLLECTORS ITEMS 1 0 % discount to senior citizens THE STORE THAT KEEPS NORTH VANCOUVER TICKING AND I ALKING Lamond and Gemstone 1598 Lonsdale Ave N V 20% OFF ALL ITEMS RATHER HS = Suited ouas Specialists LTo Sunroot Special tte $ 1 69.95 inetatior wrt tan arsed lato ne 988-4717 (eral Caw me) 1 tare Aa atonal! Hac aurt ages free ve Bere) pecoeingetly 152 Pemberton Ave N V 980-4804 Items on this page are discounted 10% for seniors.