38 ~ Wednesday, March 7, 1990 - North Shore News LIFESTYLES Don't do anything you don't really like Q. YOU HAVE at different times advised women to do nothing sexually that repels them but to consider that their attitude may change at some time. Then they will feet all different about granting some sexual favor that has always made them want to barf and want a divorce and that they are sure is wrong in the sight of all that is holy. Does this variability apply to things like theft and murder? 1 mean, have we no rules we must stick by, or are we just quivering jellies with nerves and feetings? A. Whether you are one or the other I leave to you. At no time have 1, in my recollection, told anyone that obeying the Ten Commandments is just a passing thing, to be dumped when feelings change. 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